Is this too harsh? — Page 2

yup bdwaygirl, exactly! It's going to have to stop soon though, after I posted this and looked at it more clearly, you all are totally right, of course.

Mattius, if he really was a skirtchaser who only cares about women for their looks, I can see why he's your "ex" now.

Liotte, of course we're right! And we're more or less unanimous too! Sure, a FB is great, and useful, and appreciated, but really, it's not hard getting laid - it's hard getting laid with quality.

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I only see this guy every few months, as I live in NYC and he is in Chicago. 8 years of hooking up, and it's just natural now. We don't hang out much outside of the bedroom. Which I definitely prefer.

Sounds like all the guys i know...

i'm going to be devil's advocate here. If the sex is that good, and you just hook with him for that on a only semi-periodic basis, why do you care how his apartment/tub reeks in a city you don't even share with him?

i get it that you guys are just f/buds. i admire your honesty about that. But your list sounds like a girlfriend trying to renovate before taking over ownership.

i'd advise just taking control of the hook-ups. If he'll bathe, change into clean skimpies, and join you at your hotel in Chicago or your apartment in NYC (or at the home of another friend you crash with whilst visiting Chicago, if you can't afford the hotel and don't want to expose yourself to his housekeeping), then you will enjoy his one redeeming quality and remain his admittedly boundaried friend.

Otherwise, move on. Don't try to play the poor unevolved peg-for-your-round-holes both ways.

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Updated On: 4/14/05 at 12:25 PM

i'm trying to model myself on Carolyn Hax of syndicated ASK CAROLYN fame. Her columns are great, and help me see patterns in my own life where i try to control others. It's a hard hobby to give up.

P.S. PM me contact info on the peg. Maybe he likes variety, and i don't care about housekeeping that much either. *wink*

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