Dating question

Posted: 6/1/05 at 8:12pm

Who do you expect to pay for a date?

Personally, I think its whoever asks. If I ask somebody out, I'm going to pay.

I don't do the whole double dutch thing.

[jaded_october]

Posted: 6/1/05 at 8:17pm

if its a first date, i personally feel more comfortable splitting the check. i dont want someone i barely know (if thats the case) paying for me. and i dont want to pay for someone i barely know.

also, taking turns paying is nice. thats what i like to do, except alot of my ex boyfriends were *gentlemen* and they insisted that they pay. i dont know, i just dont like other people paying for me constantly.

also, i guess just in general it should be a rule that whoever asks, pays.

[LucilleAndLeoFrank]

Posted: 6/1/05 at 8:18pm

I have been seeing someone for six months now. We split it the first few dates, and now we alternate.

[shira467]

Posted: 6/1/05 at 8:19pm

I think that was one of the reasons I have an ex -- I wouldn't let him pay for everything. It's cause I'm a control freak.

[Link Larkin Wanabe]

Posted: 6/1/05 at 8:37pm

I would say for the first few dates until you are really comfertable with each other, then you go dutch. After that, is a different story.

Then again..I haven't been on a date in a LOOONG times, so maybe i am not the best person to listen to about these things.

Akiva

[Racetrack]

Posted: 6/1/05 at 8:54pm

Usually what my boyfriend and I do is alternate and sometimes double dutch. If it's a movie and then coffee double dutch and then coffee it's usually been me who pays. Although he likes to pay for the whole thing sometimes so there you go. I find double dutch the easiest.

[SallyBrown]

Posted: 6/1/05 at 8:56pm

nevermind sorry

Updated On: 6/1/05 at 08:56 PM

[CostumeMistress]

Posted: 6/1/05 at 9:52pm

Sweeties... "going dutch" means splitting the tab.

"Double Dutch" is a jump-rope game.

[Aigoo]

Posted: 6/1/05 at 10:33pm

I'm expensive. And spoiled to the core.

In the future, I expect my partner to pay for EVERYTHING.

[brdlwyr]

Posted: 6/1/05 at 10:36pm

My last date was 1987, since then I have paid for everything.

Posted: 6/1/05 at 10:48pm

Aigoo, you make me laugh.

[Aigoo]

Posted: 6/1/05 at 10:50pm

It's very true. I'm expensive.

[Jwei123]

Posted: 6/1/05 at 10:52pm

aigoo- me too

[KelRel]

Posted: 6/1/05 at 10:53pm

My situation was a little different I guess. My boyfriend(now husband) was in the army so he had to drive up to see me and get a hotel (I was in the dorms at the time) so he would pay for the hotel and I would pay for the movie or dinner. He would try to insist on paying for more stuff when we first started dating, but I didn't feel that it was fair for him to have to spend all that money on gas (Louisiana to Kentucky is a 12 hour drive), then a hotel to see me then add our dates on top of it. He finally gave in. Now that we are married it doesn't matter- it all comes from the same account.

[brdlwyr]

Posted: 6/1/05 at 10:57pm

KR - so true.....