Any advice on long distance relationships?

[CMoore]

Posted: 3/1/09 at 9:54pm

My bf and I live in different states, about 3.5 hours apart. Anyone have any experience with this, and made it work?

[jasonf]

Posted: 3/1/09 at 11:00pm

What specific problems are you having? My fiancee and I have spent our entire relationship as long distance (can't WAIT till she moves here in May). It works because we talk every day, sometimes multiple times a day, but at least once each night and we get to see each other just about every weekend. The summer two years ago when we hardly saw each other was VERY rough, but we managed by talking all the time. If you love each other, you find a way to make it work - though it does help having a time when you know the long distance part will end.

[JerseyGirl2]

Posted: 3/1/09 at 11:28pm

Mine lives in another country, six time zones away. I win.

We are completely open and honest with each other. Lots of talk and video time. I don't know. It just works for us. The only real issue we have is when my work seems to ooze outside the hours I am supposed to work. It cuts into our couple time. She deserves my attention, especially when I have promised it to her. And with a booty like that, how could I ever ignore her?
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[FindingNamo]

Posted: 3/1/09 at 11:29pm

I agree. If it doesn't work out, if one of you says the long distance thing's too hard, you just don't love each other enough and you don't want it bad enough.

[StickToPriest]

Posted: 3/1/09 at 11:54pm

Sometimes I am reminded why I love Namo. This is one of those times.

[CapnHook]

Posted: 3/2/09 at 12:13am

My roommate's gf is on tour but has managed to visit 3 times in the past 5 months. They talk every day and have been together for a year now. Still going strong.

I think long-distance relationships just depend on too many variables to determine whether or not they can work.

[ray-andallthatjazz86]

Posted: 3/2/09 at 12:21am

Was in a three year long distance relationship. Did not work out because neither one of us could move. He lives in LA and I lives in FL though, so that's completely different than a 3.5 hour drive. I guess if you both have an awareness in terms of the time it'll take for you to live in the same place (ie finishing school, finishing a contract, etc), it has a higher chance of survival than something that will indefinitely be long distance. Also, if there's enough trust and commitment you'll probably be fine.
I'm still a big advocate against long distance after my three year fiasco.

[KrissySim]

Posted: 3/2/09 at 12:28am

I've done 11 time zones before. There's usually a short period of readjustment when you get together again, but if you are really compatible and want it to work, you'll find a way.

Past tense, yes. I haven't yet found a "permanent" . So I enjoy the "temporaries". I guess it's called serial monogamy.