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Girls at a bachelor party?
#25girls at a bachelor party?
Posted: 7/18/08 at 11:38amthank you, taz.
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pray to st. jude
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he was the gimmicky sort
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#26girls at a bachelor party?
Posted: 7/18/08 at 11:38am
Not at all - Caitie knows all about this.
The issue isn't about trust at all - in fact, Caitie and I are 100% in agreement about this. The issue is that the brother and my other friend had told me all along this was four guys hanging out for the night. Caitie was coming along and planned to stay in the hotel - she was perfectly content with that, wanted me to go out and have fun. No issues at all. Now, knowing full well that she's there with me, the brother invited these other girls to go. Going out for a night with the guys isn't a big deal. Going out in a situation where Caitie could have been invited and was ignored while I go out with other girls -- that's an entirely different story. This is not an issue of Caitie and I trusting or communicating with each other in the least.
#27girls at a bachelor party?
Posted: 7/18/08 at 11:43amno it's another clear sign that you have no balls. none. not even a little teeny bb of a ball.
...global warming can manifest itself as heat, cool, precipitation, storms, drought, wind, or any other phenomenon, much like a shapeshifter. -- jim geraghty
pray to st. jude
i'm a sonic reducer
he was the gimmicky sort
fenchurch=mejusthavingfun=magwildwood=mmousefan=bkcollector=bradmajors=somethingtotalkabout: the fenchurch mpd collective
#28girls at a bachelor party?
Posted: 7/18/08 at 11:43am
Geez, talk about making a mountain out of a molehill.
Go to the freaking party. Have fun. If one of the girls makes advances toward you, just tell them you have a girlfriend. Then continue to have fun.
You are making drama just to make drama. If you have a problem with hanging out with members of the opposite sex, then the issue isn't with the brother who invited the girls.
Nothing can happen between you and one of the girls unless you want it to or unless you get so trashed your judgement becomes impaired. But its all up to you.
So just freaking go and have fun and stop whining about it. And if you're going to whine about it the whole night, don't go and spare the rest of the people the headache.
The opposite of creation isn't war, it's stagnation.
#30girls at a bachelor party?
Posted: 7/18/08 at 11:45amand the stars aligned for the one moment when stickie and i agreed.
...global warming can manifest itself as heat, cool, precipitation, storms, drought, wind, or any other phenomenon, much like a shapeshifter. -- jim geraghty
pray to st. jude
i'm a sonic reducer
he was the gimmicky sort
fenchurch=mejusthavingfun=magwildwood=mmousefan=bkcollector=bradmajors=somethingtotalkabout: the fenchurch mpd collective
#31girls at a bachelor party?
Posted: 7/18/08 at 11:54am
Oh, I dunno papa, I think you and I agree on more things than you think.
It's just at times we've both been very vocal about our sides of various disagreements.
The opposite of creation isn't war, it's stagnation.
StockardFan
Broadway Legend Joined: 6/19/08
#32girls at a bachelor party?
Posted: 7/18/08 at 11:56amIf it's just a friendly thing anyway, why can't you just call the brother and explain that since Catie is there in town, can she come too?
#33girls at a bachelor party?
Posted: 7/18/08 at 11:59amTried that - the brother's an a**hole - always has been. Even my friend thinks his brother is an a**hole.
StockardFan
Broadway Legend Joined: 6/19/08
#34girls at a bachelor party?
Posted: 7/18/08 at 12:03pm
Well that sucks.
In that case, just go and try to enjoy yourself, don't drink too much, and cut out when you feel it's acceptable to leave.
#35girls at a bachelor party?
Posted: 7/18/08 at 12:25pmI think you should print this thread out for your students to confirm for them what they probably already suspect about your lack of qualifications to be teaching them anything.
#36girls at a bachelor party?
Posted: 7/18/08 at 12:26pmjasonf: bringing together republicans and democrats on bww since 2007.
...global warming can manifest itself as heat, cool, precipitation, storms, drought, wind, or any other phenomenon, much like a shapeshifter. -- jim geraghty
pray to st. jude
i'm a sonic reducer
he was the gimmicky sort
fenchurch=mejusthavingfun=magwildwood=mmousefan=bkcollector=bradmajors=somethingtotalkabout: the fenchurch mpd collective
DG
Broadway Legend Joined: 11/2/05
#37girls at a bachelor party?
Posted: 7/18/08 at 12:34pm
I agree with Priest most of the time - but especially with that post.
These people all deserve each other.
blueroses
Broadway Legend Joined: 10/18/04
#38girls at a bachelor party?
Posted: 7/18/08 at 2:08pm
"Now, knowing full well that she's there with me, the brother invited these other girls to go. Going out for a night with the guys isn't a big deal. Going out in a situation where Caitie could have been invited and was ignored while I go out with other girls -- that's an entirely different story."
I don't get why it's a different story. It's about HIM, celebrating with his friends--four of which happen to be women. It's not about making concessions to make you happy or comfortable.
"If it's just a friendly thing anyway, why can't you just call the brother and explain that since Catie is there in town, can she come too?"
Why does he have to bother them with that? She's not a kid, and if what Jason said is true--that his girlfriend is okay with relaxing back at the hotel, he should just go hang out and celebrate with his friend for a few hours (without saying a freaking word about the situation). There's really no need for drama.
Updated On: 7/18/08 at 02:08 PM
#39girls at a bachelor party?
Posted: 7/18/08 at 2:19pm
Going out in a situation where Caitie could have been invited and was ignored while I go out with other girls -- that's an entirely different story.
I can see how inviting your girlfriend would change the dynamic of things. My partner and I are flying to LA for his college friend's wedding. There's a bachelor party. Yet I'm not invited, nor do I want to go. I'm taking the night to do my own thing, which is ok by me. Even when I'm going all the way to LA for this event.
Don't be so sensitive about "but he didn't invite my girlfriend" scenario.
Experience is what you get when you didn't get what you wanted. - Randy Pausch
#40girls at a bachelor party?
Posted: 7/18/08 at 2:26pmblueroses - that's a good question, and there is an answer to it. The groom had at one time suggested inviting "girls" along. My interpretation of that from when I talked to him was to have OUR girls along. Right or not for a bachelor party, that's beside the point. He doesn't know about the girls, and honestly, knowing him, I think HE'LL feel bad when he finds out who was and wasn't invited in this circumstance. Obviously no one wants that for his bachelor party. So the simple solution was to not have the girls along. Maybe I'm old fashioned in that way, but I don't think girls SHOULD be along. My other friend who's involved was even questioning that. The brother wants the possibility of a strip club -- neither me nor the other friend want that if the girls are there - so it's one or the other. If we're going to tame it down by having the girls, then invite OUR girls. That's all.
#41girls at a bachelor party?
Posted: 7/18/08 at 2:33pmMaybe the 4 chicks ARE the strippers.
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Ad te suspiramus, gementes et flentes
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#42girls at a bachelor party?
Posted: 7/18/08 at 2:38pm
*throws in white towel*
I certainly hope we (gays and lesbians) come up with some better rituals prior to getting married.
Experience is what you get when you didn't get what you wanted. - Randy Pausch
#43girls at a bachelor party?
Posted: 7/18/08 at 2:43pm
Perhaps they'd prefer paper towels, DD.
Vita, dulcedo, et spes nostra
Salve, Salve Regina
Ad te clamamus exsules filii Eva
Ad te suspiramus, gementes et flentes
O clemens O pia
#44girls at a bachelor party?
Posted: 7/18/08 at 2:45pmyeah, cuz girls would never go to a strip club.
...global warming can manifest itself as heat, cool, precipitation, storms, drought, wind, or any other phenomenon, much like a shapeshifter. -- jim geraghty
pray to st. jude
i'm a sonic reducer
he was the gimmicky sort
fenchurch=mejusthavingfun=magwildwood=mmousefan=bkcollector=bradmajors=somethingtotalkabout: the fenchurch mpd collective
#45girls at a bachelor party?
Posted: 7/18/08 at 2:48pmI actually ordered a stripper for a party tomorrow night. Good thing I'm not engaged.
#46girls at a bachelor party?
Posted: 7/18/08 at 2:53pmBut did you invite your girlfriend?
Experience is what you get when you didn't get what you wanted. - Randy Pausch
#47girls at a bachelor party?
Posted: 7/18/08 at 2:54pmI invited all my girlfriends. And their boyfriends.
DG
Broadway Legend Joined: 11/2/05
#48girls at a bachelor party?
Posted: 7/18/08 at 2:58pm
"I'm taking the night to do my own thing, which is ok by me"
It's ok by ME, too! 
#49girls at a bachelor party?
Posted: 7/18/08 at 3:16pm
Goodness Jason, grow up. I have gone through a very similar situation on both sides. Times where I was "left behind" and when I left my husband "behind". We're adults, we accept that we each have our own lives and we go on about our business. The time I was left behind I was grateful! I'd been surrounded by people I barely knew and was a bit overwhelmed with the whole event and trying to remember who was who and what not so I went back to the room, took a nap then read a book that I'd been trying to find time to read. My husband went out, had fun and then came home to me and everything was fine. When I went out and he stayed behind he went out and did his own thing for a while.
ETA- Thread jack: DD, do me a favor and give DG a HUGE hug for me and DG give DD one for me too. 
I don't mean to sound harsh about the "grow up" thing, but really you need to relax and realize that Caitie trusts you and that if you are THIS upset about it then you need to stay home from the party for your own sake, not hers. I applaud your concern for her and her feelings, but if she has said that she is fine with it, even knowing that there will be girls there then go. In the end if she gets upset for it then she only has herself to blame because you have been upfront about everything and she should have told you the truth about how she felt before you went. She shouldn't have played a game with you. I don't think that she is doing that. She is being mature about this and is encouraging you to go be with your friend so go and do it and stop complaining or if you really are worried about it then don't go. Simple as that.
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