Seeking intelligent opinions
Seeking intelligent opinions
Seeking intelligent opinions#0
Posted: 11/2/06 at 10:00am
here's my quandry
A friend asked if I want to go see Wicked with him in LA (neither his partner nor mine have an urge to see it, and I've seen it in NYC).
I said sure, but only a matinee and gave him a price I did not want to go over.
He calls yesterday and says he f-ed up. First the tix are more expensive, but he'll cover the difference, but worse....
the idiot bought tix for the same day he has concert tix that night in LA.
So, I can either stay in LA, and go to that other concert after Wicked (which frankly I am not interested in) and not get home til late, or I can politely say "too bad, your screw-up" and not go, or I can drive, then drive him to Sherman Oaks for his other ticket, and then drive home.
He is not a close friend, and he's supposed to drive. I'm rather pissed as either I inconvenience myself or I piss him off.
What would you do?
re: Seeking intelligent opinions#1
Posted: 11/2/06 at 10:18amapparently the 18 people who have read this are not intelligent as no comments.......yes, this is trite and banal, but opinions please......even "the 18" may now feel free to comment ;oP
re: Seeking intelligent opinions#2
Posted: 11/2/06 at 10:23amGo to Wicked then come over and vist me!
re: Seeking intelligent opinions#3
Posted: 11/2/06 at 10:29amyes Dear, that is what I was considering were you available......I guess I'm just pissed at him for being an idiot.......
re: Seeking intelligent opinions#4
Posted: 11/2/06 at 10:30amWell, repeat after me ... Darwin was wrong.
re: Seeking intelligent opinions#5
Posted: 11/2/06 at 10:32amlol...how far are you from Whittier? Turns out his other thing is in Whittier, not Sherman Oaks
re: Seeking intelligent opinions#6
Posted: 11/2/06 at 10:39am
OK, I'll chime in. Just from reading your post, my gut is saying don't go, because that's all you'll be thinking about...the inconvenience, etc. The times I end up putting someone's needs (and I don't mean serious situations) before mine, I end up regretting it.
re: Seeking intelligent opinions#7
Posted: 11/2/06 at 10:44am
It depends on Traffic - without 30-40 minutes.
Come on over, meet the kids, we can chat and order in food!
re: Seeking intelligent opinions#8
Posted: 11/2/06 at 10:49amwikll you let me call you my Sassy Hagness?
re: Seeking intelligent opinions#9
Posted: 11/2/06 at 10:49amwill you let me call you my Sassy Hagness?
re: Seeking intelligent opinions#10
Posted: 11/2/06 at 10:54am
You, yes.
But you have to say it three times and then click your heels!
Broadway Legend Joined: 4/12/06
re: Seeking intelligent opinions#11
Posted: 11/2/06 at 10:57amI think you should suck it up and go. We all get stuck in situations like this, maybe it will be fun.
Broadway Legend Joined: 3/29/05
re: Seeking intelligent opinions#12
Posted: 11/2/06 at 1:06pm
Plan A - first choice: Go to Wicked than go hang with YWIW and the kitties.
Plan B - second choice: Call friend and say "Oh darn - I can't make it to the concert that night because I have to go to XYZ. I was really planning on going home after Wicked. Tell you what - is there someone else that might want to go to Wicked with you? Then you won't have to worry about driving me back to Palm Springs..." (I think you are in PS? Oh well - if not, for example's sake!)
Bottom line - if you decline, be nice about it, but hint that it's his f-up!
Updated On: 11/2/06 at 01:06 PM
re: Seeking intelligent opinions#13
Posted: 11/2/06 at 1:31pm
Honestly, I might tell the guy that he is screwed if you didn't have a very nice alternative that has presented itself here. I hate it when people can't plan adequately. Even if you don't carry it out...PLAN IT BETTER! 
If I were you, I'd go see Wicked and then go hang out with Deb.
Or...you could go see Wicked and then we could all go hang out somewhere.
Updated On: 11/2/06 at 01:31 PM
Broadway Legend Joined: 6/20/03
re: Seeking intelligent opinions#14
Posted: 11/2/06 at 1:37pm
Since you're driving in from Palm Springs anyway, why don't you just tell him you'll meet him at the theatre. After which you can drive back to Palm Springs without having to go to Sherman Oaks, and he can drive to his concert which is what he would of had to have done anyway. You still hold up your end of the bargin by attending the performance with him, and don't have to schlepp to Sherman Oaks for no reason.
Broadway Legend Joined: 6/9/03
re: Seeking intelligent opinions#15
Posted: 11/2/06 at 2:26pm
Call me cynical (shut up) but is it POSSIBLE that your friend did this intentionally, one, so he would have someone to attend BOTH events with and, two, so he would have someone to drive him home should have too much to drink that evening? Either way, I bet you end up driving his car or yours.
If you don't want to go tell him to find someone else to use the ticket or just offer to pay him the amount you agreed to (before he jacked up the price) and cut your losses.
re: Seeking intelligent opinions#16
Posted: 11/2/06 at 2:38pm
I'm a born-and-bred New Yorker, so I never understand this "driving" thing anyway.
Why can't everyone just take cabs?
re: Seeking intelligent opinions#17
Posted: 11/2/06 at 3:09pm
justaguy he was driving, not me
Sueleen, he AND his partner are going to the other concert......so I am not necessary there.....he just didn't use his noggin when making the WICKED plans....
so I'll go, and then see Deb, and maybe we can get together with Patronus........(which frankly in my opinion will be more fun than Wicked)
re: Seeking intelligent opinions#18
Posted: 11/2/06 at 3:17pm
I can be a pretty dull guy...but I'm definitely more fun than Wicked!
re: Seeking intelligent opinions#19
Posted: 11/2/06 at 3:22pmNot dull at all - especially with your super-duper side kick!
Broadway Legend Joined: 11/15/05
re: Seeking intelligent opinions#20
Posted: 11/2/06 at 3:27pmI think the answer is obvious. Take the tickets, scalp them in front of the theater and go buy yourself something pretty.
re: Seeking intelligent opinions#21
Posted: 11/2/06 at 3:34pm
Awwww, thanks D! :)
We should do something absolutely absurd and goofy. We could go to Medieval Times!
Broadway Legend Joined: 11/2/05
re: Seeking intelligent opinions#22
Posted: 11/2/06 at 3:42pmJust curious - if we're talking about WICKED tickets, which doesn't even open until February, couldn't he check into an exchange? Or see if someone wanted to buy the ones he's got and then go on another day?
re: Seeking intelligent opinions#23
Posted: 11/2/06 at 4:21pm
cheeze has the best idea of all!
DG......if you knew this person you wouldn't even ask that. That was my first thought, but he's convinced they can't be changed....
re: Seeking intelligent opinions#24
Posted: 11/2/06 at 5:12pmI agree with justaguy, why do you have to drive together? Drive yourself to the theatre, meet him, and then drive yourself home after the show and he can go to his concert. Simple.
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