Who needs a MOJITO time? (The sequel)- Page 224

[shira467]

Posted: 10/21/05 at 1:00pm

Oh, I like that thought.

[DAME]

Posted: 10/21/05 at 1:00pm

Shira;
I just want you to know tha you don't have to let them treat you like that. Piss them off a little. It will do them good. o one is going to stop paying for your education or supporting you. Thats just a game they play because they think it works.

[DayDreamer]

Posted: 10/21/05 at 1:03pm

DAME's comment is true.

My dad's way of keeping me in shape when I was a teen was to tell me, when I did something bad, "What are you trying to do, kill your mother?" I was so terrified of killing mom, that I was very well behaved. Until I realized that my behaviour was not about to kill her at all. Unfortunately that wasn't until my early 20s.

[shira467]

Posted: 10/21/05 at 1:04pm

Are you telling me I can talk back to my parents?

I wonder what brd has to say about it...

[SonofMammaMiaSam]

Posted: 10/21/05 at 1:05pm

he'd tell you to straighten your hair.

[DayDreamer]

Posted: 10/21/05 at 1:06pm

There's talking back and then there's talking back.

Yes, you can talk back to your parents.

[brdlwyr]

Posted: 10/21/05 at 1:07pm

Smack on the head - that is my answer!

[shira467]

Posted: 10/21/05 at 1:07pm

Brd -- as a parent, waht do you suggest?

[DayDreamer]

Posted: 10/21/05 at 1:12pm

*notices how brd steers away from the subject*

[brdlwyr]

Posted: 10/21/05 at 1:12pm

Shira - are they really this mean? That would be my first question. And, have you discussed these issues with them?

[shira467]

Posted: 10/21/05 at 1:15pm

They love me, I know that. They just have really screwy ways of showing it.

And though I may exxagerate at times, what they said is almost verbatim (almost because I didn't write it down).

I talk to them...but they think they're doing the right thing. They really do.

[DayDreamer]

Posted: 10/21/05 at 1:17pm

Like I said before, let them know, without it being a fight or confrontation, how their comments make you feel. The same way we want to say "I love you", we need to be able to say "what you're saying is hurtful because..."

Anyway, I really must dash. I've been at work for over an hour and I've been here the entire time.

Tarrah!

[shira467]

Posted: 10/21/05 at 1:19pm

ooh, have fun at work DD!

Thanks for your support!

By the way -- I'm sorry this thread has been my venting post. Hope I'm not overbearing!

[brdlwyr]

Posted: 10/21/05 at 1:21pm

Relationships evolve as we grow older. I did not get along with my father in high school and as I went trough college and law school we became great friends.

[shira467]

Posted: 10/21/05 at 1:22pm

I think I'm in a back-and-forth stage, right now. Whether or not I like my Mom or Dad better, because, well, I can't despise both of them TOO much at the same time.

[brdlwyr]

Posted: 10/21/05 at 1:24pm

C12 seems to despise her mother and does not criticize me although I am really the jerk of the house.

[SonofMammaMiaSam]

Posted: 10/21/05 at 1:24pm

Well, you have lots of fairy godfathers who LOVE you.

[shira467]

Posted: 10/21/05 at 1:25pm

Exactly!

Now, who's buying me a cosmo?

[DAME]

Posted: 10/21/05 at 1:29pm

Shira. I think you are great. The thought of anyone treating you like that makes my blood boil. But parents only try to do what is best for you. Only you can make them understand you better. They are human you know. You need to stand up for yourself. Give them a little tough love. And one question.. at what age can one say they have had enough of going to all these freaking barmitzvahs? I stopped at 18 and just refused.

[shira467]

Posted: 10/21/05 at 1:31pm

*hugs* TO DAME.

I'm touched.

[DAME]

Posted: 10/21/05 at 1:46pm

SHira.. I so relate.

[brdlwyr]

Posted: 10/21/05 at 1:47pm

Dame, are you the hothead of the family?

[DAME]

Posted: 10/21/05 at 1:50pm

I was the black sheep. Not anymore. Now I am the one that got away , got a life, and is the happiest.

[shira467]

Posted: 10/21/05 at 1:53pm

Oh, that might be the ultimate revenge.

[Mamamia Sammy2]

Posted: 10/21/05 at 1:53pm

Shout 'Hallelujah!'
Come on get happy!