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He's just not that into you

Posted: 2/21/05 at 4:07pm

Is anyone else reading this book?
I bought it the other day, and I do declare:
My spirits are sinking a little.

re: He's just not that into you

Posted: 2/21/05 at 4:08pm

Anybody see the authors on Jay Leno the other day? She has a boyfriend - I feel cheated!

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Posted: 2/21/05 at 4:10pm

why read a book thats bringing you down like that?? if anything, its better to look at it as 'hes just not the one' than 'hes just not that into you'

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Posted: 2/21/05 at 4:10pm

I think they ripped off the idea after Sex & the City used it in an episode. Miranda feels liberated to find out "he's just not that into you."

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Posted: 2/21/05 at 4:10pm

I have it. I figured I have no self esteem anyway, how could it possibly get any lower, right?

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Posted: 2/21/05 at 4:11pm

Well, at least someone has a man...
Still, how depressing!

re: He's just not that into you

Posted: 2/21/05 at 4:11pm

Some of what it says about not lowering your standards is good advice!

Updated On: 2/21/05 at 04:11 PM

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Posted: 2/21/05 at 4:11pm

They were the writers on Sex and the City in the first place, Love4Cheno!

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Posted: 2/21/05 at 4:12pm

I've read parts of it and it's eerily a little too close to home in some instances.

But there's a book out now that is a counter point to this one now, isn't there?

"... Still a little bit of your taste in my mouth. Still a little bit of you laced with my doubt. Still a little hard to say what's going on..." Damien Rice

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Posted: 2/21/05 at 4:12pm

Yup, I read it a couple of months ago. At first I was depressed, and there are some things I don't agree with (i.e. that you MUST wait for him to make the first move because if he likes you, he will - oh please) but I like the principle; That being that you shouldn't waste your prime skulking after a guy who doesn't treat you like a queen. Find someone who'll treat you the way you deserve.

Then again, I read the book and laughed at all the silly examples and idiotic women, and then finished Chapter: "He's Just Not That Into You If He's Breaking Up With You" and my expression went

...

Oh, the beauty of 20/20 hindsight.

PS. Love4Cheno, the authors were the consultant and writer of the SatC episode.

"It's not always about you!!!" (But if you think I'm referring to you anyway, then I probably am.)

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#11

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Posted: 2/21/05 at 4:16pm

Did anyone hear of that one "Lets Face it, Your Not That Into Him Either"? Sounds fun

If you want to know what God thinks of money, just look at the people he gave it to. -Dorothy Parker

#12

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Posted: 2/21/05 at 4:17pm

No! Can you link me?

#13

re: He's just not that into you

Posted: 2/21/05 at 4:17pm

Ah, they created the phrase to begin with- makes sense.

How can there be so many attractive, intelligent, nice single people in this city??? (Assuming you're in NYC).

I'm single too. Have been forever.

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#14

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Posted: 2/21/05 at 4:18pm

I did hear about it!
Its next on my list of bubble bath books!

#15

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Posted: 2/21/05 at 4:19pm

Love4Cheno, it's because those who are alone are holding out for better.

At least, that's what I'll be telling my 20 cats a few years down the road.

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Posted: 2/21/05 at 4:20pm

I've been plagued with double-post-itis.

Updated On: 2/21/05 at 04:20 PM

#17

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Posted: 2/21/05 at 4:23pm

Here's the Amazon page:

You're not that into him

If you want to know what God thinks of money, just look at the people he gave it to. -Dorothy Parker

#18

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Posted: 2/21/05 at 4:25pm

I always treat my girlfriend like a queen. Of course I don't have one now...and am looking.. *HINT* *HINT*

David walked into the valley With a stone clutched in his hand He was only a boy But he knew someone must take a stand There will always be a valley Always mountains one must scale There will always be perilous waters Which someone must sail -Into the Fire Scarlet Pimpernel

#19

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Posted: 2/21/05 at 4:29pm

Jacob, there's nothing I find sexier than a man who can treat his imaginary woman right.

#20

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Posted: 2/21/05 at 4:30pm

Honestly, my imaginary girlfriend's a little too skanky for my tastes. Sure, she's fun for now, but I don't really see it going anywhere.

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Posted: 2/21/05 at 7:02pm

' Jacob, there's nothing I find sexier than a man who can treat his imaginary woman right."

Thanks Tiff.

#22

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Posted: 2/21/05 at 7:39pm

That book just doesn't seem to be my speed...neither was "The Rules". I'm just takin' it day by day....

And jacob, I guess they don't make 'em like you 'round here.

"You can only become truly accomplished at something you love. Don't make money your goal. Instead, pursue the things you love doing, and do them so well that people can't take their eyes off you." - Maya Angelou

#23

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Posted: 2/22/05 at 11:35am

Not too long ago I was having quite a few problems with the man in my life. It was the 5 year mark with us..... one friend said 'get the Last 5 Years'.... another friend called me up at work one day and said 'Oh my god, I just read this book and thought of you, you HAVE to go home and get it tonight, you'll devour it the way I did. Don't let the title fool you, humor me and read it anyway.'

Okay, so I bought the book on the way home that night and I did indeed devour it. It took over a week for the contents of the book to *really* sink in with me and then it just depressed the hell out of me. There are some people I can think of who desperately need this book (like my friend's now ex-girlfriend -- take. a. hint.) but for those of us just trying to get by and make it work, I don't see it serving any amazing purpose. If anything, not only did it depress me, it upset me and caused more problems in our relationship than I was causing by my own paranoia. (not to mention it CREATED more paranoia!)

Once I put the ideas in the book out of my head and just took 'us' day by day, I have to say that we've come into a much better place.... and easily by-passed everything that was going wrong when I read it.

"You're every gay man's wet dream!" ~ MA

If in Heaven you don't excel, you can always party down in hell...

#24

He's just not that into you

Posted: 2/22/05 at 4:40pm

I saw the male co-author on Oprah.
I have not read the book, so I may be wrong on the following comment...

This book makes it seem as though NO MAN is EVER that into you.

I feel bad for men everywhere.
Particularly shy men, broke men, and over-worked men.
No woman that follows the philosophy of the male co-author is going to think that those men are into them.

I also feel bad for women with low self-esteem.
They're going to think that no man is into them, has ever been into them, or will ever be into them.

I know a shy guy who is interested in a girl with low self-esteem.
She is interested in him as well.
She recently read this book.
Unfortunately, he's too shy to make any sort of a move, and gets a bit flustered around her.
She takes his lack of initiative as a sign that he's "not that into her".
He IS into her, and I've told her that.
She says that if he were into her he would show it more.
(The book apparently lead her to this.)
She feels that he is not into her, and no man has ever been into her.
When she talks to him, she's less flirty now, because she's trying to protect herself emotionally.
He takes this as a sign that she's not interested, making him retreat and be even less likely to do something about his feelings.

I don't get this book.

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