Gay Couples Adopting Children?
Gay Couples Adopting Children?
#0Gay Couples Adopting Children?
Posted: 5/24/06 at 7:01pmI know this is a long way off for me, we only got committed Saturday. How are you guys handling the remarks from other kids ect, ect? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
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Posted: 5/24/06 at 7:06pmDanny, I don't understand your post. Are you and your pertner thinking about adopting?
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Posted: 5/24/06 at 7:09pm
I wonder chita if a "pertner" is a pert partner? heh heh
and I think they are thinking of adopting.......
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Posted: 5/24/06 at 7:37pmDanny, are you perchance a Virgo?
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Posted: 5/24/06 at 7:49pm
That's surprising...
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Posted: 5/24/06 at 7:49pmit's BAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAACK
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Posted: 5/24/06 at 7:50pmOy.
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Posted: 5/24/06 at 8:05pm"...just when you thought it was safe..."
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Posted: 5/24/06 at 8:46pmhey jesus go f&(*&k yourself and go back to your trailer park.
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Posted: 5/24/06 at 9:06pmJesusUnlimited--thats funny i just saw the same screen name on dateline to catch a predator....
SweetQintheLights
Broadway Legend Joined: 6/12/05
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Posted: 5/24/06 at 9:10pmLiam! Where have you been?! We've missed you!
ShbrtAlley44
Broadway Legend Joined: 8/1/03
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Posted: 5/24/06 at 9:13pmI don't mean to sound rude, I really don't ,but It's a serious question. I really want to raise a child ,but I refuse to do it at the child's expense.
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Posted: 5/24/06 at 9:13pm
I googled the spelling :)
i have kinda been on but not as much--you can always PM me or Email me! :)
ShbrtAlley44
Broadway Legend Joined: 8/1/03
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Posted: 5/24/06 at 9:15pmAt the child's expense? What would be at the child's expense?
SweetQintheLights
Broadway Legend Joined: 6/12/05
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Posted: 5/24/06 at 9:16pm
Liam- I am happy to see that your spelling has drastically improved! I'm sure Dolly is proud!!
Ya know, some of these past and recent threads could have used your input. You should check in more often.
Sorry- back onto topic at hand.
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Posted: 5/24/06 at 9:27pm
Q, I just used the search engine and I didn't find anything helpful on the topic. I know their probably on the board somewhere, but I can't find them using the search engine. If you find anything I'd love for you to post me a link. A few others sites have been helpful also.
ETA: jrb. I live in the Bible belt area. As much as I KNOW the logical thing to do would be to move, I really don't think I should leave my family. My family has changed churches twice due to harassment and my older brother has stopped talking to me completely.
Edit: Elphie; if that was a serious question I'm a Gemini.
Updated On: 5/24/06 at 09:27 PM
Kringas
Broadway Legend Joined: 5/27/05
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Posted: 5/24/06 at 9:28pm
At the child's expense? What would be at the child's expense?
I know you weren't asking me, but I think I kind of see where he's coming from. I think it's something that any gay person who is considering becoming a person should ask of himself, because while childhood isn't easy for most to begin with, being the child of gay parents is going to open that child up to whole host of other BS other kids don't have to deal with.
That doesn't mean that gays shouldn't be parents. I think we have every right that straight people do in that department. I just know that if and when I decide to become one, I'm going to have to prepared for the inevitable day where the child resents me for choosing to put him in that situation. Of course, it will probably be an adolescent resentment that will be but a memory once the child reaches adulthood.
But really, this is just one thing among many that anyone should consider whether or not they'd like to be a parent. As gay people, we have the luxury of being pretty sure we're not going to be surprised by an unplanned pregnancy that we had a hand in.
Dannyboy, I can't recall any posters on this board who have spoken about being gay parents, so this might not the best place to begin your research. There must be a support group of some sort out there for gay parents. Perhaps you could contact one. They'll have information to share and could possibly put you in contact with gay people who are already parents.
Edited to add: DannyBoy, you might want to try this link.
Partners Task Force for Gay & Lesbian Couples
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#21re: Gay Couples Adopting Children?
Posted: 5/24/06 at 9:32pmI think the first thing to do is find out if same-sex couples can adopt in your state.
stonewall2
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Posted: 5/24/06 at 9:34pm
DannyBoy, if you accepted PM's (although, with some of the crazies on here, I guess I can understand WHY you don't!), I would be glad to converse with you. My partner and I are raising kids-although they are biological ones, but I know couples who have adopted. You can contact me if you wish...
By the way- CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!
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Posted: 5/24/06 at 9:35pm
Where do you live? Can't you move to a big city near your family? I grew up in a 20,000 person city where if you were gay, you went to the Methodist church and could find tolerance. If things were bad, you could move 45min - an hour away in Houston where you would likely find a safe place to be gay parents. There are options. And, do you have to fight sometimes? Yes.
Poor parents, single parents, interracial parents, parents with disabilities, mixed religion parents, etc all have to face being different.
And no one is causing harm to that child except the bigots who need to behave like true Christians.
Kringas
Broadway Legend Joined: 5/27/05
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Posted: 5/24/06 at 9:38pm
I completely agree, jrb. I think there are a lot of factors to consider when one chooses to have children (gay or straight), up to and including why you actually want to have children in the first place?
I realize it's tough for everyone. I'm not saying being the child of gay parents is any easier or harder than any other road a kid might travel.
As a gay man who ponders the notion of raising children, I do worry that someday the child might resent me for putting him in that position. If I keep that in the back of my head, there's a chance I'll have a good answer for him should that day ever arrive.
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