Friendly Advice

[My Fair Lady]

Posted: 5/16/05 at 8:32pm

I have this friend who I don't really like anymore. It's because I don't trust her. She knows too much about me, in a bad way, abnd she has a big mouth. She also talks excessively about things she knows nothing about. She may or may not go to high school with me, but I want to know the best way to get rid of her before Septmber. I'm going on my Senior trip tomorrow and I'm rooming with her and she might suspect something since I don't want to share a bed with her. Any help? By the way, please don't tell me to get a blog.

[SallyBrown]

Posted: 5/16/05 at 8:34pm

aww get rid of her?

Well, take it from me who has had a friend like this, don't just "get rid" of her. Don't give her the cold shoulder or anything, just gradually stop hanging out with her, not suddenly so she gets hurt, but just see less and less of each other.

As for your trip, I know it may be hard, but could one night possibly be spent with her without any duels?

[KelRel]

Posted: 5/16/05 at 8:34pm

Talk to her and honestly tell her how you feel, be gentle about it, because she could very easily get defensive and shut you out. Good luck

[My Fair Lady]

Posted: 5/16/05 at 8:40pm

I did tell her that she wasn't really on my good side. All she's really done was suck up to me, and she fake cries and everything to try to be my friend. It's mainly because she's in a fight with another one of my friends who annoys me, but not as much as the person whom this post is about. You know what? I'm giving names. The name of the girl in the original post is Amy, and my other friend who Amy fights with is Janet.

[SallyBrown]

Posted: 5/16/05 at 9:01pm

Hey, i know where you're coming from. Personal anecdote:

I have a few friends who I've sort of grown apart from. We have nothing in common: My idea of a good time is watching a movie musical while theirs is gossiping about everyone else. Gossip gets pretty annoying especially when they do it right in front of each other without letting the other one know whats going on. Secrets, secrets.

So yeah, I had a friend who was, I hate to say it but a poser. She liked anything I liked and she was just plain annoying, always making a big dramatic affair of everything, trying to get "in" with the popular crowd, and when I started dating a guy who was known as popular, she got all pissed and eeeven more dramatic.


But try to beat this: I have a friend who starves for attention so much that she actually cut herself. And told everyone. And now apparantly she is studying witchcraft...


Sooo like I said before, just try to see less and less of her. School year's almost up, and all will be good.

[judy_in_disguise]

Posted: 5/16/05 at 9:03pm

Keep your friends close and your enemies closer.
If she knows a lot about you it's not wise to end things on bad terms. Suck it up for a few more weeks, don't hang out with her in the summer and when you get to highschool you'll probably be in a different group of friends than her anyway, people grow apart when they hit grade 9 and it's natural. Just be thankful you've got that big change to accompany your change away from her.
Seriously though, don't stir **** up. I know how hard it can be but until school is done you really need to grin and bear it, and just take baby steps away. Don't give her a reason to do something nasty to you, because it sounds like she's got resources.
Good luck doll!

[My Fair Lady]

Posted: 5/16/05 at 9:05pm

I used to study witchcraft in 5th grade...or at least I attempted to.

Well, I guess I can wait. the only problem is, last year there was a huge thing with her birthday (long story) so she might stalk me over the summer so I can go to her house on her birthday, which happens to be 4 days before mine.

[jacobtsf]

Posted: 5/16/05 at 9:06pm

Sally Brown- Why is studying witchcraft a bad thing? One of my best friends is a Wicca (sp?) and he is one of the most intelligent and creative persons I know. Witchcraft does not have to be a bad thing, and it has been around a lot longer than any other belief.


MFL- To answer your question: Treat this like a break-up from a relationship. Try to keep it as clean as possible.

[My Fair Lady]

Posted: 5/16/05 at 9:11pm

MFL-Unfortunately, I wouldn't know about a breakup seeing that no one's ever asked me out. But I don't want to get into that.

[judy_in_disguise]

Posted: 5/16/05 at 9:15pm

give it time girl, I didn't have a "boyfriend" till grade 9 and I didn't have a real one till grade 11. Quite frankly I even think grade 11 was too young!~

[SallyBrown]

Posted: 5/16/05 at 9:17pm

Sorry if I offended anyone, I didnt mean it that witchcraft was a bad thing, but it is a bad thing if you're faking it for attention..

[luvtheEmcee]

Posted: 5/16/05 at 9:20pm

I'm with JID on this. As a former friend about to become enemy, this girl has a lot she can use against you, should she see fit, which it sounds like she might, if you don't handle this very carefully. Ending a friendship is very different from ending a relationship, especially when you're young - a lot of times, at least as I've seen it, frienships last a really, really long time before they end, if they ever do. There's a lot more baggage, and far deeper roots there - and in that, a lot more that can potentially come back and bite you in the ass. It's very hard to just cut it off the way you would break up with a boyfriend or something.

[My Fair Lady]

Posted: 5/16/05 at 9:21pm

She's faking it? Ugh, I hate people like that.

I know Judy, but I still feel like a freak.

[My Fair Lady]

Posted: 5/16/05 at 9:26pm

And Emcee-I have to mention that as of now, no one likes her. She doesnt' really have anything AGAINST me, but she knows a lot about me. Our friendship was pretty brief, less than 2 years. Hat's exactly what I'm worried about-those roots biting me in the ass. If she doesn't go to my school, I never really have to speak to her again, but if she doesn, then I must really be screwed.

[papalovesmambo]

Posted: 5/16/05 at 9:32pm

ya can't go wrong with dismemberment as long as you have a way to get rid of the pieces. remember to use a hammer on the teeth and for heaven's sake burn off the fingerprints. if you have access to some acid that would help, or if you have a cabin where you can burn the parts that'll work too if you have the patience to smash what's left. you'll need a good saw though because getting through cartilage and sinew with a kitchen knife? fugheddaboudit. even the ginsu's get hung up. a good hack saw will help and remember, blood gets everywhere so lay down lots of plastic and use plenty of bleach to clean up.

[SallyBrown]

Posted: 5/16/05 at 9:33pm

..I think papa may be on to something

[My Fair Lady]

Posted: 5/16/05 at 9:35pm

That may be a good idea.

[luvtheEmcee]

Posted: 5/16/05 at 9:40pm

I know she doesn't have anything against you now, MFL - since she thinks you guys are friends, it seems. But, if you "get rid of her," I can't imagine she's going to be happy. Teenage girls are catty; we find a way to use anything and everything against each other when the time comes, and she knows a lot about you. Be careful.

[papalovesmambo]

Posted: 5/16/05 at 9:43pm

all the more reason to make sure she can't, eh? dead b*tches tell no tales.

[My Fair Lady]

Posted: 5/16/05 at 9:48pm

You're right, and Amy can be particularly catty, especially if she thought I was ditching her because of Janet.

[papalovesmambo]

Posted: 5/16/05 at 9:52pm

it's clear amy's got to go.

[amasis]

Posted: 5/16/05 at 11:12pm

Finally someone who can give practical, easy-to-follow advice - exactly what I was looking for. Thank you, papa.
Updated On: 5/16/05 at 11:12 PM