Advice

[Patti_LuPone_Fan]

Posted: 11/21/09 at 11:42pm

I am best friends with 2 girls. K is angry at C. K wants me to stop all contact with C. But I love and dearly care about both of them. what do I do, and what should I tell K

[PalJoey]

Posted: 11/22/09 at 12:20am

Ask yourself: "What would Patti do?"

[singtopher]

Posted: 11/22/09 at 12:27am

Tell K to stop being such a C and that you're big enough to decide who to be friends with.

[bwaylvsong]

Posted: 11/22/09 at 12:44am

Tell K exactly what you told us! You love them both dearly and don't want to have to choose!

[SweetQintheLights]

Posted: 11/22/09 at 1:29am

Tell K that you are sorry she is angry with C and you suggest that she may want to talk to C about why she is angry with her (w/o you)--otherwise they will ask you to get involved and you'll be forced to choose sides.

Tell her that you love them both equally and both have been great friends for a very long time. You are sorry that she feels that you should stop contact with C, but that's not something that you are going to do and don't feel it's necessary or appropriate.

Leave it in her court. DO NOT bicker back and forth. We've determined what she wants. You determined what you want. Don't keep going around and around with "but she..." and all that cr*p. You are adults and can handle problems maturely. K can do what she wants but will not control what you do. If K feels the need to cut off contact with you because you are still talking to C, then she's the one with the loss of your friendship. (Yes, you may be upset that you no longer are communicating with K but that comes with the territory of 2 equals) Tell K that you hope she can deal with this in a mature and positive manner.

Sorry, kinda tired....don't know if that made sense.

Updated On: 11/22/09 at 01:29 AM

[Taryn]

Posted: 11/22/09 at 1:35am

Make it very clear that they are both friends and that you refuse to be put in the middle of things.

Repeat as necessary (which will be often.)

[Phyllis Rogers Stone]

Posted: 11/22/09 at 2:23am

Patti would be the K in this scenario. She'd ramble from the road about it.

[ljay889]

Posted: 11/22/09 at 2:33am

They'll make up soon enough.

[jrb_actor]

Posted: 11/22/09 at 2:39am

If only certain BWWers were capable of absorbing the good advice given here that you shouldn't have to choose friends because of their drama.

[Phyllis Rogers Stone]

Posted: 11/22/09 at 4:01am

I think the two of them should join forces and reform the Sunshine Band.

[StockardFan]

Posted: 11/22/09 at 9:16am

HAHAHAHAHA........Excellent, Phyllis!

[artscallion]

Posted: 11/22/09 at 10:18am

tell her thxKbai

[tazber]

Posted: 11/22/09 at 10:26am

I think you really need to consider how X is going to feel. Given that she's still hurting from the way B dumped her and then took up with T. Plus there is the whole "U is preggers" thing which Z and P still are still arguing about. Throw in the fact that S did the abortion for U and then knocked up L and, well, you get the picture.

My advice? Tell 'em all to shut the F up and stop whining.

[HellsBells2]

Posted: 11/22/09 at 11:12am

PRS.....that was priceless!!!!!

[StockardFan]

Posted: 11/22/09 at 11:41am

Taz are you one of the writers on Gossip Girl?

[AndAllThatJazz22]

Posted: 11/22/09 at 11:51am

Just make it clear to each friend that you are friends with both of them and you will not discontinue your friendship with any one of them just because the other isn't liking it. If K gets mad at you for being friends with C, than she is not your true friend. ljay is right, they will get over it with time.

[danmag]

Posted: 11/22/09 at 11:58am

"Tell K to stop being such a C"

Outstanding advice, Sing!! Love it!

[GlindatheGood22]

Posted: 11/22/09 at 12:47pm

I would tell K you hope she and C can make up, and then you stay out of it.