your gay marriage.

[shermanslave]

Posted: 4/2/04 at 7:09pm

I know there are plenty of gay folks on this site who are in long term relationships. With the gay marriage debate roaring across the country, I am wondering about how your gay relationship is tearing down the moral fiber of our country. Today is my 13 year anniversary with my partner so I am pleased to say that since 1991 we have been destroying the sanctity of marriage in the USA! Woo hoo!
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Updated On: 4/2/04 at 07:09 PM

[MusicMan]

Posted: 4/2/04 at 7:47pm

I am in a 10-year old relationship. As far as the whole gay marriage thing goes, I have no problem whatsoever of a heterosexual marriage representing a certain cultural standard or ideal, if you will, of a society. It makes perfectly good sense to me. If that means I lose out on some benefits, well, that's the price you pay for being different, just like being an artist, which to my mind, has even LESS cachet in this society than being gay these days. I would sooner see more accommodation for the arts and artists, frankly.
As long as I'm left alone to live my life and am not branded or thrown into a concentration camp, I couldn't care less about the marriage laws.

[FindingNamo]

Posted: 4/2/04 at 7:58pm

Will people surprised by MusicMan's response please raise their hands? Nobody. Wow.

(Good to know you draw the line squarely at branding and concentration camps. Presumably anything up to that is fine.)

SS, if you find yourself someday at the point of getting married, let's say in five years or so when it's legal, won't it be weird for the two of you to have your FIRST anniversary the year after that? I mean, you've practically been together as long as Hume Cronyn and Jessica Tandy already.

[iflitifloat]

Posted: 4/2/04 at 8:04pm

I say NO ONE gets married...gay or straight...let there be civil unions for everyone and let the churches define marriage as they will.

[BwayTheatre11]

Posted: 4/2/04 at 8:06pm

I thought gay couples can not be in a relationship that long?? It must just be for the sex.

[FindingNamo]

Posted: 4/2/04 at 8:10pm

Iflit, that's what that genius writer Richard Goldstein said in The Advocate, that gay marriage will not undermine the institution of marriage in the least, but civil unions will. What will happen is that a large percentage of heterosexual couples will enter into civil unions rather than going through the whole marriage rigmarole. We shall see if Richard Goldstein is right, but he probably will be since you know how those heteros catch on to what the gays are doing and start doing it a few years later.

[TxTwoStep]

Posted: 4/2/04 at 8:10pm

Floater, i agree. i think i've posted on here before, i think marriage in general is too sanctified by our government and insurance companies and healthcare industries. Two kind of dependents exist: children and the family elders no longer able to care for themselves. Those supporting them should get breaks in society's various shared public systems. Otherwise, we're all independent adults free to get our relationships blessed by non-governmental institutions whose beliefs we can honor.

[iflitifloat]

Posted: 4/2/04 at 8:21pm

Well, Namo, Mr. Goldstein is a pretty smart man. I enjoy reading his articles whenever possible. You know who else I enjoy? Frank Rich. He's a smart man, too. And no list of enjoyable journalists would be complete without mentioning Mr. Musto. To reiterate:

RICHARD GOLDSTEIN
FRANK RICH
MICHAEL MUSTO

(Kinda makes you wax nostalgic, doesn't it?)

Sorry, Sherman....didn't mean to go so off off-topic in your happy anniversary thread....

Posted: 4/3/04 at 1:21pm

Congratulations Sherman!

All the best to you and yours, Jose'