Can a loving relationship start with sex?

[JLagow]

Posted: 12/6/04 at 2:32pm

In other words, can you meet someone, be intimate the same night and have any chance at all to enter a long-term relationship?

I really need to know.

Thanks.

[jmaclover]

Posted: 12/6/04 at 2:33pm

yes,
<--- Exhibit A: My BF

[CATSNYrevival]

Posted: 12/6/04 at 2:33pm

oh, yes. very loving. for about an hour.

[NYadgal]

Posted: 12/6/04 at 2:34pm

Do you know his/her name?

[midtowngym]

Posted: 12/6/04 at 2:34pm

i'm not convinced he's your BF. This is the internet after all. Probably some pix you downloaded from another website.

[Rathnait62]

Posted: 12/6/04 at 2:35pm

JLa, I told you. Leave the keys under the mat and be gone when I get home!

[jmaclover]

Posted: 12/6/04 at 2:36pm

It was a drunken night - but it wasnt really sex.....

[broadway_star_tomorrow]

Posted: 12/6/04 at 2:37pm

Yes.

[jmaclover]

Posted: 12/6/04 at 2:38pm

I guess mine really isn't long term - though a few months is a long time for college!

[MargoChanning]

Posted: 12/6/04 at 2:38pm

Absolutely yes. A couple of my relationships started that way (including one that lasted almost two years).

[redhotinnyc2]

Posted: 12/6/04 at 2:43pm

without a doubt. Yes.

[South Fl Marc]

Posted: 12/6/04 at 2:47pm

I met a guy outside of a bar, fifteen minutes later we were in bed. In April, we celebrate our 20th anniversary together.

[robbiej]

Posted: 12/6/04 at 2:48pm

Of course!

Those who tell you otherwise are lying red-staters!

[jrb_actor]

Posted: 12/6/04 at 2:49pm

Yes--depends on the two people.

But, most of the time, your trick isn't going to be around for breakfast, much less an anniversary.

[robbiej]

Posted: 12/6/04 at 2:51pm

But, really, jrb...in 98% of the cases, do you want them sticking around?

Hell...I had to RUN when some guy started calling me his 'special treasure.'

Creepy.

[KMF_NYC]

Posted: 12/6/04 at 2:51pm

Living proof it does! I have found most relationships start when you have no intention of having one -- just out for fun and good time and then all the pretense is down....you fool around, think "Hmmm...he was fun" and hook up again....8 years later you are still having fun and can't imagine you life without him.

[SueleenGay]

Posted: 12/6/04 at 2:54pm

I say it depends on the prison you are in. Is it minimun security? High security? Did you meet in the shower or do you share a cell?

[jrb_actor]

Posted: 12/6/04 at 2:59pm

Robbie, I hear you. It's times like those that I literally run out of the hotel bathroom...

[JLagow]

Posted: 12/6/04 at 3:01pm

Your responses have been most helpful to me. I think it depends on all of the above - the type of person each person is, chemistry, intentions going into the situation, etc.

Again, thanks for your help.

[robbiej]

Posted: 12/6/04 at 3:06pm

jrb,

First, however, I like to do a little reenactment of the Sissy Spacek-washing-the-blood-off-herself-in-the-tub scene from CARRIE before I actually run.

I find it makes them very uncomfortable and I get in a nice hot bath!

[jrb_actor]

Posted: 12/6/04 at 3:09pm

I meant the one in the lobby...

[NYadgal]

Posted: 12/6/04 at 3:11pm

The bathroom with the attendant?

[robbiej]

Posted: 12/6/04 at 3:13pm

You have to stay out of the Paramount, jrb.

[CurtainUp2]

Posted: 12/6/04 at 3:27pm

Oh yes. Most indubitably!

[Marquise]

Posted: 12/6/04 at 3:34pm

Yes. I think so.
Not that I've ever had sex on the first date.
But it's possible.