Okay, minor-ish problem here. There's this guy named Raf (otherwise known as The Paraplegic Date From Hell). He will NOT stop phoning me. We both mingle in the same group of 8 friends, and I was introduced to the group of 6 by one of my friends. So I'm like, an adder-onner. Anyway, in this group is Raf's ex-girlfriend - they dated and broke up long before I joined the gang so I'm aware of their history but pretty much indifferent to whatever went down, but I know there's some awkwardness between them.
Anyway, he seems to have a thing for Asian girls, and will not stop contacting me. Ever since we met in April, he keeps phoning, text msging, emailing me persistently. He says himself that his two "best" qualities are his patience and his persistence. His ex-gf told me the only reason they went out was because he kept harrassing - er, pursuing - her and she finally gave in even though she wasn't into it.
I kept avoiding him and inviting people along every time he tried to plan "alone" outings with me. Finally, my friend told me to go on one date with him, satisfy his curiousity (I only saw him socially maybe once or twice a month), which led to The Infamous Date From Hell.
And did it stop his curiousity? Nope. Made things worse.
Thing is when we're out of contact for a month or so, he won't call or email. And it's nice. I only want to see him in a group setting. But when I throw him a bone and I, like, acknowledge him even, he's all over it again.
I don't think I'm hot **** at all - I think he's desperate, likes the challenge and now that his ex is dating the brother of one of our other friends (ironically, another girl he used to pursue before his ex), he's really scrambling. He's phoning again (5 times in the last 24 hours, plus 2 times I didn't answer), emailed me angrily when I didn't return his calls, accuses me of blowing him off - YET DOESN'T GIVE UP!!
WHAT THE F*CK SHOULD I DO??? It's beyond just being a humorous nuisance that I can laugh and joke around with my friends - it's obnoxious and more than borderline creepy! I would tell him right off but since we're both in the same circle, it would make things really awkward. GARGH! HELP!
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