Possibly there's something else going on here. It sounds as if you are a "new age male" (often misconstrued to be gay...not that there is anything wrong with that...). It might be more that she is worried that she is the last to know something. In other words, it may not be so much a homophobic pursuit of information as it is a quest to make sure she's in the loop. The theater-loving, best friend, but not boyfriend, of all the girls thing at least lays the groundwork for "suspicion". She may be going through the does-everyone-know-something-about-my-child-but-me syndrome... As I recall, it's never been easy being a straight, sensitive, arts-loving, high school boy. I also recall males with the very same characteristics being much more appreciated in college. It's just a matter of time...
It's not the easiest thing in the world to be a mother when your child reaches that age where they have a life to which you are not privy. In the big picture, I'd be willing to bet that your mom's hovering and intrusiveness have at least as much to do with her as they have to do with you. It's a classic vicious cycle, the more she prods, the more private you become, so she feels even more alienated and pries even more. Like I said, women who have children your age are frequently going through a right of passage themselves...where their identity as a mother has to change as the child approaches adulthood.
I could be wrong. And only you will know if I might be on to something in your case, but it's worth taking into consideration. Her sense of self might be more fragile than yours right now, and that could be a big part of what is going on.
Sueleen Gay: "Here you go, Bitch, now go make some fukcing lemonade." 10/28/10
Updated On: 11/2/04 at 07:00 PM
