Can The Adults Please Smoke Part 22 - Doubling Down the Dewars- Page 55

[Bluemoon]

Posted: 5/22/08 at 10:02am

God, I'm so sorry, Deet.

Assisted living?

[shameless]

Posted: 5/22/08 at 10:02am

To take the edge off.

Updated On: 5/22/08 at 10:02 AM

[D2]

Posted: 5/22/08 at 10:05am

Girly, I'm doomed.

Moony, they're both too old (87) and too far gone for assisted living. It would have to be a nursing home, and both my sister and brother-in-law are against that.

Shamey: THANKS!

[Bluemoon]

Posted: 5/22/08 at 10:09am

Then sister and brother-in-law can jolly well live with the consequences of their decision.

[D2]

Posted: 5/22/08 at 10:13am

My thoughts exactly, Moony.

[bdwaygirl]

Posted: 5/22/08 at 10:59am

Naptime yet? zzzzzz

[D2]

Posted: 5/22/08 at 10:59am

Jeez, I didn't mean to kill the thread.

[bdwaygirl]

Posted: 5/22/08 at 11:01am

It's that dang w*rk nonsense!

[DG]

Posted: 5/22/08 at 11:10am

"It would have to be a nursing home, and both my sister and brother-in-law are against that."

Not that you don't already know this, D2, but that's a really selfish attitude. An environment of dedicated care is what's necessary in this situation. All they're doing is caving to their own sense of guilt and fear of their own mortality. Not to put too fine a point on it, but the ones who are living with the consequences are your parents.

I'm really sorry - it's a horrible experience from every angle. Stay strong.

[Bluemoon]

Posted: 5/22/08 at 11:12am

Just for the record, I've already got my appliaction in at the BWW Retirement Home.

[YouWantitWhen????]

Posted: 5/22/08 at 11:16am

Deet - if you take the time to look around, you can find some very fine nursing homes.

I think you are in the NY area - my sister lives in NJ, and focuses on elder care. If you PM me the specifics, I can email her and ask her if she has any recommendations - she knows her stuff, and last time I did this, she had a few recommendations in the NY area relatively quickly. Also include their religious preference, if they have one, if you are interested, because some of the homes are affiliated with church or temple organizations.

And, to echo DG - the consequences of not putting them in a facility that provides proper care and treatment means that they will not be cared for, unless your siblings choose to take on that role themselves.

Let me know if you want me to inquire.


EDIT - I just re-read the thread and saw they were in Florida - she may have contacts there so I would be glad to see... Updated On: 5/22/08 at 11:16 AM

[Mamie]

Posted: 5/22/08 at 11:17am

Moony - Just WHERE exactly is that place located?

And is there still a corner room available? (I like cross ventilation)

Updated On: 5/22/08 at 11:17 AM

[Bluemoon]

Posted: 5/22/08 at 11:20am

Mamie - I believe it's just off Times Square. Not sure about room selection, but they do pipe in showtunes.

[Mamie]

Posted: 5/22/08 at 11:23am

Since I'll obviously be the first inmate, I'll have the place all ready when the rest of you show up. I'm in the process of crocheting little coasters with the faces of all our favorite Broadway stars on them..... Of course, nobody will be able to remember who the heck those people are.....

[shameless]

Posted: 5/22/08 at 11:23am

Moony, I thought you, me and SOMMS were going to live on cruise ships in our "golden years"!

Updated On: 5/22/08 at 11:23 AM

[D2]

Posted: 5/22/08 at 11:26am

Thanks, everyone. And thanks, YWIT. I'll let you know.

Moony, don't laugh. There is a movement going on called Eden, or something like that, where a group of like-minded individuals all live together in their "dotage" watching out for one another. Not a bad idea. We should start a BWW/Adults Home.

[shameless]

Posted: 5/22/08 at 11:33am

I think I'd rather sail, but then again, I'd probably catch some nasty ship bug.

[Bluemoon]

Posted: 5/22/08 at 11:34am

I always thought SOMMS and I would buy a duplex at the shore in our dotage. We could run an event planning business to keep us (ok, him) out of trouble. A larger home works, too!

[MotorTink]

Posted: 5/22/08 at 11:39am

and where do I fit into all of this? And no, I will not be changing any diapers.


I hate waiting for a phone to ring - worst.thing.ever.

[shameless]

Posted: 5/22/08 at 11:41am

I see I've been booted out of your retirement scenario. Very nice, Moony.

[D2]

Posted: 5/22/08 at 11:43am

The BWW/Adults home will be by the shore, with a private dock for cruise ships. Cruising will be one of the amenities for everyone, not just SOMMS.

[shameless]

Posted: 5/22/08 at 11:45am

Try not to hurt yourselves.

Updated On: 5/22/08 at 11:45 AM

[Bluemoon]

Posted: 5/22/08 at 11:48am

Shamey, we've got DECADES on you. And Tink. By the time you got a room at the Home, we'll all be dead.

[D2]

Posted: 5/22/08 at 11:49am

Or might as well be.

Just a thought - Shamey and Tink will be the Senior Senior Citizens when the Mainboarders start shuffling into the home. I'd almost want to be around to watch that!

Updated On: 5/22/08 at 11:49 AM

[brdlwyr]

Posted: 5/22/08 at 11:52am

My parents moved to assisted living in December and it is the best thing that could have happened. They are in a much safer environment and also have a built in social life. My father had a difficult adjustment due to his blindness, but my mother is thriving and taking advantage of the daily activities.