Don't you hate it when people back out on you?
Don't you hate it when people back out on you?
Don't you hate it when people back out on you?#0
Posted: 12/11/05 at 10:44amToday's opening for my show, H2$. I'm Miss Jones. I'm very excited. One of my closest friends promised she'd come. Then, teacher walks up to friend in school and talks about community service opportunity, same place, same day (we have a requirement-15 hours by January, 30 hours by the end of the year. My friend has 14-ish). I tell her, "You asid you'd come to my show, so you can't do it." She says, "Ok." Last night,she IMs me-"What time is your show?" I tell her, and she says "Okay. I wouldn't miss your show for the world." Then this morning, some of my other friends call me-"*insert name* is not coming!" I weas shocked, so I called her and asked her, and she said "Oops. I told the community service people I'd do it, and then I realized I had your show, and I can't back out." I have every right to be pissed off, right, especially seeing as my mom PAID FOR HER TICKET. She'll try to come a different day, but I doubt she will. Ugh.
re: Don't you hate it when people back out on you?#1
Posted: 12/11/05 at 10:53am
MFL-
I'm sorry. That sort of thing happens to all of us and I agree, it sucks...a lot. It's like you get so much energy that you know your friend is going and that gets you pumped up and then...it goes down the drain. Don't let it. Go out on that stage, and give it all you got!! You'll may be sad that she missed it but she will miss how wonderful you are!!
I'm sure, in the back of her mind, she feels bad about it.
Don't let her let you down.
If your mom paid for the ticket and it was expensive, I'd have her pay you back. However, if it wasn't expensive, I would just leave it go and from now on, make her pay for her own ticket.
Break a leg!
re: Don't you hate it when people back out on you?#2
Posted: 12/11/05 at 10:55am$9. Not bad, but still...it's just the principle of the matter. I had been planning this for at least a month.
re: Don't you hate it when people back out on you?#3
Posted: 12/11/05 at 11:39am
I remember asking some friends to see the RENT movie with me. When the big opening day cme, none of them could make it, and the only one that could was grounded.
Kids that are not well-behaved. You just have to love them. Yes, people backing out on you just sucks. I have been planning the event for quite a while then as well.
"I'm not in Bambi and I'm not blonde!" - Idina Menzel
re: Don't you hate it when people back out on you?#4
Posted: 12/11/05 at 11:47amThat EXACT thing happened to me. I was in a show over the summer that I was ridiculously proud of. Literally, it had been the best performance of my life. I told all my friends to come and they all said of course. One friend said she'd definetly come the last day but didn't. And didn't apologize. Our friendship has been pretty strained since then. A lot of people who don't do theatre don't understand how important getting support is to young actors.
re: Don't you hate it when people back out on you?#5
Posted: 12/11/05 at 11:57am
"A lot of people who don't do theatre don't understand how important getting support is to young actors."
That's very well-said, dramadork. MFL, I would let your friend know that you are disappointed, and why, with maturity and class. Explain that acting is something you love, but that you pour your heart and soul into and that is very draining. If you approach her like an adult ("this is how you made me feel, whether you intended to or not") and without accusations ("you missed my show, you $@#!"), she should respect your opinion and also start to see things from your point of view as well. I've been backed out on - but I've also backed out on others, and I know that in those cases, I just didn't have any idea how important my presence was to the friend that I let down.
Realize, though, that at the end of the day, you're doing this for YOU, and nothing can take THAT away. There's no greater reward than that. 
re: Don't you hate it when people back out on you?#6
Posted: 12/11/05 at 12:12pm
this too shall pass, My Fair Lady........while it may hurt now, in the grand picture of your life it is very minor.
This is one of the ways we learn exactly who our friends REALLY are.
re: Don't you hate it when people back out on you?#7
Posted: 12/11/05 at 12:21pmYou learn, eventually, to accept your friends for who they are, and what you can rely on them for and what you can't, and not expect more from them. And occassionally, they will surprise you. My roommate is one of my best friends... we talk about everything, share the good and the bad, and are very honest. But he's also a flake... I used to get mad at him when he'd stand me up or forget our plans. Now I NEVER make plans that involve just him.
Experience is what you get when you didn't get what you wanted. - Randy Pausch
re: Don't you hate it when people back out on you?#8
Posted: 12/11/05 at 2:08pm
day, exactly how I meant to say what I said.....you just are so much more eloquent.
GO SEAHAWKS!
re: Don't you hate it when people back out on you?#9
Posted: 12/11/05 at 2:12pm
My best friend is married and works and always has a lot going on, and it's hard to see her on a regular basis, but when I have a performance, she's ALWAYS there.
And if the time came that she couldn't be, she'd certainly tell me herself.
re: Don't you hate it when people back out on you?#10
Posted: 12/11/05 at 2:41pm
It's probably one of the most horrible feelings in the world...
I know it.
I was supposed to go to a concert in Columbia, SC (it's about 3 hours from me) and then we were gonna go to Atlanta for the weekend. Well, a day before my friend bails on me. So I couldn't go. I couldn't afford to go by myself.
And then this past summer I was taking a huge road trip (turned out to be 1600 miles) and two friends of mine both bailed on me. I was put with all the driving.
But what was awesome about that week, was that I had time to myself and was able to think and sing loudly in the car with nobody to bother...
keep smiling,
bika
re: Don't you hate it when people back out on you?#11
Posted: 12/11/05 at 8:45pmYup. I've been backed out on many times. Including today. It bothers me, a lot.
The choice may have been mistaken, The choosing was not... "Every day has the potential to be the greatest day of your life." - Lin-Manuel Miranda
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