what to say

[b-waygirl]

Posted: 1/26/04 at 3:30pm

what should you say to "i love you"? i mean whenever my bf says it to me i want something to say back but i'm always just like "umm i love you too...?" is there anything that i should say w/out getting akward? i want something to say. i never have anything to SAY! tips anyone??

[Phantom2]

Posted: 1/26/04 at 4:04pm

Say: "Is that a can of hairspray in your pocket, or are you just happy to see me?"

[son_of_a_gunn_25]

Posted: 1/26/04 at 4:08pm

If you aren't at the stage in a relationship where you actually can say love him comfortably and believe it, don't say it. He may not even realize what he is truly saying. Trust me you have plenty of time to figure out if you love someone in that way or not just let him know you need to slow things down a bit. Depending on your age you still have a ton to learn about relationships, heck I'm 18 and I am behind most people my age. Strangely everyone comes to me for relationship advice though.

[Phantom2]

Posted: 1/26/04 at 4:33pm

Great advice son_of_a_gunn_25! Sorry, I was just being silly earlier.

[BwayTheatre11]

Posted: 1/26/04 at 6:26pm

I feel dating below the age of 18 is pointless.

[Unknown User]

Posted: 1/26/04 at 6:28pm

Who was stupid and ENGAGED below the age of 18? ::raises hand::

Thank God I wised up and stopped believing in marriage.

[SueleenGay]

Posted: 1/26/04 at 6:42pm

I always just say three little words back:

"Really? Proove it!"

[CJR]

Posted: 1/26/04 at 10:22pm

And this is why I LOOOOVE Sueleen. Great answer -- and one of my personal favorites

Seriously though -- if you're not comfortable telling your boyfriend that you love him, don't. Sometimes it's not so much that you DON'T love him, more that you're just not ready to get into the kind of committment that those 3 little words can lead to. I'm quite comfortable telling people that I love them -- but there was this one guy... a really really good friend of mine, who I went out with for a little while (we're still really good friends btw). Anyway, we both knew how the other one felt, without actually saying it though. He'd say "you're high maintinence, you know that right?" and I'd say "yeah but you love me anyway". He'd laugh and say "you're right, I do."

Now is the reason you're not feeling comfortable telling your boyfriend you love him because you don't share his feelings, or it's just not an emotion you're comfortable displaying in general?

Also sometimes, people don't realize just how major what they're saying is. I mean, you wouldn't just walk up to any old stranger on the street and tell them you love them, would you? People sometimes casually throw around the phrase not realizing that there are people who truly take it seriously and don't use it casually. Your boyfriend may not realize exactly how major it is...

How long have you two been dating and how old are you, if you don't mind my asking? (you can PM me if you want).

~Heather