For Those Who Feel The Need To Share All of Their Banal Details Part 3- Page 117

[orangeskittles]

Posted: 6/27/06 at 8:59pm

My boyfriend was from Nigeria and he told me that people that were born in African countries hate the term "African American" because the people it refers to aren't really African. And THEY hate to be referred to as African Americans because they're not American. It's complicated. Basically, they have issues with people claiming allegiance to the entire continent instead of respecting the individual cultures/nationalities.

[SweetQintheLights]

Posted: 6/27/06 at 9:03pm

Does he prefer "black?"

Whether you (personally) are from Africa or not, you are OF African decent.

[dancingthrulife04]

Posted: 6/27/06 at 9:03pm

*collapses*

[orangeskittles]

Posted: 6/27/06 at 9:13pm

Technically, he preferred Nigerian, but if he were discussing ethnicity, he would use black.

Just because some of your ancestors were from a certain contintent doesn't mean that you should always have to refer to it as an idenfitying term. I mean, you don't check off a "European American" box.

Then again, I had a friend who was technically of Eastern European descent and Jewish, but he was born in Egpyt, then moved to America and became a US citizen. He would check off "African American" on boxes, because it *was* the most accurate statement for him, even if he didn't "look" African American. Ethnicity terms in themselves are marginalizing and it's getting more and more complicated as the population becomes more intermixed. There's no reason why anyone should have to check a single box to describe something that complicated.

Updated On: 6/27/06 at 09:13 PM

[soapguy17]

Posted: 6/27/06 at 9:16pm

Anyone watching Kathy?

[dancingthrulife04]

Posted: 6/27/06 at 9:18pm

No. The TV's in the other room.

[SweetQintheLights]

Posted: 6/27/06 at 9:28pm

I just spent 15 minutes looking for the bowl I usually make soup in. I don't know what made me open the fridge after 15 but there was the bowl- with grapes in it.

So I put the soup in a different bowl and put it in the microwave and started laughing. I just thought of soapguy saying how he thinks he broke his face. sorry, that was amusing though.

So, soapguy, did you actaully make it out of the handcuffs?

[gavrochegirl]

Posted: 6/27/06 at 9:35pm

My mom's ex-boyfriend and I talked today on YIM. It was very brief, but he thought it was my mom. :P

[insomniak]

Posted: 6/27/06 at 10:02pm

skittles, that's really quite interesting. Has your friend from Eygpt ever been told that he couldn't check that box, didn't qualify for an African-American scholarship, ect?

When I was little and in elementary school, I had a friend who was born in Kenya because her parents were missonaries there. She's white. Though I lost touch with her a long time ago, I've always wondered if she gets to count herself as African-American on applications for scholarships or whatnot. She was born there, but she didn't STAY there, though she had gone back several times.

[Dancinqueen123]

Posted: 6/27/06 at 10:07pm

Q-I just tried the handcuff thing and I did it! Maybe most criminals just aren't that flexible.

[xoxRogue]

Posted: 6/27/06 at 10:13pm

I can't. My hands start to spread too far apart to be in handcuffs...at least the ones my dad has.

[SweetQintheLights]

Posted: 6/27/06 at 10:15pm

"Q-I just tried the handcuff thing and I did it! Maybe most criminals just aren't that flexible."



On Shiloh's birth certificate I assume it says Africa.
I wonder if she'll have issues with getting her passport and going out of the country..etc...

[SweetQintheLights]

Posted: 6/27/06 at 10:15pm

xoxRogue- do I want to know why your dad has handcuffs?

[orangeskittles]

Posted: 6/27/06 at 10:28pm

Interestingly enough, I was in an African American language class last year and I brought this story up and the entire class- many of them black- agreed that he had just as much right to check off that box as any of them did. That was my whole point before; there's no reason why ethnicity should be asked on forms, etc. because the information is just used for purposes of further marginalizing minorities.

SweetQ, Shiloh is a US citizen, so I don't see why she would have a problem with that.

[xoxRogue]

Posted: 6/27/06 at 10:42pm

xoxRogue- do I want to know why your dad has handcuffs?

He's a policeman.

[To The Stage!]

Posted: 6/27/06 at 10:43pm

I was eating so healthy all day, and now i'm eating a Ben & Jerry's ice cream bar. =/

[SweetQintheLights]

Posted: 6/27/06 at 10:45pm

"xoxRogue- do I want to know why your dad has handcuffs?

He's a policeman."


oh! Interesting.

*runs away as not to get self in hot water with xox's daddy!*

Updated On: 6/27/06 at 10:45 PM

[Dancinqueen123]

Posted: 6/27/06 at 10:47pm

I've been helping out this past week at my church for Vacation Bible School. I teach a kindergarten class and it's a nightmare! The kids are so wild, but they're also very cute. One girl won't go anywhere if she can't hold my hand when we go.

I'm so exhausted right now, but I don't want to go to bed.

[xoxRogue]

Posted: 6/27/06 at 10:47pm

Haha. What's kind of sad is that my dad and I have the same sense of humor, and we would have made the same joke if we read that.

Of course, when I'm with him and he sees other policemen, he calls them pigs. And then I snort like one. We're an interesting pair.

[xM3L24x]

Posted: 6/27/06 at 10:47pm

Tomorrow I'm going into NYC for the first time without a parent .

[xoxRogue]

Posted: 6/27/06 at 10:49pm

Ooo fun!

[SweetQintheLights]

Posted: 6/27/06 at 10:50pm

xox- sounds quite interesting. Why does he call other officers pigs if he is one himself. Wait, that sounded wrong...lol

Did you tell him the reason why you needed to borrow his handcuffs? Was he one of the "POLICE HONORED FOR FINDING PENIS?"

[xoxRogue]

Posted: 6/27/06 at 10:57pm

I don't know why he does it. I've asked him that question myself.

I just...took them. I made sure I knew where the key was and that it worked. I'm not even sure if he was paying attention when I took them and put them back.

And for the last question, no. Haha

How ironic is it that the title for the newest news is "Pig farm"?

Updated On: 6/27/06 at 10:57 PM

[SweetQintheLights]

Posted: 6/27/06 at 11:01pm

xox- you obviously had to use the key to get out of the handcuffs- right? lol

Please don't tell me he leaves the gun lying around. I've heard so many horror stories.

[luvtheEmcee]

Posted: 6/27/06 at 11:02pm

Today was unjustly crappy.