I Am Moving To San Francisco

[The Grovers Corners Yenta]

Posted: 2/17/05 at 6:49pm

You won't believe this one. My mother bought me a cemetery plot next to hers in San Francisco. I have to spend eternity next to her! Even then she will make me wear a sweater when she is cold.

[My Fair Lady]

Posted: 2/17/05 at 6:50pm

Well, you won't die for a while, right?

[kissmycookie]

Posted: 2/17/05 at 6:54pm

wow. that's guilt inducing.... does she like the fog? cuz you'll know she'll kvetch about the fog if she doesn't like it....

[The Grovers Corners Yenta]

Posted: 2/17/05 at 6:59pm

I intend to be around for a long time. She lives near Palo Alto and that and that is where her synagogue has a cemetery in San Fran. I just found the whole thing to be a bit strange. She wouldn't dare help me out with anything in life.

[The Grovers Corners Yenta]

Posted: 2/17/05 at 7:07pm

Beaver, I am not really sure since I don't know the area well. I only know that it is a Jewish cemetery.

[FindingNamo]

Posted: 2/17/05 at 7:09pm

But honey, you reported having no money for food the other day. I think somebody arranging to take care of "final expenses" is actually rather sweet.

Posted: 2/17/05 at 9:06pm

Yea its probly in Colma, thats where my grandparents are buried in a Jewish cemetary there. Close enough to San Francisco though.

[SueleenGay]

Posted: 2/18/05 at 2:06am

Well how appropriate, didn’t Kushner use San Francisco as a metaphor for heaven? You might want to visit before you kick off. It is a beautiful city.
Maybe you could stay with The Beave!

Updated On: 2/18/05 at 02:06 AM

[Mr Roxy]

Posted: 2/18/05 at 6:11am

While possibly not helping you in life, she is helping you in the afterlife . Hmnn

[Corine2]

Posted: 2/18/05 at 8:59am

Hey there Namo,
I love your new icon. Have any idea what lipstick your icon is wearing. I love it.

[FindingNamo]

Posted: 2/18/05 at 9:15am

I think you just highjacked the thread Corine, this is about Yenta's mother doing something thoughtful for her. I have no idea what lipstick it is, but take it from me, it got all smeared and messed up very quickly.

[JeffG]

Posted: 2/18/05 at 9:16am

Wait Corine. I actually get your logic in bringing lipstick into this conversation.

For those not well versed on CorineLogic (or C-Lo) let me explain:

1. The post was about a mother buying a burial plot
2. The mother-daughter relationship is strained
3. Corine wants both of them to reconcile and make up
4. Make up = lipstick

[The Grovers Corners Yenta]

Posted: 2/18/05 at 3:56pm

Jeff G and Mr. Roxy hit it right on the head. We do have a strained relationship. My mother does nothing to help me out in real life. Never has and never will. I have been homeless, without money, in the hospital, a victim of child abuse, and she is emotionally absent. She lives in CA and I live in CT. A lot more than an entire country separates us. The thing is, I have survived.

[FindingNamo]

Posted: 2/18/05 at 4:03pm

Well, not to get all Dr. Phil/Tough Lovin' on your meatloaf dropping behind, but girlfriend, you have two choices: You can either learn to forgive your mother for her past failings and accept her for who she is (your one and only mother) and decide that her manipulations are not going to bother you any more OR decide that she is too toxic a presence in your life and, since she does nothing to help you out and never has, completely cut off contact from her.

You can EITHER have her in your life and ignore the manipulation OR get her out of your life. But you can't have her in your life AND complain about it for the rest of yours. You are a GROWN UP now.

Hugz.

[The Grovers Corners Yenta]

Posted: 2/18/05 at 4:23pm

Namo......Thank you for advice, but apparently you do not not know me that well at all. I am damn proud of where I am today and equally as proud to have survived all that I have. I have worked many years on myself just to become a very productive and creative human being. Your last post was way out of line not to mention disrespectful in my opinion.

[etoile]

Posted: 2/18/05 at 4:34pm

I didn't sense any disrespect. I think Namo recited the same old advice of the dearly departed Dear Abby. In each adult relationship we have to determine if we're better off with someone in our life or without them.