Once Again I NEED Your Advice!

Posted: 9/18/13 at 12:59pm

Straight male here. I took a writing course, and some of us students created a writing group. We meet and workshop the things we've been working on. One of the guys in the group is gay, and a while ago, he confessed that he had very strong feelings for me. I didn't have a problem with this, but I told him that I wasn't into guys. The other day, he sent me an e-mail telling me there was something he wanted to discuss. We met for dinner, and he told me that despite the fact that I claimed to be straight, he felt like I had been sending him messages to indicate my interest in him. He said that this was cruel and that he felt like I was teasing him. When I asked him for examples, he told me that when we had originally been in class together, he noticed that I had started to dress like him, and that this was sometimes a way closeted men showed interest in other men. He mentioned that one week he had worn a red sweater, and the following week I had worn a red T-shirt. He also said that he felt like the stories I had been workshopping in our group were secretly about him. I admit I'm not the stereotypical straight guy—I have good taste in shoes and I like art—but I know what I'm into and who I want to get naked with. I never showed any interest in this guy, I never led him on, this entire thing has taken place purely in his head. I told him all this, and now he says he is hurt and doesn't want to see me at the group. He suggested that we share the group, alternating meetings, but I refused. We're both adults who should have the emotional maturity to handle this. Am I being too harsh?
Am I sending mixed essages?

[Tom1071]

Posted: 9/18/13 at 1:22pm

Joe, I always start off reading these things thinking that it is actually you that these things happen to. My favorite was "My stepson has been stealing my underwear."

[papalovesmambo]

Posted: 9/18/13 at 1:30pm

sigh. i wish my brother would stop writing to savage love.

[tazber]

Posted: 9/18/13 at 1:41pm

Joe, I've noticed that you have a cat in your avatar. I kinda feel like you're sending me signals that you're interested in me but I only date guys with six fingers on each hand.

I suggest we alternate posting days. I'll take Monday - Saturday and you can have Sunday.

[SonofMammaMiaSam]

Posted: 9/18/13 at 2:04pm

Taz, your p*ssy has been sending mixed messages to Papa for years. He's so confused that he's calling himself "brother".

[FindingNamo]

Posted: 9/18/13 at 2:10pm

Nobody will ever believe them if you tell them you are not into guys. You have to tell them you're not into guy's.

Posted: 9/18/13 at 3:33pm

I will admit that red sweater was really nice.