Can the teenagers (and twentysomethings) please angst?- Page 214

[nobizlikeshobiz]

Posted: 12/19/04 at 10:39pm

Yo es uhhh....here!

[insomniak]

Posted: 12/19/04 at 10:40pm

Opinions on school conselors (sp?). What can you trust them with?

[Type_A_Tiff]

Posted: 12/19/04 at 10:42pm

Not a fan of school counsellors. At all.

[Ellie3]

Posted: 12/19/04 at 10:42pm

I'm a tad suspicious of them, I think if they hear anything major they think they have to go running to mama and papa...so beware. But I suppose it depends on the person, although I don't think there's any kind of 'confidentiality agreement'.

[nobizlikeshobiz]

Posted: 12/19/04 at 10:42pm

I've never come in contact with a school counselor, so I wouldn't know...

[nobizlikeshobiz]

Posted: 12/19/04 at 10:48pm

so what's new everyone?

[Ellie3]

Posted: 12/19/04 at 10:58pm

Is my new icon offensive?

[nobizlikeshobiz]

Posted: 12/19/04 at 11:00pm

it's not offensive, it's just a little disturbing:)

[insomniak]

Posted: 12/19/04 at 11:02pm

So you can't tell them about anything illegal or potentially harmful?

[nobizlikeshobiz]

Posted: 12/19/04 at 11:05pm

like what, somniak?

[Ellie3]

Posted: 12/19/04 at 11:06pm

I wouldn't advise it, no - unless you want other 'responsible adults' to find out. Is the school counsellor the only option for you? There are plenty of free volunteer-based counselling lines, if need be.

[insomniak]

Posted: 12/19/04 at 11:08pm

I dunno about calling a random hotline person... I need someone to just dump this crap on and ask what I should do and I would like to talk to the same person more than once. I'm having trouble keeping some stuff from my parents and I need to tell someone.

[OneBlazeOfGlory]

Posted: 12/19/04 at 11:11pm

'Opinions on school conselors (sp?). What can you trust them with?'

All I know is that in elementary school, I moved around a lot and switced schools almost every year, and most of the schools required me to see one once a week in order to help me 'cope with the new school'. Which was a bunch of crap, because after you move a couple times, its rather easy. Everything is easy in elementary school. So yea, school counselers now creep me out, and I haven't talked to one since.

'So you can't tell them about anything illegal or potentially harmful? '

'Is the school counsellor the only option for you? There are plenty of free volunteer-based counselling lines, if need be. '

Or you're always welcome to PM people here if you don't want to take any risks...

[Ellie3]

Posted: 12/19/04 at 11:11pm

That's exactly what those lines are for, som!
Or if you want, feel free to PM me any time.

[Type_A_Tiff]

Posted: 12/19/04 at 11:16pm

You can send a PM this way too if you want.

But to be honest, I wouldn't go to a school counsellor. I only had bad experiences with them, which made my relations with the principal, vice-principal and school bullies enormously WORSE.

[insomniak]

Posted: 12/19/04 at 11:17pm

It's a combination of stuff I shouldn't say, things you already know and things I need someone to help me figure out. Just in a bad place right now. I also kinda need to talk to someone offline for parts of it because it relates to online... wow, that was confusing.

Any other place to go for an adult to talk to?

[Type_A_Tiff]

Posted: 12/19/04 at 11:20pm

A bar.

Okay, um...are there any youth outreach places in your area? Oh, you mentioned once that you're religion kinda - can you talk to your priest?

[insomniak]

Posted: 12/19/04 at 11:21pm

I don't know if I can tell my pastor this stuff- like I said, I don't want him going to my parents behind my back. I don't know where else to go.

[OneBlazeOfGlory]

Posted: 12/19/04 at 11:22pm

A friend? Relative? Another message board? Or maybe the phonelines might be your best bet. The first thing that came into my mind was PMing one of the older posters here like Fredi or NoDay etc etc...

[insomniak]

Posted: 12/19/04 at 11:24pm

Not thinking that I should do that... part of my problem is needing to talk to someone offline. Relatives are a definet no and I have no friends. I don't know how to find someone...

[Ellie3]

Posted: 12/19/04 at 11:25pm

Do you have any siblings? Or cool aunts or uncles?

[Type_A_Tiff]

Posted: 12/19/04 at 11:26pm

I don't think your pastor can talk to your parents.

[Ellie3]

Posted: 12/19/04 at 11:28pm

Tiff - my boobies are better than your boobies -
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And Nia, I think she's right about the pastor.

[insomniak]

Posted: 12/19/04 at 11:28pm

If it was not legal, something I ought not to be doing, something that posed a threat to myself or was otherwise not generally recommended in life, would he tell them.

Ellie, my family is very straightlaced and would definetly get me in trouble.

[OneBlazeOfGlory]

Posted: 12/19/04 at 11:29pm

Or maybe you could try out the school counseler and decide for yourself if they are a trustworthy person. Meet with them and talk etc but don't tell them whatever it is thats 'illegal or potentially harmful' until you trust them. I don't think they are allowed to share whatever goes on between them and student with anyone else. But I could be wrong.