Can the teenagers (and twentysomethings) please angst?- Page 244

[camerangel]

Posted: 1/7/05 at 1:07am

why do you day what you've been thinking is wrong?

[luvtheEmcee]

Posted: 1/7/05 at 1:10am

Glory - it'll take some time, but you will figure it out, and you'll pull through. You're a smart kid. I have faith that you'll get through this. I know it's hard. I can't say I know how you feel, but I've spent many-a-night up with this friend of mine (younger than you, actually) just being there to listen and try to help him as best I can. It's going to be a rough road, but you'll find a way to conquer it. Get some rest, kid.

Alix - I almost bought a dress like that in pink for my senior prom. You're adorable, by the way!

[Type_A_Tiff]

Posted: 1/7/05 at 1:10am

What you're thinking isn't wrong. You've just been conditioned to think it's wrong because you live in one of the bible belt states. I won't say everything will be fine, because frankly, you'll probably get a lot of resistance when you come out. But when you're out of high school, you have more control over your surroundings, your friends, your life, etc. and it'll be easier. It seems wrong to advise that you keep this a secret for the rest of your high school time, but you know it's going to be tough when you come out in the open.

Mostly importantly, as long as you're not in the whole self-loathing state, and as long as you're comfortable with yourself and your orientation, that's 75% of the battle.

[OneBlazeOfGlory]

Posted: 1/7/05 at 1:11am

I thought maybe it would be good to tell a friend of mine everything... and it really wasn't. At all. I had intentions of telling my parents but I have a gay brother and so theyve always favored me for that reason and I don't think I could ruin that... they want grandchildren and for me to get married 'like a normal person'. I don't need any more drama tonight, but this is killing me.

[camerangel]

Posted: 1/7/05 at 1:14am

ugh.. guys I really feel liek crap now..

but the good news is my ff is taking annonymous reviews now

[Type_A_Tiff]

Posted: 1/7/05 at 1:14am

Ouch. Well, if you're bi, it's not like you're ruling out women altogether. More importantly, are you comfortable with who you are? Don't feel the need to label yourself as "gay", "straight", "bi". Why limit yourself? Go for the person, not the gender. And if that person happens to be a guy, well, so be it.

[Alix7272]

Posted: 1/7/05 at 1:14am

thanks emcee, it could have been the same dress - i tried on the same dress in pink but ended up getting the black.

OBOG - *hugs*

[Type_A_Tiff]

Posted: 1/7/05 at 1:15am

That's a cute dress! I say tramp it up some more and give yourself smokey eyes and a sex face for your prom, but, um, I may not be the best person to take that advise from.

[camerangel]

Posted: 1/7/05 at 1:16am

Tiff you are right on tonight with your advice..

sorry Im' not more useful..

[Alix7272]

Posted: 1/7/05 at 1:17am

hehe, if i had smokey eyes and all ppl wouldn't know what to think b/c that's so not me. it'd be pretty funny.

[luvtheEmcee]

Posted: 1/7/05 at 1:19am

*hugs Glory*
Tiff's right about looking at the person and not his/her gender. Take your time with telling your family, and be sure that you're solid in your recognitions of your feelings. And, hopefully, because they love you, they will understand that this is who you are. You can't help who you love; and even though it may be tough at first, they're family. They'll accept that.

[camerangel]

Posted: 1/7/05 at 1:20am

Thats adorable Alix..

[OneBlazeOfGlory]

Posted: 1/7/05 at 1:24am

'I can't say I know how you feel, but I've spent many-a-night up with this friend of mine (younger than you, actually) just being there to listen and try to help him as best I can. '
Been there done that. Thank all thats holy for insomniak. I would be a total wreck without her (or at least more so than now). I wanted to wait to post this until she could be here but I couldn't.

'More importantly, are you comfortable with who you are?'
not particularly. Texas brainwashing is probably to blame. I can't get it off my mind...everything I read/see/hear reminds me how F*CKed up my life suddenly is. I can't even look at my parents anymore, and they don't even know theres anything wrong.

[luvtheEmcee]

Posted: 1/7/05 at 1:28am

Is there *anyone* at home you can talk to?

[Type_A_Tiff]

Posted: 1/7/05 at 1:30am

Well, before you can expect anyone around you to understand and be accepting, you need to know if YOU accept yourself.

[OneBlazeOfGlory]

Posted: 1/7/05 at 1:34am

Was thinking about maybe calling my brother, but I dunno if that would help or make things worse. I'll probably wait until the weekend. Until then, expect a lot of pointless angsting from me...

Alright. I'm going to bed. Thanks for listening/reading.
That was actually easier than I thought it'd be.

[Alix7272]

Posted: 1/7/05 at 1:35am

good night and good luck with everything!

[camerangel]

Posted: 1/7/05 at 1:35am

OBOG~ what you are going through isn't easy and I'm sure its confuseing. You would think in this day and age society woul dbe a little more accepting of the diversity that is out there. Unfortunately people are still so brain washed about what is right because it is what has always been. they need to let go tof those ideas.

have your parents ever said anything about gays in general? Like the big upheaval on gay marriages, what kinds of things did they say.. this should give you an idea what their initial reaction "might" (and I stress the word might) be.. then you also have to remember that they are your parents and just like this is requiring an adjustment period for you, they will have to have tiem to adjust as well. Take your time and tell them when you are ready. You can't hide who you are but you need to do this in your own time.

[luvtheEmcee]

Posted: 1/7/05 at 1:36am

Try talking to your brother. He's been through this already.

Good night, sweetie. Get some rest.

[Type_A_Tiff]

Posted: 1/7/05 at 1:37am

G'night, OBOG!

Cam, well he said his brother's gay and that was hard for the parents to swallow, so it'll probably be a similar reaction. On the other hand though, if your parents have two gay sons, maybe it'll force them to be more accepting.


Okay, who else is up for angsting?

[luvtheEmcee]

Posted: 1/7/05 at 1:39am

I might be, actually... now that I'm here. Mine is also high-school-esque drama. Nia's already heard this, but I still feel like venting.
She isn't here anyway.

[Alix7272]

Posted: 1/7/05 at 1:40am

stupid computer won't print homework...big problem.

anyway, i should probably go finish turn of the screw since i have to do it by tomorrow so i can write an in class essay on no sleep - always fun.. shouldn't this be a blast? (sarcastic - it's so hard to do that on the computer)

thanks for listening everyone! it really made me feel better. sorry i had to angst and run, but i'll be here to listen other nights...promise.

good night.

edit: i'll probably end up staying while reading.

Updated On: 1/7/05 at 01:40 AM

[Type_A_Tiff]

Posted: 1/7/05 at 1:42am

Hey you know what I realized??? this is one of our first nights of high activity on this thread!

*claps*

YAY US!

[camerangel]

Posted: 1/7/05 at 1:43am

Night Alix

[luvtheEmcee]

Posted: 1/7/05 at 1:44am

aw, I like the hugging smileys!

It's weird... I'm never angsty. But, I like to try to help, so I'm glad I'm here. And hey, I can be angsty once in a while, can't I? Meh.