rules?

[insomniak]

Posted: 9/15/04 at 8:53pm

Over three thousand posts, and I still don't know what's ok and what's not. Are there any rules about curse words and broadwayworld? My new avatar says 'Oh SH*T' but I don't really know if that's allowed. I don't want to get in trouble.

[KMF_NYC]

Posted: 9/15/04 at 8:55pm

you'll know soon enough if the tread and pic gets deleted...
a couple weeks ago all the "Man-bare chest" shots/avatars were gettting deleted within minutes of uploading and it seems to have stopped.....there appears to be no rhyme or reason!

[insomniak]

Posted: 9/15/04 at 8:57pm

Exactly my point- the rules seem flexible and I'm not sure what I can and can't do. Some people use asterisks in curse words, some don't. I never know what to do, I don't want to get deleted.

[BroadwayMonkey]

Posted: 9/15/04 at 8:59pm

Maybe we should get someone to type out all the rules.

[Matt_G]

Posted: 9/15/04 at 8:59pm

If the curse words are quotes from Broadway shows, they're allowed to stay. My quote was "And I can't wait to eat her Pussy again!" for over a month before I changed it.

Updated On: 9/15/04 at 08:59 PM

[insomniak]

Posted: 9/15/04 at 9:00pm

But you starred it out just now...

[BroadwayMonkey]

Posted: 9/15/04 at 9:03pm

Matt, whenever I am just skimming the posts, all I can see is "I was raped by a doctor" and I was like, "OMG!! Matt!!! poor baby!"...and then I remember.

[Matt_G]

Posted: 9/15/04 at 9:09pm

LOL. I'm gonna change it tomorrow. I just need to find a new quote. Someone said it was offensive. I doubt they were jewish.

We get it, don't we?

[Up In Won]

Posted: 9/15/04 at 9:48pm

Yes, I get it too. And, I'm not easily offended, so I don't think it offensive. Annnd. WHo likes my lame ass attempt at changing my user name? i do.

[StickToPriest]

Posted: 9/15/04 at 9:50pm

Who were you before?

[Up In Won]

Posted: 9/15/04 at 9:52pm

Up In One2. I wish they had just said 'USER NAME NOT AVALIBLE, DAMN YOU!', but NO! They give me that ugly '2'!

[GovernorSlaton]

Posted: 9/15/04 at 10:10pm

I love that quote, Matt.



I'm jewish.

[insomniak]

Posted: 9/15/04 at 10:20pm

*sigh*

I liked that avatar too... Craig, Rob, can I star out the word and keep it?

[SueleenGay]

Posted: 9/16/04 at 1:54am

You are right, Matt, I am not Jewish. The part that I thought was offensive was joking about rape. It is not a laughing matter.

[Matt_G]

Posted: 9/16/04 at 2:03am

And all I was saying was that it's not a joke about rape, it's a joke about Jews. =)

[etoile]

Posted: 9/16/04 at 2:44am

Oh, SueleenGay, I am so disappointed in you. Can't you see this is so LOL funny. I mean it's a doctor. It's not like you're discussing a serial rapist or serial killer, who we all know are limited to select occupations, but a for REAL doctor.

You know the only thing that would be funnier is if his name was DR. Joseph Mengele. Then he'd have Matt in stitches...literally. I mean after all, " And all I was saying was that it's not a joke about rape, it's a joke about Jews. =)"

Wrong, Matt, it's about both.

Updated On: 9/16/04 at 02:44 AM

[SueleenGay]

Posted: 9/16/04 at 2:48am

Dr. Who?

Or maybe if it was Sandy Duncan that was raped by her Jewish Doctor?

[etoile]

Posted: 9/16/04 at 2:58am

No, Sueleen, Dr. Who is that British Sci-Fi guy on PBS.

But I know a girl that was raped by a doctor. Her name was Fran. She was ten years old. It was her father. I never saw laughter in her eyes. I don't think she thought it was funny. I don't know why, he was a doctor.

But here I am, being obnoxious and offensive again.

[iflitifloat]

Posted: 9/16/04 at 7:46am

It constantly amazes me when people post intimate details, seemingly thinking that what they write is being read by thirty of their closest friends. That info is out there for anyone and everyone to read. Last night I took exception with Daisy initiating yet another discussion about the size of her breasts. She apparently has big ones about which she is VERY proud and wants people to know. When I read her posts, the overwhelming impression they create is of someone who is exhibitionistic and needy. I've never met Daisy and that might not be the case at all...for her sake, I hope it's not...but damn if that's not the impression she creates with the words that jump off the page, especially when it has become a consistently recurring theme. Or maybe it's the impression the *wants* to create. Who can say? Lots of people fail to realize that there is a world of difference between what is appropriate to a chat room, where the "audience" is known and definable...and where there is a chance to clarify what is being said, and why...and the flat print statements of a post (and sigs) that are there for anyone and everyone to read. I'm sounding preachy, but let me say that I realize that I'm as guilty of poor judgement in posting as the next person, on occasion.

I just keep hoping for a level of sensitivity in posting to develop where people step back and think for a second about how their words might be perceived by persons who don't know the context in which they are being posted. It would do all of us some good to take a look at what image we create by the words we write. Someone who is Jewish and whose life has never been touched by rape might find Matt's sig hilarious. And Matt might be Jewish and feel that he can make a Jewish joke be cause he is Jewish. I don't know Matt's ethnic, cultural, or religious background....and I would be willing to bet that the vast majority of people reading his posts don't know either. Frankly, my husband's family is Jewish, and my life HAS familiarity with sexual assault, but in the right context I would find Matt's sig amusing. But having it just floating out there, publically, without context is something that I do find to be very insensitive and in very poor taste. There are words that I use, and jokes that I make, to people I know and who know me....people who have a context in which to put my words...which I would NEVER in a million years put out there in flat print.

Meanwhile, like etoile, I think I have a pretty good grasp of my online image...self-righteous, condescending, prudish, and judgemental. All have been pointed out to me upon occasion. And I am much less of those things in person, so once again, I know it's probably time to pull back and examine the disparity between my online persona and who I really am...which I do from time to time. And I'll go do that as soon as I finish my sermonizing here.

Updated On: 9/16/04 at 07:46 AM