Can the teenagers (and twentysomethings) please angst?- Page 176

[camerangel]

Posted: 12/3/04 at 1:07pm

Yeah I'm surrounded by idiots here.. and heaven help us when it rains.. Oy vey!! I try to avoid driving because people seriously think rain means drive faster, pay less attention, etc.. People kill me..

[My Fair Lady]

Posted: 12/3/04 at 2:29pm

Am I paranoid? This year, the principal of my school left to go to Israel. The new principal this year is a fishy woman that no one trusts or likes. She made really stupid rules and even the teachers don't like her much. Well, I haven't been praying (Jewish school and we have one hour devoted to prayer in the morning) and the teachers and my mom (my moms GOOD friends with teachers, but not the principal) have gotten annoyed about that. Ever since my mock interview (to prepare for high school interviews) she has been especially nice to me. This morning, I was standing and all my friends were talking around me and she pulled me aside. She said that since I don't pray, I should read the intelligent, theological essays about prayer. I think I might be like a guinea pig, since she says I'm too bright to just be standing there during prayer and not have anything to do. Am I paranoid to think that she might be planning something?

[Type_A_Tiff]

Posted: 12/3/04 at 2:33pm

Just curious - What's your reason for not praying?

(PS Don't tell anyone you saw me here - they tend to get violent.

Updated On: 12/3/04 at 02:33 PM

[My Fair Lady]

Posted: 12/3/04 at 2:35pm

I'm not sure if I believe in God.

[Type_A_Tiff]

Posted: 12/3/04 at 2:37pm

Fair enough. I'm on deadline. Let me think about this for a while - but short answer would be no, you're not being paranoid.

[insomniak]

Posted: 12/3/04 at 2:39pm

I don't think you're paranoid... she sound fishy.

Why don't you believe in God? I'm not trying to bait you or change your mind, I'm just interested.

[My Fair Lady]

Posted: 12/3/04 at 2:41pm

Well....a lot of the Old Testament just doesn't make sense to me. There are a lot of commentaries btu without those commentaries, the laws jus don't make sense. And commentaries and made by people. They could always be wrong. Many people claim they can talk to god and are schizophrenic. All my thoughts are just in a jumble right now, but what proof is there that Moses wasn't schizophrenic. The splitting of teh sea could have been caused by an earthquake. there are just so many explanations besides god that I'm not sure what to believe.

[camerangel]

Posted: 12/3/04 at 2:42pm

Im interested as well, if you care to share.

[insomniak]

Posted: 12/3/04 at 2:54pm

That's a logical reason, I think. It's actually good that you're questioning, without it even the most devoted worship would mean nothing. Test out your worries. Try praying and really talking to God. See what you get, see if He's there.

[camerangel]

Posted: 12/3/04 at 3:00pm

From what I have been told there is supposed to be a scripture in the bible that says if you pray with a true heart, god will answer you.. so I suppose you could try that and if there is no answer well there you go.. But I do agree that it is good for you not to just accept, but to question and make sure this IS what you believe..

[My Fair Lady]

Posted: 12/3/04 at 3:28pm

Thanks for all the positive feedback on my beliefs! Usually when people hear that I don't believe in God, they go insane. So back to my original question-am I paranoid or not? (read story)

[insomniak]

Posted: 12/3/04 at 3:33pm

Nope.

See what snooping you can do...

[Type_A_Tiff]

Posted: 12/3/04 at 3:54pm

I'm bored.

[imcuteloveme]

Posted: 12/3/04 at 4:42pm

I'm bored as well Tiff. But I'm still IN class. And the one time I'm allowed on this site in class it acts up.

[Jasper D]

Posted: 12/3/04 at 7:35pm

Can I angst a slight bit? A little while ago I told someone I know that I wasn't into girls and I liked guys. He seemed really cool about it at first, but lately I'm not sure...he's been acting kinda different around me. And so have a few of the other people we work with. He said he wouldnt say it to anyone, but I think maybe he has said it to these people. It could all be in my mind, but I've been worrying about it. When they talk to me all I can think is 'Do they know?'. I wish I hadnt told him now. Do you guys think that I'm being paranoid too?

[insomniak]

Posted: 12/3/04 at 7:38pm

You're not being paranoid, they probably did hear.

As for acting different? It doesn't mean they hate you, just that they haven't yet adjusted to the idea. Give them time to realize that you're exactly the same person now that you're out and then they'll go back to normal. Be yourself. They didn't love you because you were straight, so they shouldn't stop now that you're out. Just keep hanging out with them, they'll get it soon.

[Jasper D]

Posted: 12/3/04 at 7:43pm

Thanks insomniak!
But I'm still not sure if they know, and I'm not sure how to find out. Were not even that close friends, if even friends at all. But Im not being treated as one of the guys anymore. And also the person I first told said he wouldnt say it to anyone, so I'm mad at him if he did.

[Type_A_Tiff]

Posted: 12/3/04 at 7:49pm

Oh yeah, I would be royally pissed if the one person I trusted told people. For now, I would just shut myself off from him and act like normal around everyone else. But I'm not too coherent right now. I'm lacking sleep.

[insomniak]

Posted: 12/3/04 at 7:51pm

Jasper, they're afraid that you're going to morph into the Gay Stereotype- the lisp, the walk, the hand thing and lots of tight pink glittery clothes. That's what I thought when my first gay friend came out to me at the beginning of eigth grade, but after a while I realized that he hadn't changed a bit, that was who he always was and I had always liked him for it. It'll all work out. Just be one of the guys.

[Type_A_Tiff]

Posted: 12/3/04 at 7:52pm

(PS. Tight pink glittery clothes is highly underrated, Jasper. Really, don't dismiss it quite yet. )

[insomniak]

Posted: 12/3/04 at 7:54pm

Just know that they're afraid you'll be someone besides the guy they've always liked. Once you show them otherwise, things'll be ok.

[Jasper D]

Posted: 12/3/04 at 7:55pm

You see but I havent told them yet! Im not ready for them to know! I wasnt even ready for the one guy I told to know, I just came out with it from nowhere, so I dunno. I just wish I could be clear on what they think.

[insomniak]

Posted: 12/3/04 at 7:57pm

Could you ask them? I understand that you're mad that he told, but it happened and now you just have to think of how to handle it.

[Jasper D]

Posted: 12/3/04 at 8:00pm

Maybe I should ask the person I told, in case they actually don't know! I dont want it to be an issue at all, I'd rather just ignore it completly but. I just dont know.

[Type_A_Tiff]

Posted: 12/3/04 at 8:05pm

Well, I don't think you can exactly ask your friends without sort of giving it away. Best bet is to ask your firend outright. Tell him flat out that the peeps are acting weird and he'll HAVE to tell you.