For those that are homosexual...

I will answer your question easily after you tell me why you're straight.

Well, I haven't really been able to "explore" both sexes. I'm not really looking for any sort of relationship right now. But frankly, I think I may be bisexual. I could, could not be for all I know. I see no difference except in body parts. I've seen some of the "girlest" men and some very masculine women. We really are flirting with the line that separates the genders. So I can't really give you an exact reason why I'm straight. Most logical reason is that I was raised in an "all-straight" family.

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That's what I want to know. Was it a force of nature? Or a decision you made by yourself one day: "Screw men, I love women!" or vice versa. I'm sure it's a different circumstance for all people.

It might be, Tiff, that being gay comes from socialization. That could be a really big influence. That could be the "your decision" part. From socialization, you decide to yourself that relationships with the opposite sex might be much easier.

I can't seem to find the thread that jacobsf had created. Do you happen to remember the title?

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From socialization though, do you think that some people repress their homosexual feelings because it's easier to get through like being straight, or do you think that socialization actually convinces a person that they are purely heterosexual?

I don't remember the name of the thread that jacobsf started - try putting his name into the OT search, and have the end day as December 1, 2004, because I'm pretty sure it was before then.

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Well, now that I've read some answers, Tiff, I'm starting to believe that homosexuality is simply sort of a force that you can't stop. I'm really tired, and I have to play stupid Gerswhin tomorrow morning, so I'll...continue this tomorrow. I really can't think with all these damn birds chirping. Usually they start at 4, but I guess they just really wanted to piss me off this morning.

ETA before I turn-in: If anyone would rather PM me with their responses rather than post on this thread, feel free to do that too. Oh, my god. I can't put up with this. Good night BWW.

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Updated On: 6/27/05 at 04:19 AM

As MusicMan said, sexual preference is not a choice. Sexual activity is.

https://forum.broadwayworld.com/readmessage.cfm?page=2&thread=458152&startthread=458265&boardname=off


I don't know what I'm trying to say really...but I have some big plans, and I don't really want to make any life-changing decisions unless I know all the facts. Being unexperienced, I don't really want to think about all these ideas unless I have some big picture of the whole thing. I'm hardly a person you could call very "savvy" on sexual orientation...but I'm really willing to learn. And I've got a few accounts, but it'd be a lot more reliable if I had more than one to base off my ideas off of.

I also read Jacob's thread...there were some interesting notions up in there, I particularly connected well with Plum's post on Nature VS Nurture. Hang on...my mind is still in the middle of starting up.

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Aigoo - I'm not really understanding here. You make it sound like you're getting ready to take a test! I'm not sure it's really all that complicated. You just pay attention to what is turning you on and go from there.

Being a homosexual or a bisexual or a heterosexual is not something that you can choose or be convinced out of. You either are or aren't.

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That's really what I wanted to know...I just..wanted to learn more, I guess.

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Sometimes you have to follow what your heart says and completely throw out what your mind says.
It's difficult, but I hope I can speak for homosexuals when I say that once you do, it's freeing. Maybe not at first, but it gets better and better.

DGrant, you are my twin seperated at birth. You took the words right out of my mouth.......except that I have had sex with 2 women many, many years ago, and I have to say with one it was terrific.

But I have to say, I agree with cturtle, in that I feel I was born gay. I knew when I was extremely young that I was attracted to men, although I doubt I knew what that meant at the time. I mean when you are 8 years old, and chasing a stud friend of your brothers around the house with a camera, you figure something is up.

My closest friends have always been women, and now that I think about it it may be because women (usually) are very open about their thoughts and feelings, where (most) straight men are not. And I have found that (most) gay men are only concerned with sex, sex, and more sex, and there is so much more to life than that.
The person I call my best male friend lives in Phoenix, and we see him maybe twice a year, and whenever we do, he acts like it's still 1985 and we're still both single and living in Chicago...(hence all he wants to talk about is sex that he is having with other people, and the old sex days).....it really ticks me off as I am not the same person I was 21 years ago (nor is he) and I'd really like an adult relationship with him.

So, to make a long story short, DGrant...I can totally relate to what you are saying.

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I think Aigoo was coming from an honest place when she started this thread. I don't get why some posters got defensive and responded that way. Not cool.

Aigoo,I can only speak for myself but I truly believe I was just born this way. It was always there. Whether I chose to acknowledge it or not at different stages of my life is another story. But I can honestly say that right now I embrace my homosexuality whole heartedly.

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