A Strange Invitation

[wexy]

Posted: 9/29/05 at 6:29pm

When I was at Hofstra, one of my best friends was one of my frat brothers Tom. When he got married in 1980, people thought that I might be in the wedding party, we were that close. Instead I wasn't even invited.

One of the big disses of my life. People who were less close in our group were invited. I never found out why and I haven't seen him since 82. My sister and him and have the same pediatrician for their kids and has seen him over the years.

Today I received an invitation to attend his 50th birthday party in November. I haven't heard from him and Lorie in 23 years, now how weird is that?

Posted: 9/29/05 at 6:31pm

He was secretly in love with you, and is now ready to come out and see you again.

[Beergoggles]

Posted: 9/29/05 at 6:32pm

sounds strange... is it a suprise party?

Posted: 9/29/05 at 6:33pm

That's very strange.

[#1Elphie]

Posted: 9/29/05 at 6:35pm

Weird...are you gonna go?

[ZONEACE]

Posted: 9/29/05 at 6:35pm

i say **** on the invitation and mail it back.

[Elphaba]

Posted: 9/29/05 at 7:05pm

I agree with zoneface..........you weren't important enough for his wedding.......and his 50th birthday should NOT be important to you...AT ALL!

[Bluemoon]

Posted: 9/29/05 at 7:14pm

He probably isn't throwing himself the party, so someone else must have made up the invitation list. I wouldn't go. You'll have to send your regrets because you'll be on a fabulous cruise. Or something.

[wexy]

Posted: 9/29/05 at 7:39pm

Since I'm a writer, there is some good potential material here.
Its not a surprise because the invitation is going to his home address.

Of course since I look more 35 than approaching 50, it would interesting to see how my peers have aged.

Its so freaking odd. Then twenty minutes later when I went to the supermarket, I ran into this former Playboy bunny that I dated a coupleof times. Now she can me my date to the party and I would really freak them out.

Updated On: 9/29/05 at 07:39 PM

[Dre2387]

Posted: 9/29/05 at 7:43pm

is the former playbunny part true? if it is, i would go. otherwise, either not go or call him up and confront him. confronting is always good, although it may not sound good at first.

[Bluemoon]

Posted: 9/29/05 at 7:49pm

Oh, well the Playboy bunny part sounds promising (does she still look hot?). If you go:

1) don't give him a gift
2) rush right back here and tell us everthing

[wexy]

Posted: 9/29/05 at 7:56pm

Dre, the Playboy bunny thing is true, she worked in clubs and was never in the mag but she has a grandmother's personality in a bunny's body. Kvetching and whining where I parked,etc.

Bluemoon, there is no way in hell I would bring a gift.
There could be a good story here.

[Dre2387]

Posted: 9/29/05 at 11:03pm

still, go for it. also, like you said, you appear to be 35, not 50. Rub that in a bit.

hey, it wil lbe interesting if you go and he doesn;t remember you at all. and you have to intorduce yourself all over again. lol. losing his mind? lol.

[FindingNamo]

Posted: 9/29/05 at 11:08pm

Hofstra was never known for its English department, was them?

[ConvinceMe2]

Posted: 9/29/05 at 11:14pm

You know, everything is life isn't so black and white. Who knows why you weren't in or invited to his wedding? Perhaps it was something silly that seemed important, 25 years ago. Does it matter after all these years? Did you care for and like this person? Would you like to not waste another minute of your life, not being friends with him? Let bygones be bygones. Go! Renew the friendship and don't waste another second of your life over something so petty. Or don't go and let the past be the past. To go to the party so you can, in some form or fashion, get some revenge, seems utterly stupid and immature to me. Of course, I'm not implying that's what you're doing, just stating my feelings on the matter. Good luck with your decision.

[Kringas]

Posted: 9/29/05 at 11:18pm

Yeah, I think I agree with ConvinceMe2. Sometimes there are reasons leave or reenter your life. Perhaps call ahead or send a letter or email. It could be that he's just trying to reconnect with an old friend.

Or he could be dying. I dunno.

[wexy]

Posted: 9/29/05 at 11:48pm

The funny thing is that my sister called and asked "Have you heard from anyone?" And I havn't heard from my current crop of friends in ages and now all of sudden I get invited to this party and run into this other woman.

I'm going to go. Just two months ago I was at a Cubs-Yankees game at the Stadium and a woman waved at me. It was an old girl friend who had dumped me in Chicago eight years earlier whom I hadn't seen since. She told all her friends in front of me that she was doing some other guy.

She said that the way she'd felt guilty for eight years about how she had treated me. Now that I thought was it was kind of cool that it bugged for so long. She eviscerated me at the time but hey time heals all. I'm in touch with her now. She was the basis for a story I just submitted to be published. So every experience is new material.

[SueleenGay]

Posted: 9/30/05 at 2:41am

I say go, take him a toaster wrapped like a wedding gift and say, "Thank God you invited me to this party! I have been holding on to this for 25 years waiting for the right occasion to give it to you!"

[Dre2387]

Posted: 9/30/05 at 3:08am

that is funny sueleengay! And something that should be done. lol.