Nope, it's happened to me numerous times!
In fact, one of the one's I saw is so famous . . .and my friend and I were "underwhelmed" and KNOW we could've done better! The other one is a Broadway LEGEND and just wasn't all that impressive. It could've been on off night, still.
Now, I've been at this for a long time . . .acting/singing . . .and certainly know I and many, many others are as good and oftentimes better than some of the folks on Broadway.
I believe it is just a matter of how much you want it and just a matter of timing when one "makes it". As Julia Murney (she was recently 'Elphaba' in Broadway's "Wicked") said to me, when I told her "You have my dream role!"
Julia said, "Come back tomorrow at 3:00 p.m. There's room for everyone!"
Of course, I truly heard what she was saying . . . "there's room for all of us on Broadway" or wherever we want to act/sing. It's just about continuing the journey, believing in it and going for it. And hey, if one finds it doesn't make you happy and one quits and becomes a mother or business person; or that a smaller town or community theatre, or film, makes one happier -- then so be it!
There's no failure if you do what makes your heart sing; even if that changes from show business to glass blowing! And it may change later in life, tomorrow or fifty years from now. I say take it one day at a time . . . and do it as long as it feels good!
Love and Stage Lights,
Angela Theresa