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[camerangel]

Posted: 1/4/05 at 11:04pm

Shub, I had my "heart" broken so badly that I dropped from a size 7 to a size 3 in a week, couldn't eat couldn't sleep.. pretty much ceased to function.. but that was a long time ago..

[JoAnne1]

Posted: 1/4/05 at 11:07pm

see?

"broken stomach" really IS more accurate...

i think i'm going to use this in the newest script...

[insomniak]

Posted: 1/4/05 at 11:08pm

Cam, is that safe?

[thespian geek]

Posted: 1/4/05 at 11:09pm

I think the "heart" thing came from the fact that some people - along with the butterflies in the stomach, etc. - get chest pains when they're angsting over a relationship or their chest gets heavy, like they can't breath, when something really good happens in their relationship... (excuse the huge run-on sentence)

I've had both happen. Though it's hard to remember because I've been single for 4 years now. Hm.

[JoAnne1]

Posted: 1/4/05 at 11:09pm

hello - does that sound safe to you?

NOT!!!

[broadway_star_tomorrow]

Posted: 1/4/05 at 11:10pm

hi guys

how's it hangin?

[JoAnne1]

Posted: 1/4/05 at 11:11pm

i was single for 3 years before i met hubby...
knew him for 3 more before marrying...

[camerangel]

Posted: 1/4/05 at 11:11pm

Definately Fredi..

Broken stomache..

[ShbrtAlley44]

Posted: 1/4/05 at 11:12pm

Good to know. There's hope for the singletons :)

Oy, Cam. That can't be good. I hope you went back to a healthy size!!

[JoAnne1]

Posted: 1/4/05 at 11:14pm

okay - i owe major apologies...


star2b - i've been calling you bst all night...

sorry to both of you...

rushing and only saw "star"...

sup - bst?

[camerangel]

Posted: 1/4/05 at 11:14pm

Umm no definately not safe.. It wasn't on purpose though..

That was the only time I have ever been in love.. like I said it was a long time ago

[insomniak]

Posted: 1/4/05 at 11:16pm

How do you know when you're in love?

[broadway_star_tomorrow]

Posted: 1/4/05 at 11:18pm

fredi- not much is up...past few days have been CRAZY...so much drama. but it's all over and done with.

i have exactly 13 hours and 42 minutes left of winter break

[ShbrtAlley44]

Posted: 1/4/05 at 11:19pm

I knew I was in love with my boyfriend because I never got tired of him (which I usually do with guys), and I felt like he was part of me, somehow. When we were apart it was like half of me was missing.

[camerangel]

Posted: 1/4/05 at 11:21pm

Yeah I went back up to a "healthy" size, but it took a while. I was a 5 for a long time.. now I'm well too large.. I want to be a size 5 again.. or even a 7.. not for anyone but myself though..

Nia~ you just know.. it's hard to describe.. and it's different for everyone... me personally every fiber of my being tells me so..

[insomniak]

Posted: 1/4/05 at 11:22pm

And this is good, why? I mean, connections are good, but to be that dependent is scary.

[camerangel]

Posted: 1/4/05 at 11:23pm

Matthew you are right as well..

[ShbrtAlley44]

Posted: 1/4/05 at 11:24pm

I don't think it's really being dependent. I think you have to get to a point, eventually, where you can be in love and be together but still be very much your own people.

[JoAnne1]

Posted: 1/4/05 at 11:25pm

wow som - GREAT QUESTION!!

you'll be "in love" so many times in your life....

with many different people some romantic - some not...

"romantic" love - is not a matter of knowing "if" you're in love or not...

if you think you're "in love" you probably are because love really is a state of mind...

the question is - CAN I MAKE IT WITH THIS PERSON....

when looking at "long term" or potential long term relationships being "in love" is not what carries you through in the long run...

being COMPATIBLE is the true ticket -
can you LIVE together?
do you want THE SAME THINGS OUT OF LIFE?
do you agree on FINANCIAL ISSUES?
do you BOTH WANT CHILDREN (or both not....)
if so - do you AGREE ON PARENTING METHODS...


these are the big things that destroy "love" - and the truth is most people who divorce STILL "LOVE" EACH OTHER - they just realize the couldn't live together....

so for now - most of you are safe (certainly the under 21's) because - realistically - you shouldn't be "looking" for anything long-term....

doesn't mean you haven't met "the one" already... it just may be years before you know it...

[camerangel]

Posted: 1/4/05 at 11:26pm

Nia~ the idea of love is very frightening to a lot of people. there is a certain level of dependancy but at the same time you still need to be able to be yourself and have your own bit of life..

[ShbrtAlley44]

Posted: 1/4/05 at 11:27pm

Do you think it's bad to start dating someone and immediately start thinking "Could I live with this person? Could I see myself marrying this person?"

[Matthew Rask]

Posted: 1/4/05 at 11:28pm

Shbrt is right.

You're both yourselves, you can be your true self with that person and never have to worry about being judged or loved any less. The times you spend together with that person when you're both just you create the most amazing feeling in the world....

[camerangel]

Posted: 1/4/05 at 11:29pm

when a prospective "the one" saunters in I hide!!

[JoAnne1]

Posted: 1/4/05 at 11:34pm

shub -

i'm not sure if it's bad or not... i know most women go there almost immediately

to be yourself is most important...

but remember - there is no such thing as a truly "functional" relationship...

relationships require a certain amount of inter-dependency - otherwise you'd never let anybody in...

the key is to maintain autonomy - while CHOOSING to give of yourself to someone else...

CHOOSING to make that persons wants/needs a priority in your life

CHOOSING to "compromise" in order for both parties to find satisfaction...

of course this has to go both ways for the relationship to be successful...

when is comes to potential "romantic" relationships - i finally realized that i would let "boyfriends" get away with a lot of sh** that i'd never let just friends get away with....

once i learned to stop that - things got a lot better...

[JoAnne1]

Posted: 1/4/05 at 11:35pm

BTW - hello Matthew...

i don't remember seeing you post here before...