For the slightly more advanced homo, I'd suggest:
Morocco
Pandora's Box
Anything by Pedro Almodovar
Magnificent Obsession
Madame X
Different From the Others
Bride of Frankenstein
Strangers on a Train
A very good friend of mine Alonso Duralde wrote a recent book on this subject:
"101 Must-see Movies for Gay Men"
It's available now!
Here's fun article on a screening in SF...
http://www.sfist.com/archives/2006/06/20/frameline_30_101_mustsee_movies_for_gay_men.php
Amazon.com link...
"Sweet Dreams...because of the Ed Harris in a towel scene, right?"
There was a towel scene in that? Whenever I think of Ed Harris I always think of the scene in Swing Shift when he sits down in the towel and you see his shift swing.

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