TELLING YOUR PARENTS YOUR.....

Gay!! Okay guys...Im 16! I have known it for a while. It doesn't bother me at all. Why should it. And why should it bother anyone else. It is how I am made. But telling my parents:

Oh BOY!
Is it even worth telling them. I actually think they kinda know already. They are not dumb people! They no more very well. Even though my mom asks me about girls I just play along with her, but I really think she knows. Both of my parents are very accepting of people and don't judge. But THEY are catholic, and my dad is kinda conservative(or he thinks he is...hehe) But then i think why do they have to know. It's not like they need to now. Especially now. I mean i am young. And i think I am ready but i think this dumb as community isn't. So i know it wouldn't be a good move for me just with all the other harassment issues i have put up with kids at school. They don't need another reason to make fun of me. I graduate next year (i am graduating early) I can't wait cause i feel that then is when my REAL life is gonna start. I hate that i have waited this past years, but i think it was the best thing. Todays society just can't accept it. But for someone reason i have this urge to tell someone. I don't know why. I am really bad with secrets. I always ruin them, but this is when i can't ruin. But i still can't figure out why i wan't to let it out to somebody.

It's hard to control my "urges" if you will. REALLY HARD actually. But sadly im not sure if there is ANYTHING i can do about that now until college. Basically...does ANYONE HAVE ANY SUGGESTIONS. PLEASE ANYTHING WILL HELP! Thanks guys! I LOVE YOU ALL

Love,
ME

OOh..the good ol' days of high school and being gay. It goes by fast, really, it does. I'm really big on big entrances, so I came out with a bang (it was a little bit scandelous).

Whatever you do, make sure you stay true to yourself. You are who you are. Don't let anyone change you.

Updated On: 1/14/05 at 07:16 PM

Oh, it's slow when you're actually going through it. I had a completely unsupportive family and endured extreme hostility at school, but I still managed to come out at age 13, around the time that people were just beginning to talk about the possibility of openly gay characters on TV.

Don't worry, boys. High school's almost over and the independence that usually follows will favor your identities.

Hey, im 16 too, i'm not gay, but if you ever wanna talk about anything, you can always PM me and i can give you my AIM screen name or something.

Bud i know right now it sucks for ya. but the question is, do you wnat to come out, or do you feel presured to come out?

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You should tell the people you trust the most first and then after that, coming out will feel more natural. If someone's going to treat you with cruelty and disrespect over it, then s/he doesn't deserve your confidence about sexual orientation or anything else.

Maybe you should wait for something really good to happen, when they're in a good mood and say "Hey...Mom, I've been wanting to tell you, but I'm gay." Or, take her out to lunch or something and tell her.

I sort of know what it's like. I'm a bit older than you, but I still live at home and I'm a lesbian. I don't think my parents have any idea, other than why do I not advertise if I'm dating men or not? They probably just think I'm sick of high school seniors. I don't plan to come out anytime soon, however, secrets can be difficult, and I don't know how understanding they'd be.

It is great that you are so accepting of yourself, many in your position aren't, and that in itself is a very big deal.

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LOUDIRISHGIRL -Right On, sister friend!

I say the WTG. I waited (w/my parents) until I was out of school and living with a lover. Wasn't a big surprise by then, but the moment was intense and incredibly rough. Now I'm back at home in school once again earning other degrees and we don't really mention it. My father will never admit to believing it.
But they just bought me some computer printing paper just because I called them and felt lazy, so ............

It's hard sometimes, but I also don't feel my orientation is an issue that needs to be addressed. If yours is and does, then tell it on the mountain. Shout it. Free yourself if you need to, but do it if it's an issue. If it will let yourself be unpained. For me, coming out was a good thing, and an irrelevent thing at the same time. Someone could not like you because you wear a certain shirt. Don't ever care that being gay is any different a difference than that. Even in f$%#@&* high school.

:@)

Updated On: 1/14/05 at 10:42 PM

OneBlaze-I would be more than happy to talk to you. That goes with anyone else who is reading this who is going through the same kind of thing. I am well aware of how hard it is(I am going through the exact same thing) and I know how much it means to be able to talk to someone who is understanding. So feel free to PM me

If I were you I'd tell whichever parent you feel will support you more/better. Tell them privately and then ask for help with the other parent. Then ask them both what to do if you trust them. If you still want to tell someone else tell a really close friend who you really trust and know isn't hostile towards gays. And I'm always available for talking to! PM me if you need me!

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Woah electroshock therapy!? Man don't tell you parents if they're going to electrocute you! But from what he said about his parents it sounded like they wouldn't be that drastically crazy. (No offense to you dad)

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I too agree that you should probably tell a really good friend who you know will be understanding before you tell your parents.