Good news, Addy! And Cookie, are you still ill? Or just sleeping?
Sorry about your bad news, Bway. If your brother's relationship can be saved, there are some books by psychologist Harville Hendrix that might help. Harville has been on Oprah many times saving couples. The books are called "Getting the Love You Want" (for couples) and "Keeping the Love You Find" for individuals.
Harville and his wife Helen Hunt (no, not THAT Helen Hunt) also derived a form of couples therapy called Imago Relationship Counseling, and there are gifted practitioners in most major cities. Check the books out.
And Beacon, I've never told you this, but I love your Patrick pictures.
Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples