my aunt just blew it... again.

[AbbaRabbit]

Posted: 1/2/06 at 10:17pm

finally we thought my aunt was starting to accept the fact thet her son is gay and is living with his boyfriend... she even met his boyfriend before christmas and calmly intorduced herself, something we thought would never happen.
he was home for a week... he left today for college at 3. at 2:30 she yelled at him and said he was just a "kept whore" to his boyfriend.

why does she do this?? she acts like everything is all good between them for a whole week, and then has to pull something like this. every time he leaves he leaves never wanting to come home... is that what she wants?

bah, just needed to vent... i'm so pissed off she's doing this to him.

Updated On: 1/2/06 at 10:17 PM

[FindingNamo]

Posted: 1/2/06 at 10:23pm

Has she seen Brokeback Mountain yet? Apparently, that's the answer.

[YouWantitWhen????]

Posted: 1/2/06 at 10:25pm

Hopefully she can get past this, because it is her problem.

If he has found happiness, she would be glad for him.

But, it is not clear to me whether the problem is with him being gay, or him having a significant other.

Maybe there are some other issues at play other than intolerance?

[AbbaRabbit]

Posted: 1/2/06 at 10:28pm

i think it's a combination of both... because she was just as pissed before she found out he had a boyfriend. she told his younger siblings that their brother is a sinner, so i think alot of this had do to with her very strict church.

i just don't get it because untill she found out he was gay he was like her favorite kid... and he's one of six.

[YouWantitWhen????]

Posted: 1/2/06 at 10:32pm

Maybe she feels some odd sense of betrayal based upon her Church's teachings - who knows.

Just be glad that your Cousin has found what makes him happy and hope that one day your Aunt can recognize this.

Her opinions will most likely not change until she wants them to.

[AbbaRabbit]

Posted: 1/2/06 at 10:35pm

i am glad he's happy, because he was never happy at home.
my uncle is accepting of him but my aunt kind of runs the show.
her church teachs that homosexuality is wrong but they also teach you to love your family.
i guess i'm having trouble wrapping my mind around how someone could say those things to their child, no matter how old that child is.

[YouWantitWhen????]

Posted: 1/2/06 at 10:39pm

Sometimes, no matter how old you are, you still behave like a child. It sounds like your Aunt has a lot of growing up to do.

[Luscious]

Posted: 1/2/06 at 11:21pm

Have you considered the possibility that your aunt might be right? Maybe your cousin is a "kept whore".

[YouWantitWhen????]

Posted: 1/3/06 at 12:24am

I thought the Aunt was yelling at the boyfriend, which would make him kepper of the whore.

[etoile]

Posted: 1/3/06 at 12:30am

You use the term "kept whore" as if it's a bad thing.

[vbplayer]

Posted: 1/3/06 at 12:48am

...Not sure if I agree with all the "kidding" around.

I was lucky ( and it's not all about me I guess). I had friends and family who took my coming out in stride (many years ago). Not many have that luxury. It's not easy at any age, but what do I know. It's not my family. Why should we care?

Bull ****. Why no support?

Who needs support anyway, it's very overrated.

Maybe I'm over-reacting.

[SueleenGay]

Posted: 1/3/06 at 12:59am

She sounds like a big old closet case to me. Bring her to meet Rath and watch the sparks fly...

[vbplayer]

Posted: 1/3/06 at 1:13am

...just the title of the thread would suggest straight.

[grizzabella]

Posted: 1/3/06 at 3:50pm

It sounds to me as if your Aunt is dealing with a lot of issues here; her son's homosexuality being only one. Many parents have trouble with their kids becoming sexually active - with either gender. From her "kept whore" comment, I'm guessing that your cousin's boyfriend is several years older than your cousin, and perhaps more financially secure. If he's living with someone of his mother's generation, for instance, that's enough to make sparks fly, especially as your cousin is in college and is just starting to make significant life-choices. Granted, the woman handled the situation badly, to say the least, but there may be a bit more here than that she can't deal with her son being gay. She'd be better off just accepting his present happiness (whatever her reservations) and being there for him whatever comes.

[Broadwayboobs]

Posted: 1/3/06 at 3:57pm

Etoile is my kept whore and I think it's HOT !!!

[Link Larkin Wanabe]

Posted: 1/3/06 at 4:13pm

(I really don't mean to threadjack, but this title reminded me something Tobias from Arrested Development would say)

Akiva

[hannahshule]

Posted: 1/3/06 at 4:49pm

at least she's not in denial

acceptance is the first step, hopefully, she'll eventually overcome her anger.

Updated On: 1/3/06 at 04:49 PM