stage door waiting

At the risk of starting a violent & acrimonious debate, can someone please explain to me the appeal of waiting outside a stage door for 15 seconds w/ a theatre performer & maybe not even that much time. This question is only for adults because I suppose I can kinda sorta understand what kids enjoy about it. I have a good friend in her 40s who does this all the time & she cannot understand why I DON'T do it. This is my reasoning, BTW: I am there to see the show. I don't know these people, don't need to know them, don't need a personalized souvenir of the evening, & so on. I guess it's my same confusion over the whole issue of closing nights. I say they are for insiders & can't fathom why someone not involved in the show would get caught up in the emotion of something of which they had no part. It's a sort of voyeurism or, to coin a phrase, wallflowerism, it seems. Now, I can understand that there may be a community of stage door ... whatevers (Stage Door Johnny/Annie is so derogatory! there must be another term because "fan" doesn't quite encompass it)who enjoy their own gatherings at stage doors & then there are the e-Bay creeps, but for the average fan...what is the attraction?

This is a serious question. I am not judging, I am not deriding, I am no putting anyone down. I just don't understand the attraction. Thanks!

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To say thank you.

I like to show that I really enjoyed the person's performance.

I've only done the stage door three times - once, it was Witches of Eastwick, my favourite show, and to me those people were like the most famous people in the world! Second, Judi Dench.. because she is the greatest actress of her generation and it was a once in a lifetime opportunity to get a photo with her. Third, Matthew Perry.. it's no joke to say 'I grew up on Friends'. I started watching when I was 9, I'm now 16.. that programme shaped my life. I'm devastated that it's gone so downhill..

ChristineDaae: Nope. I am there to see a performance, no emotional investment in the actors at all. I sort of understand now, after reading these posts, people's need to "say thanks" in a personal way, but I feel that the best way I can show my appreciation is to give the performers a genuine reaction during the show at at curtain calls. I feel to wait for them outside the stage door is actually an intrusion on their personal time, esp. bet. matinees & evening performances. I have written the occasional note of appreciation, even as an adult, & even called out to an actor passing me in the street, "So good to see you back in the show!" -- so I am not ruling out additonal feedback outside of the theatre. This stage-door-waiting-friend I refer to has talked me into it a few times & this is what I saw: the performers sneaked out if they could, looked relieved if no one stopped them, & showed exquisite upbringing by pleasantly greeting the people who'd waited & did recognize them. I have also seen a lot of actors looking terribly put-upon by the dozens of people wanting something from them, even a word or an autograph. These posts are all very interesting to me. Thanks, everyone!

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I LOOOOOVE waiting at stage doors. To me, meeting a Broadway star is more exciting than meeting a movie star. It's cool to talk to them about the show and get advice (i'm moving to nyc when i graduate high school to pursue a career on Broadway, so i need the advice.) it's also nice to see what their personalities are like. (ex. Sutton Foster: incredibly nice. Harvey Fierstein: jerk.)

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Updated On: 12/11/03 at 05:09 PM

I don't do it as much as I used to, but I guess I do it because I have a huge amount of respect for the performers (being a performer myself) and I enjoy personally telling them how much I admire their work. Some are incredibly gracious and interesting. For example, Linda Eder and I chatted for a while comparing the various productions of Jekyll and Hyde. Christine Andreas and I had a fun little chat about the 1980 Tonys when she was nominated for the revival of Oklahoma. Sometimes it's surprising how incredibly horrible they behave. I won't name names, but I would never pay for a ticket to see them perform again. There will always be admirers at stage doors and it comes with the territory. Actors who don't want to be bothered can find gracious ways of declining (I've seen it done and respected it) or sneak out another entrance (nothing wrong with that). But to treat the "fans" in the most horrific ways I have witnessed (direct insults, yells, and egotistical remarks) is the childish spiteful behavior of someone working in the wrong field.

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I usually only stage door at shows where I care about a particular performer. I won't wait for the sake of waiting, or talk to cast members that I have nothing specific to say to. A smile and a good job is basically all I say to the ones I'm not specifically waiting for. But, still being quite the fan, it's still incredible to me that I can tell the people I admire so much that I enjoyed them and love getting a chance to see them. I like to hope that sometimes, it's nice for them to hear too. And then with a very select few, it's just the place to catch up quickly about other projects and such. I am usually pretty conscious about how those who just performed seem to be reacting to the stage door thing, and I cringe when people can't seem to notice that a person does not want to be doing that right now. The ones who don't want to be there are usually pretty obvious about it. But I don't see anything wrong with giving a compliment or having a short chat with those who don't mind that the fifteen or so minutes after the show are spent interacting with the fans.

Updated On: 12/11/03 at 05:37 PM

MammaMiSammy: Backstage visiting friends & stage door waiting are very, very different things, don't you think? Thx for responding!

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I think it's the just the thrill of meeting an actor in a show that appeals to me. I loved meeting Bernadette.

What a friendly thread! See a few of them do exsist! I, too am very thrilled when I meet someone I've admired on stage or screen...or really any walk of life. I once had chance to meet Princess Dianna and JFK Jr., not together of course. But they were both very warm and seemed genuinely pleased to converse to people they didn't know. It's something I won't forget.

Besides, for years, I felt JFK was the THE single guy who had it all...power,personality, fame, fortune, funny, charming and handsome. OK...back to reality!

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Updated On: 12/11/03 at 06:44 PM

I think it is great how friendly the actors are when they are meeting the fans. Of course the broadway musicals are fun to watch but, having to talk to the actors are even better. I waited 10 to 15 minutes outside waiting to get to see the actors. I would even go wait at the door before the show starts just to talk to an actor I really admired.

As a broadway actress myself it is nice to have people wait outstide the stagedoor! I know that when they do my work is truky apreaciated! It is a great compliment to us people on the other side of the procenium!

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