1. HOMECOMING
In high school, I attended one homecoming (senior year), and two proms.
In general, dances are overrated (particularly prom... Why do people make such a big deal about it? ESPECIALLY girls. Some of them treat it like it's their wedding or something. I don't get it.)
But 'overrated' doesn't mean 'pointless'.
I always had fun.
Even when I didn't think I would.
Dances can be fun, but only if you let them.
Speaking from experience, I have to say that going without a date can actually be MORE fun.
I had dates to 2/3, and both of them DITCHED me shortly after getting to the dance (one was in a fight that he felt the need to resolve at the dance. the other had a different primary friend group than I did, and he decided he'd rather hang out with them).
I didn't even care.
It was really nice to just be able to hang out with my friends, dance like dorks, and belt out the words along with "Lady Marmalade".
And I didn't have to do that whole awkward slow-dancing thing very much (well, date #1 made me dance with him at the end of the night. He was gay and is now a musical theatre major, so he was an excellent dancer.)
The point is, you can definitely have fun without a date.
I think you should consider going.
But in the end, you have to do what's right for you.
2. DATING AND KISSING
(I can't believe I'm actually sharing this information on a message board) Guys were never interested in me in high school.
I don't think I was any more awkward than anyone else was, so I don't have a great explanation for it.
(I think I was a pretty cool high schooler, but whatever... their loss)
When I got to college, I started getting a bit more of a response from guys, but it was mostly when they were either drunk, desperate, taken, or a combination.
The next two statements are going to make you feel better about yourself:
My first kiss was halfway through my freshman year of college.
My first boyfriend is the one I currently have. (our first date was in April, which was the end of our junior year of college).
Yes, there were times in high school when I felt as frustrated as you do now.
But looking back, I like the way things worked out.
I never went through any crappy quasi-relationships in high school like my friends did.
I didn't want to waste my time on guys who I thought might be the equivalents of the jerks that my friends had dated.
I am fully aware of the fact that what I am about to say is very cliched, very hard to believe, and sucks a lot, but you need to hear me out on this:
Things will happen when they're supposed to.
So don't get down.
Don't lose faith.
You sound a lot like the way one of my best guy friends did a couple of years ago, and now SUDDENLY AND OUT OF NO WHERE he has girls following him EVERYWHERE (which is really weird to me, the friend he always called to complain about how he hadn't been kissed in years and girls never liked him).
He even has one girl who keeps driving here from out of state because she wants him so badly.
See?
There's hope.
There's a hell of a lot of hope.
You might just be destined to be an insane ladies' man like my good friend.
I hope that helps.
:)
Hang in there.
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