Daycare
Daycare
#1Daycare
Posted: 7/16/08 at 4:27pm
Ok, fair warning, this is me acting like a total baby, but it is what it is...
I just found out that I have to start ptofessional development on Monday. My new principal failed to mention this when she offered me the job. I thought I had an extra week to enjoy being at home with my son. I had to call our day care and let them know we would have to start on Monday and then skip the following week as my husband and Brian are coming with me to Chicago then start full time the first week of August. I am heartbroken because I didn't think I would have to leave him so soon.
So other moms who've been through this, how can I make this easier? I was trying to ease myself into this, but now it just feels like the rug was yanked out from under me and I'm a mess. I can't imagine being away from him all day.
Ok I'll quit blubbering and let you all get back to your regularly scheduled BWW debauchery.
"All the while making faces like a baby platypus who forget to take some Beano before eating a chimichanga." FindingNamo in reference to Jessica Simpson's singing.
DG
Broadway Legend Joined: 11/2/05
#2re: Daycare
Posted: 7/16/08 at 4:32pmKel - I can't even pretend to know what this entails emotionally, but I just want to say I'm sorry you are feeling bad. It can't be easy.
#2re: Daycare
Posted: 7/16/08 at 5:13pm
Thanks DG, it just kills me to think about not being with him and leaving him with someone else. I had an abusive babysitter who would hit us and give us beer to make us sleep among other things. I know that that is a rare occurrence, but I can't help but think, "what if?". Plus, I just don't want to lose time with him.
"All the while making faces like a baby platypus who forget to take some Beano before eating a chimichanga." FindingNamo in reference to Jessica Simpson's singing.
Updated On: 7/16/08 at 05:13 PM
Bluemoon
Broadway Legend Joined: 12/28/04
#3re: Daycare
Posted: 7/16/08 at 5:19pm
Been there, done that, cried my eyes out. It ain't easy, but remember - it's harder on you than it is on him.
If possible, can Greg drop him off the first day? The first day is the hardest and if you leave him while he's still at home it's easier to take than dropping him off. You can almost fool yourself into thinking you're running out to the store. You really don't need to show up for the first day on the job a blubbering mess.
StockardFan
Broadway Legend Joined: 6/19/08
#4re: Daycare
Posted: 7/16/08 at 5:43pm
Oh I am so sorry honey. I can't imagine. I have 2 kids and totally planned on going back to work after my oldest was born. I just couldn't do it.
I think the idea of your husband dropping him off is a good one. How old is he?
KFTC!!!!!
#5re: Daycare
Posted: 7/16/08 at 5:54pm
He is ten weeks old. I've already told Greg that he'll drop him off for the first week. I am going to go to the daycare tomorrow to meet the teacher. I am such a mess right now. I really want to stay home, but we can't afford it and I really want to teach. I just want to teach with Brian on my hip lol.
Does it get easier Moony?
"All the while making faces like a baby platypus who forget to take some Beano before eating a chimichanga." FindingNamo in reference to Jessica Simpson's singing.
StockardFan
Broadway Legend Joined: 6/19/08
#6re: Daycare
Posted: 7/16/08 at 6:08pm
I used to be a teacher before I moved to the state I live in now, and if I had still been teaching I would have gone back. But the job I had sucked so it was a no-brainer to stay home.
I can imagine that leaving a 10 week old would be agony. But I'm sure he'll be fine. How far is the daycare from where you work? Maybe you could visit him on your free period?
I would be a mess too, but in the long run everything will be fine.....you'll see!
KFTC!!!!!
#7re: Daycare
Posted: 7/16/08 at 6:12pmIts a 25 minute drive so I wouldn't be to do that. Ugh, I didn't think I would take this so badly...
"All the while making faces like a baby platypus who forget to take some Beano before eating a chimichanga." FindingNamo in reference to Jessica Simpson's singing.
StockardFan
Broadway Legend Joined: 6/19/08
#8re: Daycare
Posted: 7/16/08 at 6:22pmI wish I had better advice for you.....I'm sure after a few weeks it will get easier, but I know the first few days will be hard.
KFTC!!!!!
#9re: Daycare
Posted: 7/16/08 at 6:24pm
Oh sweetie...I'm sorry. I can't imagine how hard this must be for you.
I'm assuming you've done some research on the Daycare though, right? It's easy for me to sit here and say that everything will be fine, but that's one thing that I am very thankful to miss as a SAHD.
StockardFan
Broadway Legend Joined: 6/19/08
#11re: Daycare
Posted: 7/16/08 at 6:31pm
Just Band-aid it. It's going to suck either way, but the more you dwell on it, the more upset you'll make yourself. It will get easier, I promise.
StockardFan
Broadway Legend Joined: 6/19/08
#13re: Daycare
Posted: 7/16/08 at 6:34pmMy friend Geoff is a SAHD as well and he loves it.....
KFTC!!!!!
#14re: Daycare
Posted: 7/16/08 at 6:38pm
I think it was what I was built to do. Of course, ask me in a year. 
Back to Kel...
Is there anything you can take to ease the anxiety of the separation? That kind of stress is only going to exacerbate the apoplexy.
#15re: Daycare
Posted: 7/16/08 at 7:06pm
I'm going in tomorrow to meet the lead "teacher" of the class. I'm worried about it because I'm scared that I won't like her because if I don't like her then how can I leave Brian with her? We've already decided that Greg will be the one to take him to day care and I will pick him up so that I can deal with the separation a little easier. I know that he will be fine, I know it, but I don't know how I will be able to deal with it. I'm sure that after a few weeks I'll get over it, but right now I'm just dealing with the shock of it all. I feel cheated because I was supposed to have an extra week, but they just sprung this PD at me and now I'm kind of stuck in this situation that I have been trying to slowly ease myself into. I had arranged for the neighbors to watch him tomorrow night so that Greg and I could go on a "just us" outting, but yet another surprise- there is a function at the school that I have to go to that they didn't tell me about until this afternoon in a letter. So that was going to be my "easing" into it. I was going to see that I could leave him and everything be ok, but I can't do that now. I just have to go into this cold turkey.
We don't have family up here so we don't have a real good support system for child care. Its just been us. I've been away from Brian a total of 5 hours since he was born. That's it... Now I have to go 8-9 hours a day away from him?
Like I said, fair warning I'm being a baby about this. I will get over it because I will be back in the classroom with other kids that need me and millions of mom's do this every day, I'm just not ready for it yet. Part of me was holding out that I would be able to some how work it out that I could be a SAHM, but that's just not in the financial cards.
"All the while making faces like a baby platypus who forget to take some Beano before eating a chimichanga." FindingNamo in reference to Jessica Simpson's singing.
DG
Broadway Legend Joined: 11/2/05
#16re: Daycare
Posted: 7/16/08 at 7:15pm
As I said, I really can't imagine. But, for what it's worth:
I had a mother who WAS always 'there', but didn't want to be - so she might as well have not been. Your love and concern for your child is palpable, and it's impossible for me to think that he doesn't feel and know that, even at this very early stage - and even if you have to spend some time apart during the day.
What you are doing is also for his benefit, as well. While there is pain of seperation, you must hold onto the fact that all you are doing is out of love - let that ease your heart and mind. Know that the time you DO have with him will be infused with all the attention you are able to give.
You are a strong woman who has demonstrated an ability to overcome fear and uncertainty to live your life to the fullest. Some day, when he is able, your son will glow with pride at all his mother was able to be and accomplish.
#17re: Daycare
Posted: 7/16/08 at 9:20pmDG, thank you. I am literally sitting here with tears running down my face after reading that. You've made me feel better and undeservedly flattered. Thank you so, so much for your kind words, you are a wonderful friend. Thank you sweetheart.
"All the while making faces like a baby platypus who forget to take some Beano before eating a chimichanga." FindingNamo in reference to Jessica Simpson's singing.
DG
Broadway Legend Joined: 11/2/05
#19daycare
Posted: 7/16/08 at 9:33pm
and give us beer
man, why did i never get the cool babysitter?
r.i.p. marco, my guardian angel.
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#20daycare
Posted: 7/16/08 at 9:35pm
It wasn't cool in the long run papa, to this day I HATE beer. Despise it, loathe it. It tastes like cold pee regardless of the brand.
"All the while making faces like a baby platypus who forget to take some Beano before eating a chimichanga." FindingNamo in reference to Jessica Simpson's singing.
#21daycare
Posted: 7/16/08 at 9:37pmnot. gonna. touch. that.
r.i.p. marco, my guardian angel.
...global warming can manifest itself as heat, cool, precipitation, storms, drought, wind, or any other phenomenon, much like a shapeshifter. -- jim geraghty
pray to st. jude
i'm a sonic reducer
he was the gimmicky sort
fenchurch=mejusthavingfun=magwildwood=mmousefan=bkcollector=bradmajors=somethingtotalkabout: the fenchurch mpd collective
...global warming can manifest itself as heat, cool, precipitation, storms, drought, wind, or any other phenomenon, much like a shapeshifter. -- jim geraghty
pray to st. jude
i'm a sonic reducer
he was the gimmicky sort
fenchurch=mejusthavingfun=magwildwood=mmousefan=bkcollector=bradmajors=somethingtotalkabout: the fenchurch mpd collective
DG
Broadway Legend Joined: 11/2/05
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