Advice Please!

hey guys. i need your help.

Lately, i've been feeling really depressed and not like myself at all. I've been listening to depressing music, crying a lot (in and out of school),putting up depressing away messages, and basically hiding from everyone. And all my parents do is scream at me constantly for no reason whenever i am home. It seems like i'm never good enough for them. I get straight A's in fully advanced classes, take singing, acting, and dance classes 5 days a week, as well as help around and clean the house. Yet, they still screaming at me for no reason.

Then, all my friends ditched me on Wednesay because they said that i didn't fit in with their group anymore. So now, once again, I have no friends.

I don't know what to do. I've been writing really depressing poems and basically crying for the past fews days. I don't see what I'm doing wrong. I work my ass off, always try to be kind to others, and yet my face gets pushed in the dirt yet again!

I've become a tad suicidal over the past few days, which is beginning to scare me. I know i need help, but i try to tell my mom and all she does is scream at me and tell me to suck it up and stop acting like i'm 2.

Can you guys help in any way please?

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Updated On: 5/1/05 at 04:29 PM

yeah i went to my guidance counselor on friday because my teacher made me. basically she just stared at me and told me to talk to my parents. yeah..that helped.

thanks rath. *hugs*

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Glad Rath got here before me-- excellent advice.

Depression is a tricky thing. It makes you see the simplest problems as huge and big problems as insurmountable. It's imperative to get someone you trust involved. They can often help you to see that (trite as it sounds) things aren't as bleak as it seems. Find someone: A favorite aunt or uncle? A teacher? Maybe your dance or drama coach?

As a stranger, at a distance, I can only say that if you get some help and pull through, some day (and sooner than you think) you won't even recognize these feelings as yours. I speak from experience: Things can go from bleak to beautiful seemingly overnight!

i'm really close to my music teacher. i've known him for 10 years and he's like a second father. maybe i can try to talk to him.

thanks everyone for being so great about this, and for the help. it's great to know that i am actually loved somewhere. *hugs*

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I'm sure you are loved lots and lots of places, some people just don't show it the way we need them to.

And please do talk to your music teacher (if you feel comfortable doing so).


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ponine---
I know exactly how you feel. Exactly. I don't have much to add except know that there are people (including us on the board) that care about you and worry about your welfare. If you ever need to talk or what not, email me or pM me any time.

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Check your PM box...

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thanks everyone. this is already making me feel better. you guys always do. i truly, sincerely appreciate everything everyone has done for me on this board. i'm proud to have such amazing people to refer to and to talk to every day. I don't know what i would do without you guys. *hugs tight*

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Realize, too, that it is so brave to ask for help. It's such a hard thing to admit that you don't feel like yourself, and it takes a lot of courage to say, "I'm unhappy and I want to change that."

My prayers are with you. Lots of hugs for you... we're all here for you.

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This is what I felt like last year too. It's hard, and I hope you get through it. *more hugs*

*hugs* Trust me, things aren't as bad as they seem. You'll be okay. The end of the school year might help you- use that chance to relax and change your routine.

defintiely talk to your music teacher. since you said you know him so well and your guidance counselor didn't do what you had hoped/expected, the music teacher sounds like a good bet.

my other advice is, if it is suggested, really consider therapy. i know, you probably don't want to be one of *those* people, but i promise it really helps. i didn't want to be one of *those* poeple either, but then i realized that there are people who get help from professionals who aren't the crazy, certifiable ones you think they are. therapists really are there to help.

another good thing about going to your music teacher - musicians really understand emotions, i've found. i often go to my voice teacher when i'm feeling overwhelmed, and the best thing he always does is give me an aria or a song that perfectly matches what i'm feeling, and by singing it i really do feel better. it makes me feel like i'm not alone, and that i'm doing something constructive with my emotions, which actually helps me get over what i'm feeling.

we all want you to feel better, ponine, and i'm sure anyone here would be willing to talk if you need it.

i've dealt with a lot of stuff like this (personally and with friends/parents), you can always PM me or IM me (sporti2005) if you need to talk. (that's my email address too, @aol.com).

*hug*

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I've never really spoken to you, ponine, but feel free to pm me as well. I am a really good listener.

*gives ponine hugs and a warm, gooey cookie*

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