Is That You in Your Avatar? It's 11:11... Make a Wish!- Page 89

[JerseyGirl2]

Posted: 10/26/07 at 9:21pm

Honey, I am only two years of Jersey. I am Tennessee at heart. You should SEE what my father calls traffic.

[vmlinnie]

Posted: 10/26/07 at 9:28pm

Due time has come and gone, friend, and there's no sign that anything is getting better. So I reckon a random probably intoxicated disco in town with some friends, mostly my girl-friends who are a bit cooler with my percieved gayness (not all know for sure) than my homophobes of guys, could be just the trick. And yet, I've always maintained that I'm much more interested in a relationship that randomly getting stuck into people. That's still true. But I just can't find that. Frankly, I hate the idea of a stereotypical gay future, moving with effortless infidelity between partners and casual aquaintances 'with benefits'. I want to believe there's something more. But when you can't even find a single 16 year old guy who swings the right way in a city of a million, it's not the time to become picky.

[tazber]

Posted: 10/26/07 at 9:34pm

Linnie hon, just look at all the happily "married" gay couples on this board!
D2
DG
Diva
DD

Hmmmm, consider changing your name to Dinnie.

Updated On: 10/26/07 at 09:34 PM

[DG]

Posted: 10/26/07 at 9:37pm

"Frankly, I hate the idea of a stereotypical gay future, moving with effortless infidelity between partners and casual aquaintances 'with benefits'."

Linnie, that's only the stereotype of those who choose that life. Trust me, not everyone does - as dear Taz so helpfully pointed out

[midnghtdolphin]

Posted: 10/26/07 at 9:37pm

so. not to change the subject, but tomorrow night's the halloween party! woohoo! i get to dress up! lol. yes, i'm 12 when it comes to halloween.

[DG]

Posted: 10/26/07 at 9:38pm

Middy - sounds like you're 12 . . . and gay

Have a great time!

[vmlinnie]

Posted: 10/26/07 at 9:38pm

Becoming a Deet or Boobs (Doobs, perhaps?) or any of those you mentioned would be great. But it must be noted that they for the most part (I'm not sure if all, but it could be...) found the person they're with a good bit later down the track than where I am. I see some of my friends have been together with the same people for a year, two years, even three in one case. They remind me of my parents, they seem destined to stick with each other. And yet, although a lot of straight couples seem to manage to stick together after the teenage times (I'll grant you, not all that many on the overall scheme, but quite a few), it doesn't seem to work that way for us. And it's just impossible to meet people here.


ETA: Sorry, that was a reply to taz. Yes, DG, right. And Middy, I'm planning to dress up wither as an Taoiseach (Prime Minister, total baffoon), or John Delaney, the be-wigged muppet who's in charge of our currently controversial and woeful international football association.

Updated On: 10/26/07 at 09:38 PM

[tazber]

Posted: 10/26/07 at 9:44pm

It is definitely more difficult to be a gay teen. And that's not just in Ireland, it's everywhere b/c you have to deal with keeping things on the d/l as well as all the emotional tumult that teens go through.
It's just one of those things that will become a non-issue as you gain your independence and mature.
(not that you're immature, you're exceedingly mature for your age)

But every 16 year old goes through a variation of what you are going through and they all come through it fine.

Hang in there little buddy!

Updated On: 10/26/07 at 09:44 PM

[DG]

Posted: 10/26/07 at 9:44pm

Linnie - at least in my case you're right. I was 38 when I settled down with the TinMan (the first and only, mind you.)

Please, PLEASE don't take this the wrong way - you're only 16, right? Life seems at a standstill right now because you feel READY to live it ALL AT ONCE.

I'm certain that circumstances will allow you - probably sooner than later - to start to meet people that will allow you this full expression of your life.

And I don't mean to come across as condescending - truly. I KNOW it sucks - there's a reason I went out trolling public restrooms as a young teen. But honestly, your life WILL catch up to itself, and you WILL find others you can interact with.

[midnghtdolphin]

Posted: 10/26/07 at 9:44pm

halloween is my FAVORITEST holiday!

and linnie, you're young still. and high school is... well... high school. once that's over people change A LOT. many get decidely less "oh my god, he's gay! ewww" and a lot even come out. you're just an early bloomer. give it time. (sucks, i know).

[vmlinnie]

Posted: 10/26/07 at 9:51pm

You didn't sound condescending at all, DG. The three of you seem to have the same message. And I do think you're right, but if all the other guys and girls in my class weren't 'living it', I don't think I would feel like I'm missing out on something. The fact of the matter is they are, and I'm not, and I can only attribute it to the fact that it's so much easier for them to meet people.

And I must admit that I'm slightly unlucky in some ways, and that's it. I would have told my parents by now, if it weren't for my school. A girl in my class got suspended this week for dying her hair. She didn't even do it, she was in a modelling competition for a hair salon chain (a wonderful thing to happen to her), and they dyed it. If they suspend people for that, there's little hope for the rest of us.

Sorry for testing all of your skills as shrinks! Haha.

[soapguy17]

Posted: 10/26/07 at 9:51pm

I tried to word it a million different ways, but it's not coming out right, but basically I would've said what Tazzy is saying. You (and me) are in a bit of a waiting stage. The boys will catch up sooner or later.

[wonderfulwizard11]

Posted: 10/26/07 at 9:53pm

If it helps any Linnie, it's pretty impossible to find another guy as well. You'd think in an all-boy school, there would be at least on other gay boy, but...

I I'd second DG's advice. While I would always look for a long lasting relationship as well, you're still a teenager (and so am I), and I'd bet some of the relationships your friends have will not last as long as high school goes on. Several senior couples I knew last year had been together for a long time have since broken up now that they're in college.

[midnghtdolphin]

Posted: 10/26/07 at 9:57pm

linnie, in a weird way i had the same issues... kind of. i knew everyone in my high school since kindergarten. there was no way i wanted to date any of them. trust us, once high school's over things change a lot.

[vmlinnie]

Posted: 10/26/07 at 9:58pm

We're all in the same boat then, lads. Or perhaps have been, in the elders' cases.

Are you out, WW?

(Sorry for completely threadjacking)

[midnghtdolphin]

Posted: 10/26/07 at 9:59pm

subject change again:

TAZZY! you owe me a review mister!

[wonderfulwizard11]

Posted: 10/26/07 at 10:00pm

I am. Well, if you consider having "Interested in Men" on my Facebook profile out, then I am out at school (and to family as well).

[tazber]

Posted: 10/26/07 at 10:01pm

I was wondering when you were gonna mention that middi.
Give me til Monday?

[midnghtdolphin]

Posted: 10/26/07 at 10:03pm

*shakes head* tazzy, tazzy, tazzy. what are we gonna do with you?

[vmlinnie]

Posted: 10/26/07 at 10:04pm

Cool cool, Wiz! That's good.

Sorry if I've slightly usurped the partay. And I should probably run now, 3am. Have to get a bus in to town tomorrow for matinee. Everyone else at this dead gathering is asleep.

Night, avs. Thanks.

[wonderfulwizard11]

Posted: 10/26/07 at 10:06pm

Night Linnie!

[DG]

Posted: 10/26/07 at 10:06pm

Linnie - you haven't threadjacked anything! This is a mini sub-community, and you are a valued member. I won't speak for anyone else, but from my perspective, I am THRILLED that you have the opportunity to vent these thoughts and feelings SOMEWHERE.

It almost makes up for much of the drivel that takes place here

And WW, good for you!

[soapguy17]

Posted: 10/26/07 at 10:08pm

WW, I would die at an all boys school. I'm a bit of a fag hag whore.

[midnghtdolphin]

Posted: 10/26/07 at 10:08pm

dg, are you saying our thread is drivel? *cries* but... but... WHO ELSE WILL LISTEN TO MY COUNTDOWN!?!?

[DG]

Posted: 10/26/07 at 10:10pm

Middy - I meant this type of thing makes up for the drivel of the board in general.

Trust me, your countdown is actually something I watch with amusement and a big smile on my face. It's that type of sharing that keeps me around