Father's Note to Gay Son ( WARNING: Have a Box of Tissues Handy! )
Father's Note to Gay Son ( WARNING: Have a Box of Tissues Handy! )
#1Father's Note to Gay Son ( WARNING: Have a Box of Tissues Handy! )
Posted: 3/15/13 at 12:52pm
We Need to See More Stuff Like This.
http://www.joemygod.blogspot.com/2013/03/a-letter-from-dad.html#disqus_thread
'There are three sides to every story. My side, your side, and the truth. And no one is lying. Memories shared serve each one differently'
-Robert Evans-
#2Father's Note to Gay Son ( WARNING: Have a Box of Tissues Handy! )
Posted: 3/15/13 at 12:59pmAwesonme.
....but the world goes 'round
#2Father's Note to Gay Son ( WARNING: Have a Box of Tissues Handy! )
Posted: 3/15/13 at 1:04pmI love that guy.
"What can you expect from a bunch of seitan worshippers?" - Reginald Tresilian
#3Father's Note to Gay Son ( WARNING: Have a Box of Tissues Handy! )
Posted: 3/15/13 at 1:04pmtears...
#4Father's Note to Gay Son ( WARNING: Have a Box of Tissues Handy! )
Posted: 3/15/13 at 1:29pm
Sorry to say I call BS!
ETA: I believe this is a fabricated letter.
Those Blocked: SueStorm. N2N Nate. Good riddence to stupid! Rad-Z, shill begone!
Updated On: 3/15/13 at 01:29 PM
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#5Father's Note to Gay Son ( WARNING: Have a Box of Tissues Handy! )
Posted: 3/15/13 at 2:29pm
This is so lovely and it's exactly how all parents/humans should react. Why do we still care? Why do we still make excuses for homo/transphobia? We don't make excuses for racism; it's just plan wrong. So, why isn't homo/transphobia just wrong.
I'm so sick and tired of people making excuses, "people are entitled to their opinions," "they were raised religious," blah, blah, blah.
Anyway, I digress; this letter is just beautiful.
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#6Father's Note to Gay Son ( WARNING: Have a Box of Tissues Handy! )
Posted: 3/15/13 at 2:34pm
Me too, snafu.
Dear vulnerable readers,
I love you no matter what and want you to project your wishes for the supporive father you never had right onto this Post-It note.
Love,
Dad
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Updated On: 3/15/13 at 02:34 PM
#7Father's Note to Gay Son ( WARNING: Have a Box of Tissues Handy! )
Posted: 3/15/13 at 3:00pmYeah, I hate to be cynical about something like this, but it seems fake to me as well. Partly because--haven't there been a couple very very similar letters similarly published on various blogs over the past few years? (Regardless, it is sweet and obviously I wish most parents reacted this way, although as a teen I would be more annoyed that my dad addressed the fact I was gay and had a, he assumes, boyfriend as being on the same level as remebering to bring home OJ--not that my parents ever asked me to pick up groceries on the way home from school. Are you really "out" to someone if they only assume you came out by overhearing a phone call? No matter as I doubt it's real.)
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#8Father's Note to Gay Son ( WARNING: Have a Box of Tissues Handy! )
Posted: 3/15/13 at 3:06pm
I'm psyched it comes with a 10% off coupon for NOH8 merchandise.
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Updated On: 3/15/13 at 03:06 PM
#9Father's Note to Gay Son ( WARNING: Have a Box of Tissues Handy! )
Posted: 3/15/13 at 3:14pmThat's another thing I don't get. Who took the pic and sent it to them? The dad? The son? And if he overheard his son was planning on coming out to his parents--why not allow him, to use an overused Oprah term, that moment? I mean sure, you can make it clear that you're accepting, but it just strikes me as annoying (yes I obviously have issues) that instead the dad stuck this "Ha I already knew, and your boyfriend's cute and I want more bread and OJ" letter under his door, or whatever, instead of letting him tell him as he was planning.
#10Father's Note to Gay Son ( WARNING: Have a Box of Tissues Handy! )
Posted: 3/15/13 at 3:15pm
Well, I'd certainly like it to be true. Who knows?
A friend of my posted it, along with this story of her own dad:
"This reminds me of my great father, who, while scrubbing breakfast dishes, turned to a very nervous 18-year old me, my heart swollen with secrets, and said, 'You know it's okay to be gay in this household, right?'"
So let's at least take heart that some parents are in fact capable of behaving this way.
#11Father's Note to Gay Son ( WARNING: Have a Box of Tissues Handy! )
Posted: 3/15/13 at 3:19pmEric, maybe the dad sensed the son was frightened, as my friend was, and wanted to relieve the anxiety. (Again, assuming it's true.)
#12Father's Note to Gay Son ( WARNING: Have a Box of Tissues Handy! )
Posted: 3/15/13 at 3:24pmI never came out to my parents, they just knew and mentioned it very casually to me as well. Not in a letter that I could publish online but in person. It happens, but there seems to be a new one of these popping up every other day so I'm skeptical.
#13Father's Note to Gay Son ( WARNING: Have a Box of Tissues Handy! )
Posted: 3/15/13 at 3:29pm
It may be a lie, but it's a useful one.
I see my straight friends of all political persuasions reposting it and 'liking' it and it makes me believe that that is the parent they'd like to be. It's like when I was 13 and saw A CHORUS LINE and my mom sat next to me and cried during Paul's monologue and I thought, 'It's going to be ok.'
#14Father's Note to Gay Son ( WARNING: Have a Box of Tissues Handy! )
Posted: 3/15/13 at 3:33pmIf it is a fake, I'd like to know.It's been posted on several other sites today but in reading some comments, others think it may be fake as well. If so, then it is sad.
'There are three sides to every story. My side, your side, and the truth. And no one is lying. Memories shared serve each one differently'
-Robert Evans-
#15Father's Note to Gay Son ( WARNING: Have a Box of Tissues Handy! )
Posted: 3/15/13 at 3:34pm
Reginald--that's more than a fair point, and I think I kinda overeacted (shocking for me, I know.) I never really came out to my parents--my mom tracked me down one weekend when I took off with a guy after my girlfriend had called her worried (oh the drama,) and then at some point I guess had told my dad who, one day just turned to me and said "So I hear you're gay--I hope you know that that's fine."
So yeah, I hope more parents react this way (and I suspect more do, and even more will.) I feel awful and grouchy for feeling a bit of an eyeroll when I read about how many people shed tears from just reading this letter, but it's obviously a good thing and not a bad thing. As JC said, I think in this case it's just that I swear I've read similar letters (complete with similar "jokes" showing just how cool the dad is) more than a few times in the past year on blogs. (The one that comes to mind is the dad who wrote a much longer letter, but one with much the same tone to his son and then he, *himself* sent it to one of the blogs in a sorta a way that seemed to want to cause people to pat him on the back and say how cool he is, just as much as it seemed to want to show that parents should be cool about this and it shouldn't be the issue it is.)
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#16Father's Note to Gay Son ( WARNING: Have a Box of Tissues Handy! )
Posted: 3/15/13 at 3:36pmNo it's not sad. Every culture needs its myths. They serve a vital function.
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#17Father's Note to Gay Son ( WARNING: Have a Box of Tissues Handy! )
Posted: 3/15/13 at 3:40pm
Fake or not, it's still sweet. It's not like some crazy bitch starting carving letters backwards in her own face or anything.
"What can you expect from a bunch of seitan worshippers?" - Reginald Tresilian
Updated On: 3/15/13 at 03:40 PM
#18Father's Note to Gay Son ( WARNING: Have a Box of Tissues Handy! )
Posted: 3/15/13 at 4:35pm
A kid in my office posted the letter on his facebook and got this response from his stepfather...
Art has a double face, of expression and illusion.
#19Father's Note to Gay Son ( WARNING: Have a Box of Tissues Handy! )
Posted: 3/15/13 at 4:43pmIt never ceases to amaze me that so many straight people think they don't advertise their sexual orientation.
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#20Father's Note to Gay Son ( WARNING: Have a Box of Tissues Handy! )
Posted: 3/15/13 at 4:44pm
"Be proud of who you are! Just shut up about it! Forget the haters! Your posting stuff kinda embarrasses me! Don't mind the people who don't accept you! Now go take a selfie with you and Kate Upton's SI cover! No duckface! Love ya, kid!"
Updated On: 3/15/13 at 04:44 PM
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#21Father's Note to Gay Son ( WARNING: Have a Box of Tissues Handy! )
Posted: 3/15/13 at 4:49pmHell, I posted a quote from The Proposal on Facebook a couple of years ago, and my dad and step-mom thought I was a lesbian because of it.
#22Father's Note to Gay Son ( WARNING: Have a Box of Tissues Handy! )
Posted: 3/15/13 at 4:51pm
Arts--brilliant reply to your co-worker on FB.
When people react that way, the only thing I can think of is gay panic. Or they're truly just stupid. Posting a link to something gay positive--or whatever--is hardly advertising your gay-ness than posting a link or about anything in life is "advertisting" that and showing you to be insecure.
#23Father's Note to Gay Son ( WARNING: Have a Box of Tissues Handy! )
Posted: 3/15/13 at 6:30pm
Forty years ago, the deeply religious, Republican grandfather who raised me was told I was gay. He reportedly shrugged and replied, "Well, Gaveston's always been a good kid. If he says he's gay, it must not be such a bad thing."
So this letter may be fake. But the spirit it represents is not even new.
#24Father's Note to Gay Son ( WARNING: Have a Box of Tissues Handy! )
Posted: 3/15/13 at 6:52pmI teared-up at SonofRobbies' post-that was more genuinely emotional[to me].Thank you--it hit a spot and the tears are still there.
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