Abuse on The Board

#1

Abuse on The Board

Posted: 12/19/04 at 3:43pm

Folks,

I've been pondering this one over for the past few days...

(The SNL Thread just brought it a little more into focus)


1) When do you feel a Board Member is abusing you on a personal level?

and


2) How do you handle it?


And for ONCE, I'm keeping my Jaws WIRED SHUT and not be the first one to answer my own question!


I Thank You in Advance For Sharing,


M.E.

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#2

re: Abuse on The Board

Posted: 12/19/04 at 3:47pm

The last time I felt threatened personally it was by a Scary Spice fanatic and when I tried to ask for help I got crucified. So, I try to handle my own problems with sarcastic quips and the knowledge that I'm better than them in every way.

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"The stage is where I live and come alive and act out all the things that go on in my life. It's not just what I do for a living, it's my shrink and my love affair. No one in my life has ever or ever will kiss me on the mouth like this lover called my relationship with my performance."

#3

re: Abuse on The Board

Posted: 12/19/04 at 3:49pm

no one has ever come out and said,
"Good Caroline-Q-or-Tboo you are a dirty bastard. But i know it's been implied. i just try to forget it and move on. Because , it's just a message board.

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"Picture "The View," with the wisecracking, sympathetic sweethearts of that ABC television show replaced by a panel of embittered, suffering or enraged Arab women" -the Times review of Black Eyed

#4

re: Abuse on The Board

Posted: 12/19/04 at 3:53pm

hmm that eric or erica person, turns out I met her over on another board and she has a few "problems" with me from this other board and decided to take it here..it was weird

i wasnt bothered much though because i could care less what this person had to say because A. I've never met them face-to-face therefore will never see them outside this board and B. this person is rather stupid

Good Caroline-Q-Taboo you are a bastard, and that's not implying


jk

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Updated On: 12/19/04 at 03:53 PM

#5

re: Abuse on The Board

Posted: 12/19/04 at 3:55pm

If it's a one-time random flaming incident (like what occasionally happens on ff.net) I laugh at it. If it gets worse than that, I usually end up snapping back. I've never had it get bad enough that I had to get help.

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#6

re: Abuse on The Board

Posted: 12/19/04 at 3:57pm

oooh are we sharing ff.net flames!? one person said:
I have 6 words for you:
NEVER WRITE ANOTHER STORY AGAIN

no, i'm not kidding. she said 6 words!

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"Picture "The View," with the wisecracking, sympathetic sweethearts of that ABC television show replaced by a panel of embittered, suffering or enraged Arab women" -the Times review of Black Eyed

#7

re: Abuse on The Board

Posted: 12/19/04 at 3:59pm

::snort::

See...Marriage would occasionally get some really random person who would be like

"You suck. Stop writing."

And I'd just laugh cuz I had close to 400 good reviews. Which just made them look like an idiot.

One that did really bother me though was a person who kept accusing me of stealing material from another author, who happened to be one of my best online friends.

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"A little humility wouldn't hurt." --Ellie, Constantine-Hellblazer, "Dangerous Habits"

#8

re: Abuse on The Board

Posted: 12/19/04 at 4:01pm

Hey,

What's this ff.net we're all talking about?

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"I say YOU'RE the CUTEST one. No, I say YOU'RE the CUTEST One. And we go on like that from dawn to three."

#9

re: Abuse on The Board

Posted: 12/19/04 at 4:03pm

Fanfiction.net

It's a place for people to post their stories. It's not really a message board, but readers can submit reviews to the authors, and some people just randomly send flames. It can be really upsetting at first, but most of the time it's just idiots being ridiculous.

I know...that doesn't really help you. I'm sorry. It's just the only experience I've ever really had with online abuse.

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"A little humility wouldn't hurt." --Ellie, Constantine-Hellblazer, "Dangerous Habits"

#10

re: Abuse on The Board

Posted: 12/19/04 at 4:03pm

http://www.fanfiction.net/

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"The stage is where I live and come alive and act out all the things that go on in my life. It's not just what I do for a living, it's my shrink and my love affair. No one in my life has ever or ever will kiss me on the mouth like this lover called my relationship with my performance."

Updated On: 12/19/04 at 04:03 PM

#11

re: Abuse on The Board

Posted: 12/19/04 at 4:04pm

fanfiction.net

a little shilling, check out my SoR/BillyElliot story: Elgies

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"Picture "The View," with the wisecracking, sympathetic sweethearts of that ABC television show replaced by a panel of embittered, suffering or enraged Arab women" -the Times review of Black Eyed

#12

re: Abuse on The Board

Posted: 12/19/04 at 4:04pm

Some people have definitely accused me of things I have not done and some have said that I was a loony(among other things)

I strive to let the truth be known (i.e.: "I did not do what *insert name* said I did) or I just let it fly.

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#13

re: Abuse on The Board

Posted: 12/19/04 at 4:08pm

FF.net is filled with idiots, as general-access sites tend to be.

Anyway, I've only gotten into horrible fights here a few times, and it was usually over politics. I tend to ignore stupid people when I can.

#14

re: Abuse on The Board

Posted: 12/19/04 at 4:10pm

politics always start fights. So does RodneyK... not that i'm blaming anyone or anything, never

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"Picture "The View," with the wisecracking, sympathetic sweethearts of that ABC television show replaced by a panel of embittered, suffering or enraged Arab women" -the Times review of Black Eyed

#15

re: Abuse on The Board

Posted: 12/19/04 at 4:15pm

Thanks for the tip on ff.net, guys.

I'm TREASURING this review:


"I HATED THIS! YOU SUCK!"


Wow, it makes BWW (even at its worst) look like Sunnybrook Farm...

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"I say YOU'RE the CUTEST one. No, I say YOU'RE the CUTEST One. And we go on like that from dawn to three."

#16

re: Abuse on The Board

Posted: 12/19/04 at 4:17pm

tee-hee Sunnybrook Farm. that's a funny comparison.

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"Picture "The View," with the wisecracking, sympathetic sweethearts of that ABC television show replaced by a panel of embittered, suffering or enraged Arab women" -the Times review of Black Eyed

#17

re: Abuse on The Board

Posted: 12/19/04 at 4:21pm

I got jumped on by all the Marc Shaiman fans....

scarred me for life

kidding, kidding

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#18

re: Abuse on The Board

Posted: 12/19/04 at 4:26pm

you betta be or me and my Marc Shaiman crew gonna show you up, girl! We gonna put you in yo place, Bi-otch! Hairspray fo-ever!

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"Picture "The View," with the wisecracking, sympathetic sweethearts of that ABC television show replaced by a panel of embittered, suffering or enraged Arab women" -the Times review of Black Eyed

#19

re: Abuse on The Board

Posted: 12/19/04 at 4:44pm

M_E, I just looked at the SNL thread, and I would keep responding exactly as you are. If your basher is going to keep bashing regardless of what you say, make sure you stay polite. Canwetalk will eventually get banned without you having to do anything.

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"A little humility wouldn't hurt." --Ellie, Constantine-Hellblazer, "Dangerous Habits"

#20

re: Abuse on The Board

Posted: 12/19/04 at 4:46pm

I smell a visit from RIGHTSAIDRICK coming on...

#21

re: Abuse on The Board

Posted: 12/19/04 at 5:12pm

Guess What?

The SNL Thread has been deleted...

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"I say YOU'RE the CUTEST one. No, I say YOU'RE the CUTEST One. And we go on like that from dawn to three."

#22

re: Abuse on The Board

Posted: 12/19/04 at 5:13pm

what was going on there?

#23

re: Abuse on The Board

Posted: 12/19/04 at 5:15pm

yeah, what happened?

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*Kristen*

#24

re: Abuse on The Board

Posted: 12/19/04 at 5:19pm

i heard bad things so i stayed away...i have enof enimies lol

#25

re: Abuse on The Board

Posted: 12/19/04 at 5:20pm

tee-hee. Sorry Liam

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"Picture "The View," with the wisecracking, sympathetic sweethearts of that ABC television show replaced by a panel of embittered, suffering or enraged Arab women" -the Times review of Black Eyed