When guys don't take a hint...- Page 2

[ashley0139]

Posted: 11/6/05 at 6:59pm

I have a very close friend from high school who I "dated" in middle school. It was really fake dating. It was nothing. We remained very, very close friends throughout high school, and we still are. But we have this sort of cyclical relationship. My friend is extremely forward, and just... for years, he couldn't take the hints. He'd make all sorts of advances, and would profess his love, asking me why we weren't together. But I just... I'm not interested in him that way. He couldn't ever take that -- he just kept trying, like if he kept at it, eventually, I'd change my mind. We've talked about it, and we have the same fight at least once a year. It's awful.

Ok, that is FREAKY how much it sounds like one of my friends and me. It is the exact same story. We go through it about once a year. We are still very close friends too. That is my EXACT story.

[manders]

Posted: 11/6/05 at 7:02pm

And from the sound of your sig, Kel, it looks like he's got a wonderful mother! =P

[pndmnd]

Posted: 11/6/05 at 7:02pm

Wow! People in this thread understand aspects of my life! I've been in your shoes, Em and Manders! I have a friend (since I was 14 and he was 16), who, every couple of years, usually after a breakup for him, decides that he's in love with me. Now, that should make me giddy, but every time it happens, I want to throw up (ala the Sex in the City engagement ring episode)! We have been friends for so long, and every time I tell him that I'm not interested in him like that, I think it's the last time I'll have to say it, but sure enough, a year or two later, there he is again, going in for the kiss!

I used to go through phases where I was worried that I was actually in love with him, and justed didn't know what love felt like, and that I was just scared to jump in and commit to it, but, recently I realized that we've both really changed, and now we don't even really have much that's keeping us as friends--staying friends has really become hard work. That's an entirely different story, though.

Anyway, I would say be honest. Having played games before to get out of it (fake crush, etc.), it just got me into trouble. Honesty is almost always the best way to go!

[manders]

Posted: 11/6/05 at 7:12pm

Thanks for the tip! Now I'll just have to find some way to bring it up in conversation...

[KelRel]

Posted: 11/6/05 at 7:28pm

Manders, yeah she's a gem. That is Namo's advice for how to deal with her. I don't have very many problems with her now, but its too funny to erase.