Terrible Roommate Stories- Page 2

[Eris0303]

Posted: 7/15/10 at 7:15pm

I drove past a place for rent in Hamilton, spider! lol

[strummergirl]

Posted: 7/15/10 at 7:17pm

I had 2 roommates this past sophomore year. One just was in for 2 weeks since she just came from abroad and wanted a single and the other moved to her sorority house. Both were nice and my biggest enemy in that space was the horrible plumbing situation.

Freshman was a different story, however.

Girl was a major germaphobe. I may be messy and even a clutterer but dirty- hardly. She used a tissue to open the door and hand me something as benign as a pen. She quarantined me numerous times. Granted, I had a bacterial infection in my lungs (yet I never missed a class) and for a good week I was hacking from that illness, but after that was I sick once for about only day. Number of days she quarantined me total, however: a good month.

She constantly played Taylor Swift, Mandy Moore, Hillary Duff, and Jason Mraz on a loop. I said nothing, I didn't mind despite us having completely different music tastes. With that said, I expected a better reaction from her when I played The Clash and The Kaiser Chiefs aloud like she did.

The boys she brought back, were total prizes. BTW, she never got past second base but they were tons of spoon sessions with a mystery guy that I had to overhear many a time. Occasionally I could sleep through it, then I just crashed on the uncomfortable love seat in the common room. She could get so loud moaning over kissing. Early on she had a boyfriend who was a jerk with eyes of a serial killer who had some weird fetishes that only Twihards could love. He had to leave school since his roommate broke his jaw in a fight and he also got disciplined for stealing about 8 fire extinguishers he just laid in his room. Thankfully she found a more grounded, good natured boyfriend but that was long after she brought back a guy who was very persistent about going to bed with her. The back and forth went on for hours. I had it, I crashed on the love seat. They went back and forth on actually doing it, I actually thought if I were not there the situation could have turned dangerous. I maybe got 2 hours of sleep (she had a notoriously loud voice and laughed like Janis on Friends). Supposedly what shut them up was that I left my alarm on that turned on the radio which was BBC world news.

BTW, she was dry this whole time. Never drank.

She ended up being pretty homophobic. At first I let it slide when she said no man playing drag (Harvey Feirstein in Hairspray) could be Tevye in Fiddler. She was obsessed with that musical, so I just thought she was being irrational. But it became more apparent when I mentioned how much I loved Neil Patrick Harris and she's said, 'You do know he's GAY, right?' with great concern. But then I mentioned Anderson Cooper and she was as defensive as a Claymate. Then she was grossed out when a Rock The Vote PSA came on showing two men kissing. Regularly she gossiped about sexuality and just became concerned if they were gay/bisexual. She also said offensive stuff about trans-people.

This girl was obsessed with the sexualities of everybody on our floor, and not just my BFF who is now an out lesbian, but also a couple of people who said they were saving until marriage. It was honestly the first time I was asked point-blank, 'gay or straight' and my history of relationships.

She had these hour long conversations with her mother on speaker phone just about every week. She raised her voice, which I thought was impossible, b/c of the speaker phone. Why she never talked on her phone like a normal person was a mystery I never bothered to ask.

I am living in a house with a bunch of my friends next year. I crashed in their dorms often enough to know their habits, so I would be surprised if I'm well... surprised.



Updated On: 7/16/10 at 07:17 PM

[Marianne2]

Posted: 7/15/10 at 8:38pm

I'm just curious about how choosing college roommates occurs at different schools. My school just assigned us for Freshman year, and after that we could choose and they had a whole week of signing up for housing, depending on what you were planning to do.

This brings me to my senior year where it was just creepy. A few of my friends graduated, and the two who were left chose to room together before I got a chance to ask either of them. That left me with nobody. I didn't want a single because it was a lot more expensive to have the room to myself. So, I ended up skipping a class to sign up on the last day during the last few hours, so I would have a better choice of rooms from what was left, and having no idea who I would end up living with. And that is exactly what happened.

I called up the housing office during the summer demanding to know at least a name, so maybe I could contact them via facebook or something. They told me because I wasn't a freshman, they don't send that information out. So, I moved in a week early for band camp having no idea when my roommate would show up before classes started or who she was. I ended up learning her first name from when my RA hung name tag decorations on our door.

Fortunately, she was nice. She was very religious, listening to gospel music only, and watching TBN or whatever that channel is. That was annoying, but she didn't try to shove anything down my throat, and she didn't care when I would do things. I just remember her father telling me he was a Preacher when she moved in, and there I was watching some trash on MTV.

[spiderdj82]

Posted: 7/15/10 at 8:55pm

Eris - while tempting, Hamilton is almost 2 hours away from my job and that is one hell of a commute. lol

[Schmerg_The_Impaler]

Posted: 7/16/10 at 11:16am

Oh, I'm not too worried about my roommates; they both seem super-nice... I'm worried about acting normal enough around my roommates to prevent THEM telling horror roommate stories about me.

[Marianne2]

Posted: 7/16/10 at 11:27am

Just be yourself, and be respectful of each other. That is all you can do. And also be honest from the start.

[jacobtsf]

Posted: 7/16/10 at 11:33am

To add to Marianne's great suggestions, don't expect to become best friends. The three of you are being thrown together randomly by the college. You will have different schedules, likes and dislikes. The biggest piece of advice I have for you is to talk about things. Don't be silent if you have a huge problem with something, and don't ignore your roommates if you have a huge problem with something they are doing. Just always be respectful.

[SweetQintheLights]

Posted: 7/28/10 at 11:38pm

I typed this a while on the other roommate thread but I didn't have much time then so I'll add some missing parts, although really, it would take pages to describe everything.

So I was in a program where you go to a 'regular college' but are in a program for learning disabled kids where you receive tutoring and other things that you may need help with, such as emotional issues, cooking, or how to use your money wisely.

She (my roommate) hated to be there (in Florida) and wanted to be back home with her many, many boyfriends. Her parents basically forced her into this college thing...at the beginning, she never talked and was always sulking.
I was afraid too, in general, because it was the first time being away from what I knew and with my high anxiety, it wasn't easy to begin with, let alone my roommate who was constantly upset. I tried to ask her if she wanted to go to the mall, for a walk, to the beach and other things and this was over weeks and weeks. Sometimes she went but most of the time it was awkward; it was obvious that I was not being of help to distract her from wanting to go home.

Just a few of the many--

We had a separate schedule and classes at different times but we went to the same place for tutoring and we were generally both back in the apartment by 6pm.
She went to classes on random occasions. She went to tutoring and to the supermarket on occasion also, although never with a good or happy attitude.
Thanksgiving came and we both flew back home to be with our families for Thanksgiving. That Saturday, we were to fly back- she was from Pittsburgh, I am from Philly.
She ran away as her mom pleaded with her to get on the plane to Florida. She missed her flight. Her mom made next day reservations and nearly had to FORCE her to get on the flight the following day. She got back to the apartment in the middle of the night and didn't use the key to enter but rather knocked on the door.

All hell literally broke loose after that.
She never went out of the apartment, and wouldn't go to school/tutoring. So, she would eat my groceries, even the ones I kept in my room.

She would throw up in a bowl and put it in the fridge. Yup. Appetizing, eh?

I was doing group work at night or something and then went to the supermarket. I got back at 10pm. She locked me out of the apartment. (its one of those slide locks they have in hotels where the only the person inside can open it. It doesn't have to be used, there was just a regular lock also). As I said, I had just gone to the grocery store so I had many packages. (Oh, and at that time, I didn't have a car so I rode my bike everywhere.) (She also didn't have a car.) I called the nightime program aide for help and he came. My roommate said something to the effect of "I'm fully naked and if you come in, it's called rape"... the lock was eventually broken and, well, she was nude.

She threatened suicide nightly. And I mean every single night. After a few nights of me crying and being worried and calling the program night supervisor, I was told it was to get attention and to ignore it (it was an event that happened often at home too, apparently). It was hard for me...I had my own issues and now she's eating my food, crying loudly, talking on the phone in the middle of the night, and threatening suicide.
Meanwhile, I am trying to make my meals, do my homework and get some sleep.

She called Dr. Phil to "tattle tale" on me. If I hadn't been crying from all the crazy events, I would have laughed. Apparently she was watching the show and at the end, Dr. Phil was asking people to call and possibly be on the show if they were attached to an item from their younger years and couldn't give it up. I have my baby blanket which I always have with me at night and so that was her reasoning for calling the Dr. Phil show. Funny enough, they called back to interview me. I declined.

She took my blanket that night and told me she cut it and threw it out. I was a basket case. Long story short, she gave it back to me after much threatening.

Her boyfriends (back home) would call me in the middle of the night/or IM me to tell me that she would do "something" (kill herself) and it would be my fault. I was feeling helpless. There wasn't a thing I could do. I'd IM her and try to talk logically with her but there was no logic within her. She wanted what she wanted and there was no other road.

She would have phone sex with her boyfriend(s) in the middle of the night. Loudly.

Every morning I'd get up and her bedroom door would be closed. I'd go to school and go on with my business.
One day I got up and her bedroom door was open. I looked inside and she wasn't in her room. She wasn't in her bathroom. She wasn't in the apartment. I knew something was up. After 2 days of searching, her mother found that she booked a flight home on her credit card.
She was nowhere to be found. She was not at her house. She was not at her boyfriend(s) houses (or we were all led to believe). The boyfriend(s) mothers all swore that she was not living there. Days later, it was determined she was indeed living at one of her boyfriends houses.

I now had the apartment to myself. My food to myself. Even the bowl of throw up to clean up by myself!!!
It was a weird feeling, kinda depressing (although not sure why). I wanted to be excited and happy I no longer had to deal with it but there was a part of me which was empty and I cried. I still went along with what I had to do but I just wasn't me without her. I guess it was just different, my life had changed and I wasn't used to it (even though it was definitely better). It really hit me hard for some reason and I couldn't understand why. It took me some time but realized that there was no reason for me to be upset, but rather thankful.
Thankfully, her mother paid her portion of the rent until the lease was up. I then moved into a 1 bedroom apartment and swear I will NEVER live with a roommate.


I hope you have a much better experience.

[Marianne2]

Posted: 7/28/10 at 11:53pm

Wow. I don't even know what to think about that situation. It sounds like she had lots of problems that nobody was aware of or chose to ignore. I think if I was in your situation, I would have been scared and upset after she left. It would be one thing if she told you that she was moving out, but she didn't, and her parents didn't even know where she was for a couple of days.

[orangeskittles]

Posted: 7/29/10 at 1:32am

Seems like a waste of money for her parents to force her to do something she was actively resisting.

[once a month]

Posted: 7/29/10 at 9:57am

My first room mate was a disgusting pervert who tried to 'hypnotize' me in order to have his way.

My second room mate was a little weird, but we got along just fine. That is, until he was picked up for a murder he had committed previous to moving in with me.

I've lived with my 3rd room mate for 33 years...

INVESTIGATE PEOPLE...you can't be too careful!

[wendilin622]

Posted: 7/29/10 at 10:35am

My first college roomate was a trip....
She came to college engaged to a guy who was 5 years older than her that she had known for 3 months prior to coming to school. Needless to say that worked out awesome. Around October, he decided he needed a "break" and didn't talk to her for a few weeks. She was a mess. She didn't leave the room, didn't go to class, didn't do anything.

One day, around halloween, I came home to find the room a complete disaster. I mean her stuff was all over the place, and my stuff was too. She had actually gone into my closet and thrown my stuff all over the place. When I asked her what happened, she threw her phone at me and told me to read the latest text message.

It said "Hey, what we had was fun but its time we call it quits. Can you drop off the ring next time you're home?" She went beserk the rest of the semester. Stopped going to class. Threatened to strangle me in my sleep. Attempted to put her fist through a concerete wall. Stalked her ex-fiance. Would go home to just drive past his house, he started dating someone, she would call this girl and threaten her life. It was nuts.

She ended up failing out of school and her mom made her come home after first semester. Never got another roommate until soph year when my roommate did coke on a regular basis and slept with half of the male population. Finally figured it out and got a great roomate my junior year.