something upsetting...

my mom just came back from a friend's house.
i am friends with her friend's younger (she's 16) daughter.
my mom told me something that was very upsetting to me.

they suspect my friend of being bulemic.
she said that the whole time she talked about how full she felt and felt like she needed to throw up.
she ate a piece of cake in the kitchen and then disapeared upstairs.
this friend is someone i have known since she was a toddler, when she used to live acorss the street from me.

i would like to help her, or at least let her know that if she needs anyone to talk to, she can always call my cell phone.
but i dont know if that's the right thing to do, since she should be talking to her parents who can get her help if she needs it.
i dont know if it's my place either to talk to her or if it's appropriate.
i'm very worried about her since she is at an age where things like this can and do happen to girls.

i dont know if i'm looking for advice on what i should do or not, if you have some, please offer it, but i just needed to get this out.

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that's what i said to my mom, that it sounded like she was hinting to them to ask her about it. like a cry for help.
but she said they did and she denied it.

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Of course she denied it. She knows what is doing is wrong and she is battling with wanting to stop and be normal but the awful fear of what will happen if she does. To ask and take her words at face value is pointless.

But all of this is moot. It's not really your business and it's doubtful she would ever confide in you anyway. Let her family deal with it.

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Unless you are her best friend in the entire world she is not going to open up about something this personal. And even if you are her incredibly close, she's still unlikely to confide in your while she is in the throes of battling this disease.

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well colleen thank you for your positive attitude in thinking that maybe, just maybe, someone who i've known since she was in diapers might want to talk to someone who she knows won't judge her and who knows the ins and outs of the mental health care system.

it actually makes me kind of feel bad for you.

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Updated On: 6/24/07 at 07:03 PM

i'm not going to say to her "so you mom told me you were bulemic"

i'd probably say something like "i remember when i was in high school how hard it was. i had my older cousin to talk to when things got kind of rough. i just wanted to let you know if you ever wanted to talk to anyone about anything, feel free to call me."

"anything" could mean about boys, homework, teachers, class scheduals, colleges... i'm not going to even mention a possible eating disorder.

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Abba, you posted a thread and she responded to it.

Whether you agree or disagree with it is one thing but to be sarcastic about it and to write what you wrote, I thought was a bit rude. Just my .02.

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