Does sex on the first date make you a whore?

[colleen_lee]

Posted: 5/24/08 at 12:31pm

[PalJoey]

Posted: 5/24/08 at 12:33pm

Did you take money? No. Then, no.

Will sex on a first date get you a second date? That's the question.

[colleen_lee]

Posted: 5/24/08 at 12:40pm

I knew someone on this board would have the answer!

[Bettyboy72]

Posted: 5/24/08 at 12:43pm

PJ is right. Whores are people who take money for sex. People have all different levels of attitudes towards sex. The key is to be yourself and a find a person who gets you sexually. If they don't call back because you knocked boots on the first date, then they probably have issues and you are better off without them. You are looking for the person who respects you and calls you back based on who you are. Pretending to be a prude when you ain't only gets you in trouble in the long run. You end up with someone you aint sexually compatible with. Fly your freak flag.

[Jane2]

Posted: 5/24/08 at 12:44pm

I always had sex on the first date-even back in the 1900's. What's the sense of continuing on in the relationship if you're not physically attracted, that's what I always say. And I always got a second date. And a third, and a long relationship. That's how it worked with me!

[SueleenGay]

Posted: 5/24/08 at 12:59pm

But Jane, you ARE a whore.

Seriously, I don't think it makes you a whore to have sex on a first date. Or even "easy". Sometimes the chemistry is there and it works. However, I do believe that in the long run that the relationship that started out as sexual, that is BASED on sex, is more likely to fail in the end. Ask yourself, if I could NEVER have sex with this person again would I still want to spend the rest of my life with him or her?

[YouWantitWhen????]

Posted: 5/24/08 at 1:03pm

If you wanted it and had a good time - nah.

If you did it because be bought you a really nice dinner and you wan another one another night ... perhaps.

[SueleenGay]

Posted: 5/24/08 at 1:09pm

As long as it was at least Red Lobster or Bubba Gumps Shrimps Factory I don't see anything wrong with offering him your awesome blossom!

[SueleenGay]

Posted: 5/24/08 at 1:11pm

Or enjoying his Jalapeno Poppers!

[tazber]

Posted: 5/24/08 at 1:26pm

YWIW got it right on the money!

(no pun intended)

[KrissySim]

Posted: 5/24/08 at 2:02pm

It depends on what culture you are from. Obviously, for the majority of people on this board the answer is NO.

However, if you go into certain traditional Asian or East Indian societies, or the Islamic world, the answer would be YES. Even the act of dating in some cultures would brand a woman as a whore and make her an outcast, even punishable by death.

[Namaste]

Posted: 5/24/08 at 2:05pm

The question is: Does sex on the first date make HIM a whore?

Why don't we ever think about the men being gigantic sluts?

(Gigantic sluts? Sign me up!)

[KrissySim]

Posted: 5/24/08 at 2:13pm

Well, once again, in some societies only women are whores. A promiscuous man is acceptable, even considered enviable and honored.

Now if a man does it for money, I'm not sure of that, it would be unusual at least, but a whore...? I guess it would depend on whether he was doing it for money with a man or a woman. I don't there would be a problem with a woman, since women are second class citizens anyway.... Interesting question though.
(Thankfully, I stem from a more open - minded culture, though my ancestry is otherwise.)

Anyway, it doesn't make HIM a whore.

(Unless he wants to think of himself as a whore, but that's his choice.)

Updated On: 5/24/08 at 02:13 PM

[SueleenGay]

Posted: 5/24/08 at 2:15pm

Are you saying your ancestors would stone you to death?

[KrissySim]

Posted: 5/24/08 at 2:18pm

In my case, no. But I would certainly be an outcast.

[Namaste]

Posted: 5/24/08 at 3:09pm

You should be stoned.

[Jane2]

Posted: 5/24/08 at 3:11pm

When I moved to California (Sausalito) I purposely became a whore for a while as an experiment. I didn't enjoy it that much.

[Unknown User]

Posted: 5/24/08 at 3:12pm

Krissy is exactly right.
A girl must be like a blossom
With honey for just one man.
A man must be like honey bee
And gather all he can.
To fly from blossom to blossom
A honey bee must be free,
But blossom must not ever fly
From bee to bee to bee.

[SueleenGay]

Posted: 5/24/08 at 3:20pm

Joe, is that Sylvia Plath or Dr. Seuss? I forget.

[KrissySim]

Posted: 5/24/08 at 3:23pm

" You should be stoned."

I don't have much time for getting stoned, really. Too much work to do.

[tazber]

Posted: 5/24/08 at 3:41pm

There's always time for getting stoned.
And there's always room for jello.

[PalJoey]

Posted: 5/24/08 at 3:45pm

It's from, The King and I, Sueleen!

Colleen, I forgot to ask; Was the first-date sex good? Do you WANT a second date out of him?

[nygrl23]

Posted: 5/24/08 at 3:46pm

"However, if you go into certain traditional Asian or East Indian societies, or the Islamic world, the answer would be YES. Even the act of dating in some cultures would brand a woman as a whore and make her an outcast, even punishable by death."

Yes, beware of cultures that are terrified of the bagina.

[Unknown User]

Posted: 5/24/08 at 4:02pm

Oh please can we not talk about bagina? I have that nightmare where the bagina is chasing me down a tunnel and snapping at me. I always wake up crying.

[DG]

Posted: 5/24/08 at 4:07pm

It's easier just to skip the date and go for the sex.

Cheaper, too.