[only semi-] Serious Discussion of the Day - "I Knew It Was Love When..."

[CostumeMistress]

Posted: 2/20/06 at 10:36am

I guess I'm just in my I'm-a-sucker-for-romance mode. I heard "It's a Quiet Thing" playing today, and it made me realize how much the lyrics of it describe my current love - my boyfriend and I have started to talk about the possibility of long-term commitment. So, I thought I'd throw this question out there.

I'm curious, for those of you who are in committed long-term relationships - when did you know that the person you are with was the one you wanted to commit to?

[DG]

Posted: 2/20/06 at 10:54am

My type of experience is one that usually raises eyebrows, because I knew from the first time we met. We were introduced by friends, and met two other times that initial weekend (he was visiting from out of town,) After that, I came here and visited for 2 days, he visited again where I was for 5 days, and then I moved here - after 9 days total spent together.

Since we're about to celebrate our first five years together - and it's stronger than ever - we weren't too far off the mark

[bwaysinger]

Posted: 2/20/06 at 11:03am

Costume, I am currently dating someone going on two months now. We've decided that we are officially dating but I haven't had the "Quiet thing" moment yet. I keep waiting for it. I'm sort of in the boat of the "you know it when you get it." Other than that, I can't say, in any relationship, I've had a specific moment of clarity that is the same each time.

[CostumeMistress]

Posted: 2/20/06 at 11:27am

DG - that is very sweet. Congrats!



"I can't say, in any relationship, I've had a specific moment of clarity that is the same each time."
Bway, I think that's the beauty of it - each time isn't the same at all, and we get to gather a wealth of experiences and memories.

[bwaysinger]

Posted: 2/20/06 at 11:42am

100% agreed, CM! Of course, sometimes, I get into the overanalyzation of it all and start wondering how long the big moment's going to be in the making. And then I begin to doubt. Overactive imagination is not always a good thing in a relationship and just letting things be what they are is often hard to do, even if it is the right way to go about it.

[Bluemoon]

Posted: 2/20/06 at 11:58am

I think it's different for everyone. No one "moment" is more or less valid than someone else's "moment". Some times it's an instant, sometimes it's a gradual awakening. That said, here's my story:

I knew on our first date. As he was leaving we kissed and said good night. I closed the door and said, "This is the man I will spend the rest of my life with." It wasn't some dreamy, gushy, starry-eyed wish. It was just very matter of fact. Something I just knew like I knew my own name. I was startled by both the statement and the confidence that came with it and told myself I was being silly.

That was May of 1973. We were married in 1977. I'm leaving now to meet him for a lunch date. Sometimes that voice inside your head is right.

[Bluemoon]

Posted: 2/20/06 at 11:58am

YIPES! My first double post!

See, I'm still excited by him. Updated On: 2/20/06 at 11:58 AM

[DayDreamer]

Posted: 2/20/06 at 12:01pm

That was lovely, moony!

[Elphaba]

Posted: 2/20/06 at 12:10pm

hmmm, it crept up on me. Probably when he first mentioned wanting to move to Palm Springs, and without hesitation I said "ok".......even thought the only time I had been here was 1976

with my first lover it was much more distinct. I was George, he was Meredeth......I had been attracted to him for a long time. I was in the Army in Frankfurt. And one night we danced......and I could not stop shaking.....and he looked at me and said "just relax"....and I said...."try dancing with you sometime!".

[Patronus]

Posted: 2/20/06 at 12:18pm

My wife and I had one of those world wind, love at first sight type of things.

We had chatted on the internet quite a bit before finally meeting because she lived in Los Angeles and I live in Georgia at the time. I flew out here and when we first saw each other at the airport (she was coming down an escalator and I was at baggage claim) it was literally like one of the sappy scenes in a movie where things slowed down for me and a quick moment was burned in my mind as what seemed like an eternity.

We've been together for 9 years now, so I guess the feeling was legit.

[Luscious]

Posted: 2/20/06 at 12:22pm

...when I found myself not minding the smell of his farts, nor he the smell of mine.

Admittedly, not as warm and fuzzy as DG's story, but heartfelt nonetheless.

Updated On: 2/20/06 at 12:22 PM

[melissa errico fan]

Posted: 2/20/06 at 12:45pm

I met my wife in a show that we were both in. I was playing the lead and she was understudying the leading lady. After about two performances, the actress who was playing the leading lady got sick and left the production, and my wife was promoted to playing the role full time. After about a week, I asked her if she would like to go out for a drink between shows on a matinee day, and at first she turned me down, but then decided it was worth a try. We've been together (for the most part) ever since.

We were both coming out of long-term relationships at the time, and neither of us was really eager to start another long-term thing right away. I'm pretty sure we thought it would just be a "cast romance" that would end once the show was over. However, I had a feeling that this was something special.

We started dating in the summer of 1993 and began living together shortly thereafter. We didn't marry until the summer of 1999, and we separated around 1995 for about 6 months. I knew from that very first date, though, that this was the woman that I would marry. Nearly thirteen years later, we are still going strong, and hopefully we will be together for many more years to come.

I'm a very big believer that you just know when a thing is right. I knew instantly that this was right.

[Elphaba]

Posted: 2/20/06 at 1:00pm

patronus, that really was nice.

lucious......excellent answer......and oh so true....

[Mister Matt]

Posted: 2/20/06 at 1:01pm

Since mine was internet-based and we live in separate countries, it is a little different (though similar to Patronus). Before we actually met in person, I knew because I started looking forward to the moment he was online each day and we could chat. Days that we couldn't chat just felt empty to me. But it was when we first met at the airport when he flew to Chicago to meet me that I knew I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him. The two of us together just felt right. People who have met us together seem to think so, too. I cannot imagine not being together. Ever.

Updated On: 2/20/06 at 01:01 PM

[KelRel]

Posted: 2/20/06 at 2:55pm

We met on campus when he was 18 and I was 15, I was visiting my aunt at work and I ran into him on an elevator, then at a coffee shop on campus, it just seemed like everywhere I went I ran into him. We exchanged screennames and chatted. He had to leave school to join the army so that he could afford to finish college. We kept in touch and our feelings grew. We were both too afraid to say anything about it. When I started college he came to see me while he was on leave to go to his brother's wedding. I walked out of my dorma dn saw him standing there and I just knew. We hugged and started walking around campus. We were both shy at first, but next thing you knew we were holding hands and acting more and more "couplish". Later that night we went to the movies and as we were standing in the lobby he leaned over and kissed me and that was it. A sweet little kiss that just sealed it for me. I knew that I would spend the rest of my life with him. When I went back to my room that night my room mate took one look at me and knew that something was up. She asked if I could see myself spending everyday waking up next to him for the rest of my life and without hesitating I said yes. We have been together since 2001, married since 2003 and I still feel like the luckiest woman on earth.

[Elphaba]

Posted: 2/20/06 at 2:56pm

Matt we also met on the internet, so to speak. I was back in Detroit for work.....and Steve found me on a website. (I refuse to say which one) and started emailing me....and the rest is history. Of course once we became serious, he asked me to remove myself from that website....lolol