Bully Problems- Advice Please

Ponine, you're a sweet girl and I'm very sorry anyone has ever been able to convince you otherwise. Get away from these girls. Now. Talk to your parents and tell them what they do, and then you really need to find some other friends. You're far from awful. If she threatened you, talk to the school. Go to your guidance counselor and explain- this can be stopped.

Good luck, chica.

I would say confront her about it. People never really go to that first, but I always think that if you ignore someone, it'll only make you feel worse that you didn't really do anything about it.

If you're sort of a shy person, just keep denying everything that's not true.

Good luck, lady! Don't let people like her get to you.

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That's very crappy. I'm sorry.

Cut yourself off from all contact with her. Don't talk on the phone, block her on AIM. Tell your parents. Find new friends that are REAL friends.

you definetly should tell someone,thats like harrassment and she threatening u!if you dont know how to block on aim, the next time she aims u hit the little thing that says block! And if she threatens u again print the aim, and tell ur parents show someone anyone!

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Just as others have said, you don't deserve this, nor should you tolerate it. I have friends who have experienced the same thing. Just stay away from this girl, and talk to an adult that you trust (parent, guidance counselor, etc.). Also, now is the perfect time to confide in friends, as well as relatives that are around your age. Build up your self-esteem. And if (for some reason) this girl is intent on destroying you, tell her to go f*ck off.

Don't forget... as Alicia Keys once said: "What goes around, comes around. What goes up must come down. And it's karma, baby." And it's a bitch.

Listen to etoile. She knows what's best.

Her advice is the best to follow.

José

And as you take action towards stopping her, keep reminding yourself that you are amazing and worth so much more than all this crap. Her picking on you isn't about you; it's about her need to exert that power of making people feel badly about themselves, for whatever reason. I'm sorry you're going through this, and it WILL end, I promise. We love you!

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It should go without saying that if someone feels the need to mock you in the most absurd ways (looks, weight, etc.) that just means that they are not capable of having an adult conversation. You're the better person.

Mace

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she's right. they all hate you and have been doing nothing but talking about you behind your back for the last several weeks. in fact, there's a plan underway to get pictures of you in a compromising situation and post them everywhere that you're known to frequent on the internet. you can trust no one. this conspiracy is bigger than you could possibly imagine and goes straight to the top.

the best thing to do is to leave town in the middle of the night and hitchhike across the country. then change your name and make contact with the underground immigration movement and establish yourself with a phony social security number. the important thing here is to cut any and all ties to your current residence and anyone who knows you. that means friends (who are all actually your enemies, but that's besides the point), family (most of them are in on it too, you never really trusted your mother, did you?) and most of all, bww. no more posting, even under a new identity because if they get a whiff of you, man the jig is up and you'll be disappeared to gitmo faster than you can say downing street.

oh sure, you think i'm making fun of you, but can you afford to take the chance? whatever you do, don't let anyone see you packing and don't hang artound too long after reading this because once they see that you've been warned you'll be in incredible danger. i know, i porbably shouldn't have posted this and should rather have pm'd you, but it wouldn't really matter. jose's in their back pocket, or in their boxers, one of the two, and has been using his position as a moderator to inform on you to the powers that be.

you have to run now. i know it'll be hard, but every morning you wake up alive, you'll thank me for the advice. now go!!!!

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Updated On: 6/19/05 at 01:47 PM

Rose and Etoile make great sense. Do find an adult you trust and confide in them, and don't be afraid to involve law enforcement if you're being stalked or harrassed with threats. All of these things are illegal, and this girl needs a serious reality check. You're a good, sensitive person, hon. Don't let others tell you different.

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My first question would be: Has she ever exhibited this kind of behavior towards anyone else? If so, then her behavior would not be a surprise, just the fact that she's targeting you. If not, then she is either:

A - Insecure and wants to boost her ego by making someone else feel inferior.

B - Trying to impress someone.

C - Both.

I agree that you should share this with your parents. I had a similar situation in high school and the school refused to get involved. It escalated into vandalism of my house and my car, yet the guy would never say anything to my face (but I knew who it was). When the vandalism began occurring, we reported it to the police and we told them who we suspected. About a month later, the police caught him and his friends vandalizing another house and he confess to 15 counts of vandalism and had a previous record in another city. Because he was 17, he went to jail. I never heard from him or his friends again. Those kinds of threats and abuse are illegal. If you receive any threatening IMs or email, save them and print them. Check to see if you have an archive of your IMs (I save mine) and print them out. I would mail them to her parents and sit back and watch the sh*t hit the fan.

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