"WHY can't the folks who have the balls to stand behind their convictions be the ones to participate? "
Well, dear, sweet, naive Q, you see, people who have "real" relationships don't have to hide behind anything--including their computer screen--to say what they think. They actually have human friends.
(YWIW, I was being IRONIC!)
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