Do you find the phrase 'straight-acting' offensive?- Page 3

[best12bars]

Posted: 4/22/08 at 4:21pm

Wait...

Why do being effeminate and homosexuality act equate each other?

They don't.

One is a behavior and the other is engaging in a sexual act.

"Acting gay"

Sounds like some of you are talking about two different things.

[phantom8019]

Posted: 4/22/08 at 4:22pm

In response to JRB Actor
I'm just saying there are a million differences... so many that you may not even notice them. You don't even think about them. But the tricky thing is they really do shape us.

There are the societal differences... depending on where you go on your date, it may be frowned upon if you put your arm around the guy. If you put it around the girl, no one cares. How we react to situations like this definitely shapes who we are.

Another difference--the girl may talk about things like having a baby and stuff at some point. Sure, you can adopt with a guy or have a surrogate parent, but for a woman, carrying a baby is a deeply personal and life-changing event.

Biologic differences--you have to touch the girl in different places. It's a no brainer, but it does make things different.

Not to mention all the behavioral crap that our hormones affect.
Arguments may proceed differently...
Of course there are a million things that shape our personalities. I'm just zooming in on the relationship aspect.
I believe that almost every event in my life has shaped me to some extent. I know some people are not as analytical as I am.
Updated On: 4/22/08 at 04:22 PM

[doodlenyc]

Posted: 4/22/08 at 4:22pm

The term "straight acting" is making that assumption, besty.

[best12bars]

Posted: 4/22/08 at 4:26pm

I prefer "behaving straightly."

Or "withholding gayness."

Or "non-gayish posturing."

Those are much more clear.

[lildogs]

Posted: 4/22/08 at 4:28pm

I think you're right, phantom. Plus you're cute which makes you more right. There are important differences...straights don't generally have to worry about being attacked for holding hands and gays can fashionably wear each other's clothes.

[doodlenyc]

Posted: 4/22/08 at 4:30pm

I just like the word gayish.

[phantom8019]

Posted: 4/22/08 at 4:31pm

Ha ha thanks.
There are a milllion differences, but I'm sure there are a million similarities too.
My rule in life is that many things appear very simple. And that's fine. But the more you zoom in on them, the more complex they often appear.

[best12bars]

Posted: 4/22/08 at 4:32pm

...gayesque?

...gay-adjacent?

[jrb_actor]

Posted: 4/22/08 at 4:33pm

but then things aren't exactly equal then are they?

I'm plenty analytical. And I think those million things make each person unique. And therefore each couple unique. But not people as a rule.

You can feel different. You can be a gay man in a gay relationship. I'm gonna be a human in a relationship.

[doodlenyc]

Posted: 4/22/08 at 4:34pm

How about just gaysh...sort of like fab...

[phantom8019]

Posted: 4/22/08 at 4:37pm

It's a very small part of your humanity.
It's like me being Italian.
That affected me in different ways than if I were Irish (assuming we both followed our traditions). I mean, this is why they study the diets of certain ethnicities... to see why their rates of certain diseases are lower or higher.
As I was saying earlier, it's cool to focus in on this stuff but realize it is not the whole.
I don't believe people can be made truly "equal." What can be established is a climate where differences are tolerated.

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[best12bars]

Posted: 4/22/08 at 4:40pm

"I don't believe people can be made truly "equal." What can be established is a climate where differences are tolerated."

VERY nicely put.


EDIT: (okay, I fixed your typo, but it was still nicely put.)

Updated On: 4/22/08 at 04:40 PM

[lildogs]

Posted: 4/22/08 at 4:43pm

italian too...heavens...

best--you make-a me laugh...you're like OUR MISS BROOKS!

[jrb_actor]

Posted: 4/22/08 at 4:46pm

I can definitely agree with that last post, phantom.

[phantom8019]

Posted: 4/22/08 at 4:47pm

What, you never heard of tolerared?
It means... it's um... a rare toll. That's it, yeah. One time I had to pay a toll to drive down my street. I never had to pay such a toll before. So, in effect, you could say I was "tolerared." Ok I'll shut up.

Ha ha thanks for fixing it. I fixed it too in my post.

[best12bars]

Posted: 4/22/08 at 4:49pm

I say it that way too, after a few martinis.

[Phyllis Rogers Stone]

Posted: 4/22/08 at 4:50pm

It would seem to me that some of our straight-acting identified brethren could learn a little tolerance themselves.

[lildogs]

Posted: 4/22/08 at 4:51pm

Live Agnes!

[WOSQ]

Posted: 4/22/08 at 4:56pm

Straight acting...like Dom De Luise and Richard Simmons, right? I mean they do both act a role.