Can the Adults Please Smoke? Part 25: Accept no substitutes.- Page 140

[harris007]

Posted: 9/28/08 at 1:08am

Miss p just call me

[miss pennywise]

Posted: 9/28/08 at 1:19am

Will do, Harris.

Q, My heart is with you. In fact, while I thought about Mr. Newman and his family all day today, I was also thinking of you. He was such a phenomenal person, and I don't use the word "phenomenal" lightly. He was, simply, a beautiful person, inside and out.

Sorry for your pain.

[Q]

Posted: 9/28/08 at 1:25am

MissP - it does seem a little silly, as I certainly didn't know the man. BUT, I ended up investing some of the longing for a father-figure I had in his public persona - which honestly helped me through some difficult times.

*sigh*

I guess it's just ANOTHER sign that I still have so much to process and learn.

There isn't a 'graduation' from life, is there?

[miss pennywise]

Posted: 9/28/08 at 1:46am

I don't think it's silly at all, Q. I admire him so much, yet I know I will never be able to give back to this world all he did. He was a REAL human being -- flawed yet peerless.

He certainly made the world a better place by living in it and gave a lot of people -- including me -- hope.

[Q]

Posted: 9/28/08 at 2:01am

Thanks, MissP - that makes me feel a little less 'wacko'.

Although, there're so MANY things that make me 'wacko', I'm not sure assuaging one aspect accomplishes all that much

I did love him so, for so MANY reasons. His example taught me so much - and his life with Joanne is almost like a blueprint.

It's funny you mention the flaws. A failed marriage, the death of Scott which took the rug out from under him. And yet, it was his dealing with those situations - and open, honest and sincere effort to learn and grow - that taught me more than anything else.

And now I'm crying again. Dammit. I'm SUCH a sap.

I really DO wish for peace in the hearts of Joanne and the girls.

Joanne, who will always be one of my primary examples of how to live a life of grace, awareness, intent and promise.

[miss pennywise]

Posted: 9/28/08 at 2:18am

He was such an honest person, too. Here is a quote from The Hole in the Wall Camp website:

"I wish I could recall with clarity the impulse that compelled me to help bring this camp into being. I'd be pleased if I could announce a motive of lofty purpose. I've been accused of compassion, of altruism, of devotion to Christian, Hebrew, and Moslem ethic, but however desperate I am to claim ownership of a high ideal, I cannot. I wanted, I think, to acknowledge Luck; the chance of it, the benevolence of it in my life, and the brutality of it in the lives of others, made especially savage for children because they may not be allowed the good fortune of a lifetime to correct it." ~ Paul Newman

I'm sad as well, Q. As far as a "graduating from life" goes, all I can say is that if anyone did it, it was Paul Newman. And he earned a Ph.D.

[Q]

Posted: 9/28/08 at 2:23am

I read that quote earlier on their site, MissP. I was so glad they included it, as it showed the foundational character of the man, as we've been describing.

I know it's ridiculous, but I found myself earlier this evening wishing they would devote a special segment at next year's Oscars to him - not just have it be a part of the memorial segment. That sounds so crass and disrespectful to any others needing remembrance - but I think his existence and reality deserves special treatment.

Actually, what I'd really like is a prime-time retrospective of his life.

[miss pennywise]

Posted: 9/28/08 at 2:29am

The Oscars really should pay him a special tribute...for MANY, MANY reasons, the least of which is that he was one of the few icons of Hollywood left. And Elizabeth Taylor, who may be the LAST of the Hollywood icons, should lead the tribute.

[Q]

Posted: 9/28/08 at 2:36am

You know, MissP, that's EXACTLY what I was thinking

[miss pennywise]

Posted: 9/28/08 at 2:39am

Somewhere in all of this is a comment about "Ps and Qs"...but I'm too tired to think it up right now!

[Q]

Posted: 9/28/08 at 2:46am

It would, of course, involve the use of 'mind'

[miss pennywise]

Posted: 9/28/08 at 3:12am

And, naturally, more superlatives than there are stars in the sky!

[shira467]

Posted: 9/28/08 at 7:42am

@$#U%$%&%*I Morning.

[bdwaygirl]

Posted: 9/28/08 at 10:49am

Feeling pretty good so far this morning. Keeping my fingers crossed for the rest of the day.

Morning peoples!

[Q]

Posted: 9/28/08 at 10:51am

Enjoy the show, Girly!

[bdwaygirl]

Posted: 9/28/08 at 11:03am

I'm sure I will, Q. Thanks!

[shira467]

Posted: 9/28/08 at 1:17pm

Well, I'm busy cooking and cleaning (WHAT?!) for a mini Rosh Hashanah meal over here in Queens.

Like I said to my Mom "All who are hungry, come and eat - but on paper plates, I ain't doing dishes".

[soapguy17]

Posted: 9/28/08 at 1:19pm

Since when is rent being filmed live on broadway! Wha. . .Shrek, a musical? I've been gone for far to long.

[Unknown User]

Posted: 9/28/08 at 1:24pm

OY!

[shira467]

Posted: 9/28/08 at 1:44pm

Thanks, DGG :)

[Unknown User]

Posted: 9/28/08 at 1:56pm

HAHA! I dunno, it was my mood.

How's it going?

[shira467]

Posted: 9/28/08 at 2:33pm

I bought the chicken. Now I have to roast it. Which is why I also bought a chicken already roasted and cut up. Just in case.

[Unknown User]

Posted: 9/28/08 at 2:42pm

That's actually really funny!

I met my first republican the other day. Well, not first, but first one my age. I was sort of in shock.

[shira467]

Posted: 9/28/08 at 3:31pm

Whatever you do, DGG, don't date him. Or her, for that matter.

(Okay, what really happened was I bought one ready chicken, but JUST in case that's not enough, I bought another one to roast myself. I need to make sure there's enough food!)

[Unknown User]

Posted: 9/28/08 at 4:06pm

No worries, Shira.

But speaking of dating shes, I got asked out by a girl the other day. Funny stuff.