#1
Posted: 3/5/05 at 10:04am
...two people at the same time?
Can a person be deeply, passionately in love with...
#2
Posted: 3/5/05 at 10:07am
I don't see a reason why they couldn't...
#3
Posted: 3/5/05 at 10:10am
but it sucks if you're one of the people he is in love with but refuse to be in that kind of arrangement.
#4
Posted: 3/5/05 at 10:17am
Yeah, I have two crushes. I guess you can say I'm deeply, passionately in love with them.
#5
Posted: 3/5/05 at 10:22am
Been there, done that. I finally had to be honest and admit that I wanted to have my cake and eat it too, no matter how much I tried to justify it. Somebody suffers in the end.
#6
Posted: 3/5/05 at 12:17pm
i've experienced it...from being the pivot to being an axis. It's hard, but it can work out.
Will: They don't give out awards for helping people be gay... unless you count the Tonys.
"I guarantee that we'll have tough
times. I guarantee that at some point
one or both of us will want to get out.
But I also guarantee that if I don't
ask you to be mine, I'll regret it for
the rest of my life..."
#7
Posted: 3/5/05 at 2:56pm
I've been having torrid affairs with both Patrick Wilson and Eric McCormack for some time. Neither seems to mind.
"Long live God!" (GODSPELL)
#8
Posted: 3/5/05 at 2:58pm
Same here, with Alec Baldwin and Ed Harris. It can get a little testy after a night of drinking, but I love a little testy.
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#9
Posted: 3/5/05 at 3:09pm
"I've been having torrid affairs with both Patrick Wilson and Eric McCormack for some time. Neither seems to mind."
Thank you so much Dollypop for taking a serious thread and turning it into a chance to make jokes. You too Namo. Real nice...
Thank you so much Dollypop for taking a serious thread and turning it into a chance to make jokes. You too Namo. Real nice...
#10
Posted: 3/5/05 at 3:13pm
Why do you think I'm joking?
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#11
Posted: 3/5/05 at 3:28pm
Sorry to add to your long-suffering suffering Albin, what I was going to originally post was that some people actually do manage to have successful triad relationships but that, like all relationships, they take a lot of work.
But by the time I had written that you had already put up your second post which showed that it wasn't something you were interested in pursuing. So what was the point in contributing to the thread? Was I going to write, "Oh, you should give it a try, Albin! Sometimes it works well!" when you already "refused" that arrangement?
So, near as I can tell, we were SUPPOSED to write something along the lines of, "Oh poor you, that's horrible." I just can't get upset when somebody is experiencing the love of another, even if the recipient has to reject it because it's not up to his standards.
But by the time I had written that you had already put up your second post which showed that it wasn't something you were interested in pursuing. So what was the point in contributing to the thread? Was I going to write, "Oh, you should give it a try, Albin! Sometimes it works well!" when you already "refused" that arrangement?
So, near as I can tell, we were SUPPOSED to write something along the lines of, "Oh poor you, that's horrible." I just can't get upset when somebody is experiencing the love of another, even if the recipient has to reject it because it's not up to his standards.
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#12
Posted: 3/5/05 at 3:42pm
Can a person be deeply, passionately in love with an idea... that's even worse...
#13
Posted: 3/5/05 at 3:58pm
Tell it to Ayn Rand.
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#14
Posted: 3/5/05 at 4:15pm
I think a person can be deeply in love with two people at once, but the "being passionately in love" is an abstract notion. The real question to ask is whether a person can maintain simultaneous, intense, loving relationships with two people.
I believe--from recent, bloody, painful experience--that three is always 2 + 1. That balance may be constantly shifting (that is the best scenario), but inevitably, an imbalance will become permanent.
Screaming and crying will ensue. Trust me.
I believe--from recent, bloody, painful experience--that three is always 2 + 1. That balance may be constantly shifting (that is the best scenario), but inevitably, an imbalance will become permanent.
Screaming and crying will ensue. Trust me.
"They have never understood, and no reason that they should.
But if anybody could . . . " --SS
#15
Posted: 3/5/05 at 4:40pm
Usually one of the people involved gets tired of the situation and bails. Been there done that!!!!!
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#16
Posted: 3/5/05 at 7:02pm
for a pictorial essay on the subject, try Howard Roffman's THREE. It seems to be working there, at least long enough for the pictures to be taken. And truly, folks, isn't quality sometimes worth a short quantity?
Will: They don't give out awards for helping people be gay... unless you count the Tonys.
"I guarantee that we'll have tough
times. I guarantee that at some point
one or both of us will want to get out.
But I also guarantee that if I don't
ask you to be mine, I'll regret it for
the rest of my life..."
#17
Posted: 3/6/05 at 10:26am
when a question like this arises, it's important to seek advice from those with experience...like the GOLDEN GIRLS:
rose: tell me, is it possible to love two men at the same time?
blanche: set the scene - have we been drinking?
rose: tell me, is it possible to love two men at the same time?
blanche: set the scene - have we been drinking?
#18
Posted: 3/6/05 at 10:40am
In matters of the heart such as this, always turn to Cole Porter, who spent his entire life deeply, passionately in love with two, three, four--indeed sometimes an entire corps de ballet...
===
WHAT SHALL I DO?
I've just read of Cleopatra
The glamorous empire shatt'rer
(Who to Caesar lost her heart as well as her head).
But that early Roman Nazi
Was so mean to his Cleopatsy,
That she fell in love with Marc Antony instead.
To worship two men in turn may be sublime,
But, oh, it's hell when you care for both at the same time.
What shall I do?
Just imagine what I'm going through:
I love not one, but two.
What shall I do?
I'm in a spot,
Cupid's given me a double shot,
So won't you tell me what--
As well as what NOT shall I do?
Two men appear,
Each a swell Apollo Belvedere,
Each one ideal,
But though I fairly itch to,
I don't know which to hitch to.
I can't marry both,
After all, this isn't Timbuctoo,
That's the reason I appeal to you, and you,
What shall I do?
===
WHAT SHALL I DO?
I've just read of Cleopatra
The glamorous empire shatt'rer
(Who to Caesar lost her heart as well as her head).
But that early Roman Nazi
Was so mean to his Cleopatsy,
That she fell in love with Marc Antony instead.
To worship two men in turn may be sublime,
But, oh, it's hell when you care for both at the same time.
What shall I do?
Just imagine what I'm going through:
I love not one, but two.
What shall I do?
I'm in a spot,
Cupid's given me a double shot,
So won't you tell me what--
As well as what NOT shall I do?
Two men appear,
Each a swell Apollo Belvedere,
Each one ideal,
But though I fairly itch to,
I don't know which to hitch to.
I can't marry both,
After all, this isn't Timbuctoo,
That's the reason I appeal to you, and you,
What shall I do?
#19
Posted: 3/6/05 at 10:44am
"To worship two men in turn may be sublime,
But, oh, it's hell when you care for both at the same time."
TESTIFY, sister. Testify.
But, oh, it's hell when you care for both at the same time."
TESTIFY, sister. Testify.
"They have never understood, and no reason that they should.
But if anybody could . . . " --SS
#20
Posted: 3/6/05 at 10:49am
Actually, I disagree with Mr. Porter on that score. I once worshiped two men at the same time and it was--
Well, never mind.
Well, never mind.
#21
Posted: 3/6/05 at 10:55am
never mind, indeed.
"They have never understood, and no reason that they should.
But if anybody could . . . " --SS
#22
Posted: 3/6/05 at 12:00pm
As the line goes from ON YOUR TOES:
Junior: Miss Porterfield, can a good man love two women at the same time.
Porterfield: If he's very good!
Miriam
Junior: Miss Porterfield, can a good man love two women at the same time.
Porterfield: If he's very good!
Miriam
Every movement has a meaning--but what the hell does it mean!
#23
Posted: 3/6/05 at 1:04pm
I wasn't looking for advice or pity Namo. Just some intelligent comments on the topic.
Updated On: 3/6/05 at 01:04 PM
#24
Posted: 3/6/05 at 6:35pm
you see it all the time on "the bachelor."
Be the change you wish to see in the world.
#25
Posted: 3/6/05 at 6:39pm
I am....im deeply, passionatley in love with 3 people! who cares if they've never met me or are married?
ok sorry that wasnt intelligent
ok sorry that wasnt intelligent
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