Don't worry, Matty. Our show is our show. What I'm writing with BritGuy is a totally different animal. Just as gay, perhaps, but in a totally different way.
I'm so not reading back.
Guten!
How do I always manage to be the last post on a page?
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Not so loud.
*Bangs Cymbals*
*runs*
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hiya kids.
Just got back from a nice dinner with Buzz. This "working on our relationship" thing seems to be working. Who knew that if you just put forth effort and communicated a relationship could be successful!! Go figure!
yay tink!
It took Ivan and me at least a year to figure that out, Tink!
ummm, we've been together almost 7...it's a bit different.
Good seven years, I hope.
7 is one of the benchmark years, Tink. It's good that you're both open to talking things through!
Austin, you can get a very inexpensive, stylish suit at H&M.
well our major issue is me, lol. I've been with him since I was 17 and for the most part doesn't matter. But in the last year or two I have started to grow and develop so much personally, that it does take an effort to stay connected.
Next week will actually be 6 1/2 years (4 1/2 years engaged, jeesh!), but it is easier to just round to 7 lol.
I don't think I've ever seen an H&M in Vegas, but thanks for the suggestion!
Ivan washed my bright white underwear with a navy blue jacket. Now my undies aren't white anymore
After checking, there are two stores in Vegas, so I'll try and check 'em out this weekend. Thanks!
My theory of relationships (I'll try to make it brief): through life, we continually grow and change. One has pay attention as to where one is, and where one's partner is, and make adjustments accordingly. I think it's the inability to adjust to those changes that makes couples literally "drift apart."
In other words: it's work.
and you are so right, DD. I have had two close friends and my brother all get divorced this year for that exact reason. They grew apart and just let it go too long and too far. I can't say for sure Chris and I will be together forever, but we've been doing ok so far, might as well try to work at it as best I can. This is my first long term (meaning more than a month, lol) relationship, but I am pretty sure any relationship after it reaches this point needs a bit of a tune up, lol. He annoys the crap out of me, but i love him, lol! :)
Dr cox (From Scrubs) has a take on relationships that I really connected with. He said, in "My Bed Banter and Beyond" (Season 1) that you know a relationship will work if there's turbulence, and there always will be, but every time one of those two people stands up and fights for that relationship because they know deep down it's what's right. And if every time someone manages to do that, you know it's got to be right.
Unless it's always the same person.
I don't see it as "work" actually, but awareness. Maybe because of the negative connotation of the word work.
I don't mean work in the negative connotation, although awareness is probably a better term. But it does take a lot of awareness, and tending to the problems as they arise and dealing with the constant change. But it really is worth it in the long run.
It really is. That's what happened with my ex and I ... one day we woke up and pretty much realized we were miles apart, and there was just no getting us close again. Thankfully our bond was strong enough that we remain friends to this day.
That's a special gift, DD. I find it very difficult to retain a relationship with my two exes - the first one because I basically can't stand him, the second because he basically can't stand me. Not circumstances propitious to enduring friendships.
The two main things to keep a relationship going is this . . . to always tell the truth no matter if it will hurt the other person and to listen. Without those two things, the relationship is doomed and the possible friendship after the relationship is pretty much null and void.
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